109 lines
4.0 KiB
Plaintext
109 lines
4.0 KiB
Plaintext
WHAT IT IS TO BE A GIRL IN AN ANARCHIST BOYS CLUB
|
|
|
|
From "Alphabet Threat"
|
|
|
|
% You act as if you think nothing will get done if you don't do it.
|
|
|
|
% I don't trust physicality that you initiate BUT at the same time I want
|
|
all of us to be more physical-playful-affectionate with each other.
|
|
|
|
% I can and do defend myself against all sorts of verbal attacks until it is
|
|
something sexual from someone I know and like and trust and then
|
|
sometimes I pretend I'm amused or like it or don't mind or something.
|
|
I'm confused by my inability to to deal when I've practised and want to,
|
|
and by your inability to recognize your behavior as sexual oppression.
|
|
|
|
% O.K. I'm way intimidated by lots of loud boys in a group.
|
|
|
|
% Everything I say out loud in a group is pre-planned, composed.
|
|
I'm not spontaneous 'cuz yeah I'm shy but mostly I don't trust you
|
|
to listen without interrupting, treat what I say as valued if I'm not
|
|
rehearsed.
|
|
|
|
% I don't want to be squashed.
|
|
|
|
% I'm out-numbered. My allies are silent around you.
|
|
|
|
% You are approached to answer questions for our group,
|
|
make decisions and announcements. You even think it is okay to
|
|
define our group to visitors, strangers. Somehow you aren't ever
|
|
questioned by the group for this behavior.
|
|
|
|
% I've stopped believing that you are "sorry" or are "working on it."
|
|
|
|
% I'm putting less and less energy, at age 25, into heated discussions
|
|
and reacting to/educating people with stupid behavior. I'm tired of
|
|
correcting sexism. There are other things I need to put my energy into
|
|
--my creativity, my search for meaning, personal relationships.
|
|
Men (and all people with a sub/consciousness who say women are less able)
|
|
need to feel how sexism limits them. Men need to stop feeling self
|
|
righteous and defensive (classic reactions to even a third person comment
|
|
about gender inequity) and look honestly at their ways. How does
|
|
sexism limit a man?
|
|
|
|
% Why do I hafta be the bitch?
|
|
|
|
% Yeah. I'm pissed off.
|
|
|
|
% Maybe a "group" discussion dominated by two or three people ISN"T.
|
|
|
|
% D.I.Y. or do it all by yourself?
|
|
|
|
% Why don't you wonder about girls not getting involved, or leaving,
|
|
or sitting in silence?
|
|
|
|
% A body count is not gender balance.
|
|
|
|
% I don't fucking want the responsibility of policing for sexism.
|
|
Get over it because it sucks, not just because I'm in the room right now.
|
|
|
|
% Feminist perspective is not just for women or special occasions.
|
|
|
|
% You are not the boss. Get over yourself.
|
|
|
|
% When I assert myself you get to think that it is as easy for me as
|
|
for you, as easy for all women as for me. Wrong.
|
|
|
|
% Prob'ly you think that THIS group (yeah this one) doesn't have
|
|
any gender issues or sexism.
|
|
|
|
% Sometimes I think that feminist issues, women's groups and projects
|
|
exist both to pacify and occupy and distract me.
|
|
|
|
% Just shut the fuck up a little. Once in a while.
|
|
|
|
% I'm so fed up with the games and bullshit that I'm ready to work
|
|
with mainstream groups or alone or somewhere else or not at all.
|
|
|
|
% Its like you think that calling yourself an anarchist makes you clean
|
|
and pure and no longer subject to self examination or criticism.
|
|
You've make the term repulsive to me.
|
|
|
|
% Why am I the only one who knows how to nurture?
|
|
|
|
% You prob'ly think this song is about you, don't you? Don't you?
|
|
Don't you?
|
|
|
|
% I get the feeling that you are threatened. And scared. Good.
|
|
|
|
% When the women in our group decide to get together you hafta
|
|
know why and how and what gets said. None of your beeswax.
|
|
|
|
% You complain that you feel left out when the women get together.
|
|
So. I feel surrounded in a "mixed" group right now.
|
|
|
|
% I just don't wanna tolerate this shit anymore.
|
|
|
|
% Why, when you confront sexism, is it cause for celebration?
|
|
|
|
% It is time for me to be with women. I've spent my life in a world
|
|
defined by men, learning from men, relating to men, reading men, trying
|
|
to write and talk like men, being around men.
|
|
|
|
% If you feel threatened 'cuz me and my sistahs are pissed off and
|
|
together maybe you gots a good reason to run. That's right.
|
|
|
|
FOR RIOTEOUS LAUGHS TRY SUBSTITUTING "QUEER" OR "NON-WHITE"
|
|
FOR GIRL, HET OR WHITE FOR BOYS
|
|
|