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Underground eXperts United
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[ How Do One Find New Friends? ] [ By Knyttet ]
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How do one find new friends?
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written by Knyttet
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I have been trying to find new friends by the
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way I know best, writing. It sounded like a
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good idea when I started but when I had thrown
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away all the drafts and the bin was starting to
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get full I realized that it wasn't so easy.
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How much of yourself do you want to leave out
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to a stranger? How will you feel if you don't
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get any replies? And what if the reply you get
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is from someone who sound like a total madman?
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I have always been a bit selective about my
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friends. Maybe that's why I don't have that
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many. But I prefer to be lonely than to be
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surrounded by total idiots. There are always
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books if life gets too boring.
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Well, back to the friends business. It was so
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much easier when you were in school. You met
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people more naturally. Now you meet people
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where you work but sometimes you need someone
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to talk to that does not talk about your job.
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Or to gossip about how it is where you work
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(it's a myth that this is an urge that women
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have).
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The thing I hate most about getting new friends
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is that it takes so much time to really get to
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know someone, to start to trust someone so you
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can tell/show them who you really are. And
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maybe they can't take that, maybe they don't
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like what you really are at all and run away.
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Then you have to start all over again.
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I think it's more complicated to find new
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friends than new lovers. When you start to love
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someone (get attracted to someone) then it's
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not necessary the things you have in common
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that's important, it's more a feeling.
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Attraction.
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But with new friends you mostly start out with
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something you both have in common, some kind of
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mutual interest. And if you are unlucky after
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awhile you will find out that this was the only
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thing you had in common. If you are falling in
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love with someone you don't have to have
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something in common, except for the attraction
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but with friends you got to have some things to
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talk about. It isn't enough sitting on the
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couch holding hands and looking in each others
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eyes.
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Maybe I'm too "choosy," but that's the way I am.
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uXu #421 Underground eXperts United 1998 uXu #421
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ftp://ftp.etext.org/pub/Zines/uXu
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