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THE SUBJECTION OF WOMEN by JOHN STUART MILL.
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Original source: info.umd.edu
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Digitized August 1993 by:
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Paula Gaber <gaber@inform.umd.edu>
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Based on the Everyman's Library edition, originally published
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in 1929, reprinted 1992. (Only the introduction is copyrighted.)
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ISBN 0 460 87173 0
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[Fixed several typos, WT, 9/1/93]
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Originally published 1869, this text is in the PUBLIC DOMAIN.
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THE SUBJECTION OF WOMEN
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BY
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JOHN STUART MILL
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CHAPTER I
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The object of this Essay is to explain as clearly as I am able
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grounds of an opinion which I have held from the very earliest
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period when I had formed any opinions at all on social political
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matters, and which, instead of being weakened or modified, has been
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constantly growing stronger by the progress reflection and the
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experience of life. That the principle which regulates the existing
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social relations between the two sexes--the legal subordination of
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one sex to the other--is wrong itself, and now one of the chief
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hindrances to human improvement; and that it ought to be replaced
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by a principle of perfect equality, admitting no power or privilege
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on the one side, nor disability on the other.
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The very words necessary to express the task I have undertaken,
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show how arduous it is. But it would be a mistake to suppose that
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the difficulty of the case must lie in the insufficiency or
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obscurity of the grounds of reason on which my convictions. The
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difficulty is that which exists in all cases in which there is a
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mass of feeling to be contended against. So long as opinion is
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strongly rooted in the feelings, it gains rather than loses
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instability by having a preponderating weight of argument against
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it. For if it were accepted as a result of argument, the refutation
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of the argument might shake the solidity of the conviction; but
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when it rests solely on feeling, worse it fares in argumentative
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contest, the more persuaded adherents are that their feeling must
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have some deeper ground, which the arguments do not reach; and
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while the feeling remains, it is always throwing up fresh
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intrenchments of argument to repair any breach made in the old. And
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there are so many causes tending to make the feelings connected
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with this subject the most intense and most deeply-rooted of those
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which gather round and protect old institutions and custom, that we
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need not wonder to find them as yet less undermined and loosened
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than any of the rest by the progress the great modern spiritual and
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social transition; nor suppose that the barbarisms to which men
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cling longest must be less barbarisms than those which they earlier
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shake off.
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In every respect the burthen is hard on those who attack an almost
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universal opinion. They must be very fortunate well as unusually
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capable if they obtain a hearing at all. They have more difficulty
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in obtaining a trial, than any other litigants have in getting a
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verdict. If they do extort a hearing, they are subjected to a set
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of logical requirements totally different from those exacted from
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other people. In all other cases, burthen of proof is supposed to
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lie with the affirmative. If a person is charged with a murder, it
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rests with those who accuse him to give proof of his guilt, not
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with himself to prove his innocence. If there is a difference of
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opinion about the reality of an alleged historical event, in which
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the feelings of men general are not much interested, as the Siege
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of Troy example, those who maintain that the event took place
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expected to produce their proofs, before those who take the other
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side can be required to say anything; and at no time these required
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to do more than show that the evidence produced by the others is of
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no value. Again, in practical matters, the burthen of proof is
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supposed to be with those who are against liberty; who contend for
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any restriction or prohibition either any limitation of the general
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freedom of human action or any disqualification or disparity of
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privilege affecting one person or kind of persons, as compared with
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others. The a priori presumption is in favour of freedom and
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impartiality. It is held that there should be no restraint not
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required by I general good, and that the law should be no respecter
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of persons but should treat all alike, save where dissimilarity of
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treatment is required by positive reasons, either of justice or of
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policy. But of none of these rules of evidence will the benefit be
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allowed to those who maintain the opinion I profess. It is useless
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me to say that those who maintain the doctrine that men ha a right
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to command and women are under an obligation obey, or that men are
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fit for government and women unfit, on the affirmative side of the
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question, and that they are bound to show positive evidence for the
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assertions, or submit to their rejection. It is equally unavailing
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for me to say that those who deny to women any freedom or privilege
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rightly allow to men, having the double presumption against them
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that they are opposing freedom and recommending partiality, must
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held to the strictest proof of their case, and unless their success
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be such as to exclude all doubt, the judgment ought to against
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them. These would be thought good pleas in any common case; but
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they will not be thought so in this instance.
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Before I could hope to make any impression, I should be expected
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not only to answer all that has ever been said bye who take the
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other side of the question, but to imagine that could be said by
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them--to find them in reasons, as I as answer all I find: and
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besides refuting all arguments for the affirmative, I shall be
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called upon for invincible positive arguments to prove a negative.
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And even if I could do all and leave the opposite party with a host
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of unanswered arguments against them, and not a single unrefuted
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one on side, I should be thought to have done little; for a cause
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supported on the one hand by universal usage, and on the r by so
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great a preponderance of popular sentiment, is supposed to have a
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presumption in its favour, superior to any conviction which an
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appeal to reason has power to produce in intellects but those of a
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high class.
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I do not mention these difficulties to complain of them; first, use
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it would be useless; they are inseparable from having to contend
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through people's understandings against the hostility their
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feelings and practical tendencies: and truly the understandings of
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the majority of mankind would need to be much better cultivated
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than has ever yet been the case, before they be asked to place such
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reliance in their own power of estimating arguments, as to give up
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practical principles in which have been born and bred and which are
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the basis of much existing order of the world, at the first
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argumentative attack which they are not capable of logically
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resisting. I do not therefore quarrel with them for having too
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little faith in argument, but for having too much faith in custom
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and the general feeling. It is one of the characteristic prejudices
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of the ion of the nineteenth century against the eighteenth, to d
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to the unreasoning elements in human nature the infallibility which
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the eighteenth century is supposed to have ascribed to the
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reasoning elements. For the apotheosis of Reason we have
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substituted that of Instinct; and we call thing instinct which we
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find in ourselves and for which we cannot trace any rational
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foundation. This idolatry, infinitely more degrading than the
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other, and the most pernicious e false worships of the present day,
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of all of which it is the main support, will probably hold its
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ground until it way before a sound psychology laying bare the real
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root of much that is bowed down to as the intention of Nature and
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ordinance of God. As regards the present question, I am going to
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accept the unfavourable conditions which the prejudice assigns to
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me. I consent that established custom, and the general feelings,
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should be deemed conclusive against me, unless that custom and
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feeling from age to age can be shown to have owed their existence
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to other causes than their soundness, and to have derived their
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power from the worse rather than the better parts of human nature.
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I am willing that judgment should go against me, unless I can show
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that my judge has been tampered with. The concession is not so
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great as it might appear; for to prove this, is by far the easiest
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portion of my task.
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The generality of a practice is in some cases a strong presumption
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that it is, or at all events once was, conducive to laudable ends.
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This is the case, when the practice was first adopted, or
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afterwards kept up, as a means to such ends, and was grounded on
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experience of the mode in which they could be most effectually
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attained. If the authority of men over women, when first
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established, had been the result of a conscientious comparison
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between different modes of constituting the government of society;
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if, after trying various other modes of social organisation--the
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government of women over men, equality between the two, and such
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mixed and divided modes of government as might be invented--it had
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been decided, on the testimony of experience, that the mode in
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which women are wholly under the rule of men, having no share at
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all in public concerns, and each in private being under the legal
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obligation of obedience to the man with whom she has associated her
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destiny, was the arrangement most conducive to the happiness and
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well-being of both; its general adoption might then be fairly
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thought to be some evidence that, at the time when it was adopted,
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it was the best: though even then the considerations which
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recommended it may, like so many other primeval social facts of the
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greatest importance, have subsequently, in the course of ages,
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ceased to exist. But the state of the case is in every respect the
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reverse of this. In the first place, the opinion in favour of the
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present system, which entirely subordinates the weaker sex to the
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stronger, rests upon theory only; for there never has been trial
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made of any other: so that experience, in the sense in which it is
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vulgarly opposed to theory, cannot be pretended to have pronounced
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any verdict. And in the second place, the adoption of this system
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of inequality never was the result of deliberation, or forethought,
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or any social ideas, or any notion whatever of what conduced to the
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benefit of humanity or the good order of society. It arose simply
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from the fact that from the very earliest twilight of human
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society, every woman owing to the value attached to her by men,
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combined with her inferiority in muscular strength) was found in a
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state of bondage to some man. Laws and systems of polity always
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begin by recognising the relations they find already existing
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between individuals. They convert what was a mere physical fact
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into a legal right, give it the sanction of society, and
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principally aim at the substitution of public and organised means
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of asserting and protecting these rights, instead of the irregular
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and lawless conflict of physical strength. Those who had already
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been compelled to obedience became in this manner legally bound to
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it. Slavery, from be inn a mere affair of force between the master
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and the slave, became regularised and a matter of compact among the
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masters, who, binding themselves to one another for common
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protection, guaranteed by their collective strength the private
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possessions of each, including his slaves. In early times, the
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great majority of the male sex were slaves, as well as the whole of
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the female. And many ages elapsed, some of them ages of high
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cultivation, before any thinker was bold enough to question the
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rightfulness, and the absolute social necessity, either of the one
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slavery or of the other. By degrees such thinkers did arise; and
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(the general progress of society assisting) the slavery of the male
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sex has, in all the countries of Christian Europe at least (though,
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in one of them, only within the last few years) been at length
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abolished, and that of the female sex has been gradually changed
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into a milder form of dependence. But this dependence, as it exists
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at present, is not an original institution, taking a fresh start
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from considerations of justice and social expediency--it is the
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primitive state of slavery lasting on, through successive
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mitigations and modifications occasioned by the same causes which
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have softened the general manners, and brought all human relations
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more under the control of justice and the influence of humanity. It
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has not lost the taint of its brutal origin. No presumption in its
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favour, therefore, can be drawn from the fact of its existence. The
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only such presumption which it could be supposed to have, must be
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grounded on its having lasted till now, when so many other things
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which came down from the same odious source have been done away
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with. And this, indeed, is what makes it strange to ordinary ears,
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to hear it asserted that the inequality of rights between men and
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women has no other source than the law of the strongest.
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That this statement should have the effect of a paradox, is in some
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respects creditable to the progress of civilisation, and the
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improvement of the moral sentiments of mankind. We now live--that
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is to say, one or two of the most advanced nations of the world now
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live--in a state in which the law of the strongest seems to be
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entirely abandoned as the regulating principle of the world's
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affairs: nobody professes it, and, as regards most of the relations
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between human beings, nobody is permitted to practise it. When
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anyone succeeds in doing so, it is under cover of some pretext
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which gives him the semblance of having some general social
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interest on his side. This being the ostensible state of things,
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people flatter themselves that the rule of mere force is ended;
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that the law of the strongest cannot be the reason of existence of
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anything which has remained in full operation down to the present
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time. However any of our present institutions may have begun, it
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can only, they think, have been preserved to this period of
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advanced civilisation by a well-grounded feeling of its adaptation
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to human nature, and conduciveness to the general good. They do not
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understand the great vitality and durability of institutions which
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place right on the side of might; how intensely they are clung to;
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how the good as well as the bad propensities and sentiments of
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those who have power in their hands, become identified with
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retaining it; how slowly these bad institutions give way, one at a
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time, the weakest first. beginning with those which are least
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interwoven with the daily habits of life;and how very rarely those
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who have obtained legal power because they first had physical, have
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ever lost their hold of it until the physical power had passed over
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to the other side. Such shifting of the physical force not having
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taken place in the case of women; this fact, combined with all the
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peculiar and characteristic features of the particular case, made
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it certain from the first that this branch of the system of right
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founded on might, though softened in its most atrocious features at
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an earlier period than several of the others, would be the very
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last to disappear. It was inevitable that this one case of a social
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relation grounded on force, would survive through generations of
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institutions grounded on equal justice, an almost solitary
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exception to the general character of their laws and customs; but
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which, so long as it does not proclaim its own origin, and as
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discussion has not brought out its true character, is not felt to
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jar with modern civilisation, any more than domestic slavery among
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the Greeks jarred with their notion of themselves as a free people.
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The truth is, that people of the present and the last two or three
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generations have lost all practical sense of the primitive
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condition of humanity; and only the few who have studied history
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accurately, or have much frequented the parts of the world occupied
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by the living representatives of ages long past, are able to form
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any mental picture of what society then was. People are not aware
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how entirely, informer ages, the law of superior strength was the
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rule of life; how publicly and openly it was avowed, I do not say
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cynically or shamelessly--for these words imply a feeling that
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there was something in it to be ashamed of, and no such notion
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could find a place in the faculties of any person in those ages,
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except a philosopher or a saint. History gives a cruel experience
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of human nature, in showing how exactly the regard due to the life,
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possessions, and entire earthly happiness of any class of persons,
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was measured by what they had the power of enforcing; how all who
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made any resistance to authorities that had arms in their hands,
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however dreadful might be the provocation, had not only the law of
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force but all other laws, and all the notions of social obligation
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against them; and in the eyes of those whom they resisted, were not
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only guilty of crime, but of the worst of all crimes, deserving the
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most cruel chastisement which human beings could inflict. The first
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small vestige of a feeling of obligation in a superior to
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acknowledge any right in inferiors, began when he had been induced,
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for convenience, to make some promise to them. Though these
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promises, even when sanctioned by the most solemn oaths, were for
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many ages revoked or violated on the most trifling provocation or
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temptation, it is probably that this, except by persons of still
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worse than the average morality, was seldom done without some
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twinges of conscience. The ancient republics, being mostly grounded
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from the first upon some kind of mutual con;pact, or at any rate
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formed by an union of persons not very unequal in strength,
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afforded, in consequence, the first instance of a portion of human
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relations fenced round, and placed under the dominion of another
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law than that of force. And though the original law of force
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remained in full operation between them and their slaves, and also
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(except so far as limited by express compact) between a
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commonwealth and its subjects, or other independent commonwealths;
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the banishment of that primitive law even from so narrow a field,
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commenced the regeneration of human nature, by giving birth to
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sentiments of which experience soon demonstrated the immense value
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even for material interests, and which thence forward only required
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to be enlarged, not created. Though slaves were no part of the
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commonwealth, it was in the free states that slaves were first felt
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to have rights as human beings. The Stoics were, I believe, the
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first (except so far as the Jewish law constitutes an exception)
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who taught as a part of morality that men were bound by moral
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obligations to their slaves. No one, after Christianity became
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ascendant, could ever again have been a stranger to this belief, in
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theory; nor, after the rise of the Catholic Church, was it ever
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without persons to stand up for it. Yet to enforce it was the most
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arduous task which Christianity ever had to perform. For more thana
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thousand years the Church kept up the contest, with hardly any
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perceptible success. It was not for want of power over men's minds.
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Its power was prodigious. It could make kings and nobles resign
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their most valued possessions to enrich the Church. It could make
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thousands in the prime of life and the height of worldly
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advantages, shut themselves up in convents to work out their
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salvation by poverty, fasting, and prayer. It could send hundreds
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of thousands across land and sea, Europe and Asia, to give their
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lives for the deliverance of the Holy Sepulchre. It could make
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kings relinquish wives who were the object of their passionate
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attachment, because the Church declared that they were within the
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seventh (by our calculation the fourteenth) degree of relationship.
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All this it did; but it could not make men fight less with one
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another, nor tyrannise less cruelly over the serfs, and when they
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were able, over burgesses. It could not make them renounce either
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of the applications of force; force militant, or force triumphant.
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This they could never be induced to do until they were themselves
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in their turn compelled by superior force. Only by the growing
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power of kings was an end put to fighting except between kings, or
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competitors for kingship; only by the growth of a wealthy and
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warlike bourgeoisie in the fortified towns, and of a plebeian
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infantry which proved more powerful in the field than the
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undisciplined chivalry, was the insolent tyranny of the nobles over
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the bourgeoisie and peasantry brought within some bounds. It was
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persisted in not only until, but long after, the oppressed had
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obtained a power enabling them often to take conspicuous vengeance;
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and on the Continent much of it continued to the time of the French
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Revolution, though in England the earlier and better organisation
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of the democratic classes put an end to it sooner, by establishing
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equal laws and free national institutions.
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If people are mostly so little aware how completely, during the
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greater part of the duration of our species, the law of force was
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the avowed rule of general conduct, any other being only a special
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and exceptional consequence of peculiar ties---and from how very
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recent a date it is that the affairs of society in general have
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been even pretended to be regulated according to any moral law; as
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little do people remember or consider, how institutions and customs
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which never had any ground but the law of force, last on into ages
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and states of general opinion which never would have permitted
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their first establishment. Less than forty years ago, Englishmen
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might still by law hold human beings in bondage as saleable
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property: within the present century they might kidnap them and
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carry them off, and work them literally to death. This absolutely
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extreme case of the law of force, condemned by those who can
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tolerate almost every other form of arbitrary power, and which, of
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all others presents features the most revolting to the feelings of
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all who look at it from an impartial position, was the law of
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civilised and Christian England within the memory of persons now
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living: and in one half of Anglo-Saxon America three or four years
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ago, not only did slavery exist, but the slave-trade, and the
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breeding of slaves expressly for it, was a general practice between
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slave states. Yet not only was there a greater strength of
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sentiment against it, but, in England at least, a less amount
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either of feeling or of interest in favour of it, than of any other
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of the customary abuses of force: for its motive was the love of
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gain, unmixed and undisguised; and those who profited by it were a
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very small numerical fraction of the country, while the natural
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feeling of all who were not personally interested in it, was
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unmitigated abhorrence. So extreme an instance makes it almost
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superfluous to refer to any other: but consider the long duration of
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absolute monarchy. In England at present it is the almost universal
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conviction that military despotism is a case of the law of force,
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having no other origin or justification. Yet in all the great
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nations of Europe except England it either still exists, or has
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only just ceased to exist, and has even now a strong party
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favourable to it in all ranks of the people, especially among
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persons of station and consequence. Such is the power of an
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established system, even when far from universal; when not only in
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almost every period of history there have been great and well-known
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examples of the contrary system, but these have almost invariably
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been afforded by the most illustrious and most prosperous
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communities. In this case, too, the possessor of the undue power,
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the person directly interested in it, is only one person, while
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those who are subject to it and suffer from it are literally all
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the rest. The yoke is naturally and necessarily humiliating to all
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persons, except the one who is on the throne, together with, at
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most, the one who expects to succeed to it. How different are these
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cases from that of the power of men over women!I am not now
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prejudging the question-of its justifiableness. I am showing how
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vastly more permanent it could not but be, even if not justifiable,
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than these other dominations which have nevertheless lasted down to
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our own time. Whatever gratification of pride there is in the
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possession of power, and whatever personal interest in its
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|
exercise, is in this case not confined to a limited class, but
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common to the whole male sex. Instead of being, to most of its
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|
supporters) a thing desirable chiefly in the abstract, or, like the
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|
political ends usually contended for by factions, of little private
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|
importance to any but the leaders; it comes home to the person and
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|
hearth of every male head of a family, and of everyone who looks
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|
forward to being so. The clodhopper exercises, oris to exercise,
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his share of the power equally with the highest nobleman. And the
|
|
case is that in which the desire of power is the strongest: for
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everyone who desires power, desires it most over those who are
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|
nearest to him, with whom his life is passed, with whom he has most
|
|
concerns in common and in whom any independence of his authority is
|
|
oftenest likely to interfere with his individual preferences. If,
|
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in the other cases specified, powers manifestly grounded only on
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force, and having so much less to support them, are so slowly and
|
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with so much difficulty got rid of, much more must it be so with
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this, even if it rests on no better foundation than those. We must
|
|
consider, too, that the possessors of the power have facilities in
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this case, greater than in any other, to prevent any uprising
|
|
against it. Every one of the subjects lives under the very eye, and
|
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almost, it may be said, in the hands, of one of the masters in
|
|
closer intimacy with him than with any of her fellow-subjects; with
|
|
no means of combining against him, no power of even locally over
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|
mastering him, and, on the other hand, with the strongest motives
|
|
for seeking his favour and avoiding to give him offence. In
|
|
struggles for political emancipation, everybody knows how often its
|
|
champions are bought off by bribes, or daunted by terrors. In the
|
|
case of women, each individual of the subject-class is in a chronic
|
|
state of bribery and intimidation combined. In setting up the
|
|
standard of resistance, a large number of the leaders, and still
|
|
more of the followers, must make an almost complete sacrifice of
|
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the pleasures or the alleviations of their own individual lot. If
|
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ever any system of privilege and enforced subjection had its yoke
|
|
tightly riveted on the those who are kept down by it, this has. I
|
|
have not yet shown that it is a wrong system: but everyone who is
|
|
capable of thinking on the subject must see that even if it is, it
|
|
was certain to outlast all other forms of unjust authority. And
|
|
when some of the grossest of the other forms still exist in many
|
|
civilised countries, and have only recently been got rid of in
|
|
others, it would be strange if that which is so much the deepest
|
|
rooted had yet been perceptibly shaken anywhere. There is more
|
|
reason to wonder that the protests and testimonies against it
|
|
should have been so numerous and so weighty as they are.
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|
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Some will object, that a comparison cannot fairly be made between
|
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the government of the male sex and the forms of unjust power which
|
|
I have adduced in illustration of it, since these are arbitrary,
|
|
and the effect of mere usurpation, while it on the contrary is
|
|
natural. But was there ever any domination which did not appear
|
|
natural to those who possessed it? There was a time when the
|
|
division of mankind into two classes, a small one of masters and a
|
|
numerous one of slaves, appeared, even to the most cultivated
|
|
minds, to be natural, and the only natural, condition of the human
|
|
race. No less an intellect, and one which contributed no less to
|
|
the progress of human thought, than Aristotle, held this opinion
|
|
without doubt or misgiving; and rested it on the same premises on
|
|
which the same assertion in regard to the dominion of men over
|
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women is usually based, namely that there are different natures
|
|
among mankind, free natures, and slave natures; that the Greeks
|
|
were of a free nature, the barbarian races of Thracians and
|
|
Asiatics of a slave nature. But why need I go back to Aristotle?
|
|
Did not the slave-owners of the Southern United States maintain the
|
|
same doctrine, with all the fanaticism with which men ding to the
|
|
theories that justify their passions and legitimate their personal
|
|
interests? Did they not call heaven and earth to witness that the
|
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dominion of the white man over the black is natural, that the black
|
|
race is by nature incapable of freedom, and marked out for slavery?
|
|
some even going so far as to say that the freedom of manual
|
|
labourers is an unnatural order of things anywhere. Again, the
|
|
theorists of absolute monarchy have always affirmed it to be the
|
|
only natural form of government; issuing from the patriarchal,
|
|
which was the primitive and spontaneous form of society, framed on
|
|
the model of the paternal, which is anterior to society itself,
|
|
and, as they contend, the most natural authority of all. Nay, for
|
|
that matter, the law of force itself, to those who could not plead
|
|
any other has always seemed the most natural of all grounds for the
|
|
exercise of authority. Conquering races hold it to be Nature's own
|
|
dictate that the conquered should obey the conquerors, or as they
|
|
euphoniously paraphrase it, that the feebler and more unwarlike
|
|
races should submit to the braver and manlier. The smallest
|
|
acquaintance with human life in the middle ages, shows how
|
|
supremely natural the dominion of the feudal nobility overmen of
|
|
low condition appeared to the nobility themselves, and how
|
|
unnatural the conception seemed, of a person of the inferior class
|
|
claiming equality with them, or exercising authority over them. It
|
|
hardly seemed less so to the class held in subjection. The
|
|
emancipated serfs and burgesses, even in their most vigorous
|
|
struggles, never made any pretension to a share of authority; they
|
|
only demanded more or less of limitation to the power of
|
|
tyrannising over them. So true is it that unnatural generally means
|
|
only uncustomary, and that everything which is usual appears
|
|
natural. The subjection of women to men being a universal custom,
|
|
any departure from it quite naturally appears unnatural. But how
|
|
entirely, even in this case, the feeling is dependent on custom,
|
|
appears by ample experience. Nothing so much astonishes the people
|
|
of distant parts of the world, when they first learn anything about
|
|
England, as to be told that it is under a queen; the thing seems to
|
|
them so unnatural as to be almost incredible. To Englishmen this
|
|
does not seem in the least degree unnatural, because they are used
|
|
to it; but they do feel it unnatural that women should be soldiers
|
|
or Members of Parliament. In the feudal ages, on the contrary, war
|
|
and politics were not thought unnatural to women, because not
|
|
unusual; it seemed natural that women of the privileged classes
|
|
should be of manly character, inferior in nothing but bodily
|
|
strength to their husbands and fathers. The independence of women
|
|
seemed rather less unnatural to the Greeks than to other ancients,
|
|
on account of the fabulous Amazons (whom they believed to be
|
|
historical), and the partial example afforded by the Spartan women;
|
|
who, though no less subordinate by law than in other Greek states,
|
|
were more free in fact, and being trained to bodily exercises in
|
|
the same manner with men, gave ample proof that they were not
|
|
naturally disqualified for them. There can be little doubt that
|
|
Spartan experience suggested to Plato, among many other of his
|
|
doctrines, t of the social and political equality of the two sexes.
|
|
|
|
But, it will be said, the rule of men over women differs from all
|
|
these others in not being a rule a rule of force: it is accepted
|
|
voluntarily; women make no complaint, and are consenting parties to
|
|
it. In the first place, a great number of women do not accept it.
|
|
Ever since there have been women able to make their sentiments
|
|
known by their writings (the only mode of publicity which society
|
|
permits to them), an increasing number of them have recorded
|
|
protests against their present social condition: and recently many
|
|
thousands of them, headed by the most eminent women known to the
|
|
public, have petitioned Parliament for their admission to the
|
|
Parliamentary Suffrage The claim of women to be educated as
|
|
solidly, and in the same branches of knowledge, as men, is urged
|
|
with growing intensity, and with a great prospect of success; while
|
|
the demand for their admission into professions and occupations
|
|
hitherto closed against them, becomes every year more urgent.
|
|
Though there are not in this country, as there are in the United
|
|
States, periodical conventions and an organised party to agitate
|
|
for the Rights of Women, there is a numerous and active society
|
|
organised and managed by women, for the more limited object of
|
|
obtaining the political franchise. Nor is it only in our own
|
|
country and in America that women are beginning to protest, more or
|
|
less collectively, against the disabilities under which they
|
|
labour. France, and Italy, and Switzerland, and Russia now afford
|
|
examples of the same thing. How many more women there are who
|
|
silently cherish similar aspirations, no one can possibly know; but
|
|
there are abundant tokens how many would cherish them, were they
|
|
not so strenuously taught to repress them as contrary to the
|
|
proprieties of their sex. It must be remembered, also, that no
|
|
enslaved class ever asked for complete liberty at once. When Simon
|
|
de Montfort called the deputies of the commons to sit for the first
|
|
time in Parliament, did any of them dream of demanding that an
|
|
assembly, elected by their constituents)should make and destroy
|
|
ministries, and dictate to the king in affairs of State ? No such
|
|
thought entered into the imagination of the most ambitious of them.
|
|
The nobility had already these pretensions; the commons pretended
|
|
to nothing but to be exempt from arbitrary taxation, and from the
|
|
gross individual oppression of the king's officers. It is a
|
|
political law of nature that those who are under any power of
|
|
ancient origin, never begin by complaining of the power itself, but
|
|
only of its oppressive exercise. There is never any want of women
|
|
who complain of ill-usage by their husbands. There would be
|
|
infinitely more, if complaint were not the greatest of all
|
|
provocatives to a repetition and increase of the ill-usage. It is
|
|
this which frustrates all attempts to maintain the power but
|
|
protect the woman against its abuses. In no other case (except that
|
|
of a child) is the person who has been proved judicially to have
|
|
suffered an injury, replaced under the physical power of the
|
|
culprit who inflicted it. Accordingly wives, even in the most
|
|
extreme and protracted cases of bodily ill-usage, hardly ever dare
|
|
avail themselves of the laws made for their protection: and if, in
|
|
a moment of irrepressible indignation, or by the interference of
|
|
neighbours, they are induced to do so, their whole effort
|
|
afterwards is to disclose as little as they can, and to beg off
|
|
their tyrant from his merited chastisement.
|
|
|
|
All causes, social and natural, combine to make it unlikely that
|
|
women should be collectively rebellious to the power of men. They
|
|
are so far in a position different from all other subject classes,
|
|
that their masters require something more from them than actual
|
|
service. Men do not want solely the obedience of women, they want
|
|
their sentiments. All men, except the most brutish, desire to have,
|
|
in the woman most nearly connected with them, not a forced slave
|
|
but a willing one, not a slave merely, but a favourite. They have
|
|
therefore put everything in practice to enslave their minds. The
|
|
masters of all other slaves rely, for maintaining obedience, on
|
|
fear; either fear of themselves, or religious fears. The masters of
|
|
women wanted more than simple obedience, and they turned the whole
|
|
force of education to effect their purpose. All women are brought
|
|
up from the very earliest years in the belief that their ideal of
|
|
character is the very opposite to that of men; not self will, and
|
|
government by self-control, but submission, and yielding to the
|
|
control of other. All the moralities tell them that it is the duty
|
|
of women, and all the current sentimentalities that it is their
|
|
nature, to live for others; to make complete abnegation of
|
|
themselves, and to have no life but in their affections. And by
|
|
their affections are meant the only ones they are allowed to have -
|
|
- those to the men with whom they are connected, or to the children
|
|
who constitute an additional and indefeasible tie between them and
|
|
a man. When we put together three things -- first, the natural
|
|
attraction between opposite sexes; secondly, the wife's entire
|
|
dependence on the husband, every privilege or pleasure she has
|
|
being either his gift, or depending entirely on his will; and
|
|
lastly, that the principal object of human pursuit, consideration,
|
|
and all objects of social ambition, can in general be sought or
|
|
obtained by her only through him, it would be a miracle if the
|
|
object of being attractive to men had not become the polar star of
|
|
feminine education and formation of character. And, this great
|
|
means of influence over the minds of women having been acquired, an
|
|
instinct of selfishness made men avail themselves of it to the
|
|
utmost as a means of holding women in subjection, by representing
|
|
to them meekness, submissiveness, and resignation of all individual
|
|
will into the hands of a man, as an essential part of sexual
|
|
attractiveness. Can it be doubted that any of the other yokes which
|
|
mankind have succeeded in breaking, would have subsisted till now
|
|
if the same means had existed, and had been so sedulously used, to
|
|
bow down their minds to it? If it had been made the object of the
|
|
life of every young plebeian to find personal favour in the eyes of
|
|
some patrician, of every young serf with some seigneur; if
|
|
domestication with him, and a share of his personal affections, had
|
|
been held out as the prize which they all should look out for, the
|
|
most gifted and aspiring being able to reckon on the most desirable
|
|
prizes; and if, when this prize had been obtained, they had been
|
|
shut out by a wall of brass from all interests not centring in him,
|
|
all feelings and desires but those which he shared or inculcated;
|
|
would not serfs and seigneurs, plebeians and patricians, have been
|
|
as broadly distinguished at this day as men and women are? and
|
|
would not all but a thinker here and there, have believed the
|
|
distinction to be a fundamental and unalterable fact in human
|
|
nature?
|
|
|
|
The preceding considerations are amply sufficient to show that
|
|
custom, however universal it may be, affords in this case no
|
|
presumption, and ought not to create any prejudice, in favour of
|
|
the arrangements which place women in social and political
|
|
subjection to men. But I may go farther, and maintain that the
|
|
course of history, and the tendencies of progressive human society,
|
|
afford not only no presumption in favour of this system of
|
|
inequality of rights, but a strong one against it; and that, so far
|
|
as the whole course of human improvement up to the time, the whole
|
|
stream of modern tendencies, warrants any inference on the subject,
|
|
it is, that this relic of the past is discordant with the future,
|
|
and must necessarily disappear.
|
|
|
|
For, what is the peculiar character of the modern world-- the
|
|
difference which chiefly distinguishes modern institutions, modern
|
|
social ideas, modern life itself, from those of times long past? It
|
|
is, that human beings are no longer born to their place in life,
|
|
and chained down by an inexorable bond to the would be infinitely
|
|
more, if complaint were not the greatest of all provocatives to a
|
|
repetition and increase of the ill-usage. It is this which
|
|
frustrates all attempts to maintain the power but protect the woman
|
|
against its abuses. In no other case (except that of a child) is
|
|
the person who has been proved judicially to have suffered an
|
|
injury, replaced under the physical power of the culprit who
|
|
inflicted it. Accordingly wives, even in the most extreme and
|
|
protracted cases of bodily ill-usage, hardly ever dare avail
|
|
themselves of the laws made for their protection: and if, in a
|
|
moment of irrepressible indignation, or by the interference of
|
|
neighbours, they are induced to do so, their whole effort
|
|
afterwards is to disclose as little as they can, and to beg off
|
|
their tyrant from his merited chastisement. All causes, social and
|
|
natural, combine to make it unlikely that women should be
|
|
collectively rebellious to the power of . men. They are so far in
|
|
a position different from all other subject classes, that their
|
|
masters require something more from them than actual service Men do
|
|
not want solely the obedience of women, they want their sentiments.
|
|
All men, except the most brutish, desire to have, in the woman most
|
|
nearly connected with them, not a forced slave but a willing one,
|
|
not a slave merely, but a favourite. They have therefore put
|
|
everything in practice to enslave their minds. The masters of all
|
|
other slaves rely, for maintaining obedience, on fear; either fear
|
|
of themselves, or religious fears. The masters of women wanted more
|
|
than simple obedience, and they turned the whole force of education
|
|
to effect their purpose. All women are brought up from the very
|
|
earliest years in the belief that their ideal of character is the
|
|
very opposite to that of men; not self-will, and government by
|
|
self-control, but submission, and yielding to the control of
|
|
others. All the moralities tell them that it is the duty of women,
|
|
and all the current sentimentalities that it is their nature, to
|
|
live for others; to make complete abnegation of themselves, and to
|
|
have no life but in their affections. And by their affections are
|
|
meant the only ones they are allowed to have--those to the men with
|
|
whom they are connected, or to the children who constitute an
|
|
additional and indefeasible tie between them and a man. When we put
|
|
together three things--first, the natural attraction between
|
|
opposite sexes; secondly, the wife's entire dependence on the
|
|
husband, every privilege or pleasure she has being either his gift,
|
|
or depending entirely on his will; and lastly, that the principal
|
|
object of human pursuit, consideration, and all objects of social
|
|
ambition, can in general be sought or obtained by her only through
|
|
him, it would be a miracle if the object of being attractive to men
|
|
had not become the polar star of feminine education and formation
|
|
of character. And, this great means of influence over the minds of
|
|
women having been acquired, an instinct of selfishness made men
|
|
avail themselves of it to the utmost as a means of holding women in
|
|
subjection, by representing to them meekness, submissiveness, and
|
|
resignation of all individual will into the hands of a man, as an
|
|
essential part of sexual attractiveness. Can it be doubted that any
|
|
of the other yokes which mankind have succeeded in breaking, would
|
|
have subsisted till now if the same means had existed, and had been
|
|
so sedulously used, to bow down their minds to it? If it had been
|
|
made the object of the life of every young plebeian to find
|
|
personal favour in the eyes of some patrician, of every young serf
|
|
with some seigneur; if domestication with him, and a share of his
|
|
personal affections, had been held out as the prize which they all
|
|
should look out for, the most gifted and aspiring being able to
|
|
reckon on the most desirable prizes; and if, when this prize had
|
|
been obtained, they had been shut out by a wall of brass from all
|
|
interests not centring in him, all feelings and desires but those
|
|
which he shared or inculcated; would not serfs and seigneurs,
|
|
plebeians and patricians, have been as broadly distinguished at
|
|
this day as men and women are? and would not all but a thinker here
|
|
and there, have believed the distinction to be a fundamental and
|
|
unalterable fact in human nature? The preceding considerations are
|
|
amply sufficient to show that custom, however universal it may be,
|
|
affords in this case no presumption, and ought not to create any
|
|
prejudice, in favour of the arrangements which place women in
|
|
social and political subjection to men. But I may go farther, and
|
|
maintain that the course of history, and the tendencies of
|
|
progressive human society, afford not only no presumption in favour
|
|
of this system of inequality of rights, but a strong one against
|
|
it; and that, so far as the whole course of human improvement up to
|
|
the time, the whole stream of modern tendencies, warrants any
|
|
inference on the subject, it is, that this relic of the past is
|
|
discordant with the future, and must necessarily disappear. For,
|
|
what is the peculiar character of the modern world-- the difference
|
|
which chiefly distinguishes modern institutions, modern social
|
|
ideas, modern life itself, from those of times long past? It is,
|
|
that human beings are no longer born to their place in life, and
|
|
chained down by an inexorable bond to the place they are born to,
|
|
but are free to employ their faculties, and such favourable chances
|
|
as offer, to achieve the lot which may appear to them most
|
|
desirable. Human society of old was constituted on a very different
|
|
principle. All were born to a fixed social position, and were
|
|
mostly kept in it by law, or interdicted from any means by which
|
|
they could emerge from it. As some men are born white and others
|
|
black, so some were born slaves and others freemen and citizens;
|
|
some were born patricians, others plebeians; some were born feudal
|
|
nobles, others commoners and roturiers. A slave or serf could never
|
|
make himself free, nor, except by the will of his master, become
|
|
so. In most European countries it was not till towards the close of
|
|
the middle ages, and as a consequence of the growth of regal power,
|
|
that commoners could be ennobled. Even among nobles, the eldest son
|
|
was born the exclusive heir to the paternal possessions, and a long
|
|
time elapsed before it was fully established that the father could
|
|
disinherit him. Among the industrious classes, only those who were
|
|
born members of a guild, or were admitted into it by its members,
|
|
could lawfully practise their calling within its local limits; and
|
|
nobody could practise any calling deemed important, in any but the
|
|
legal manner--by processes authoritatively prescribed.
|
|
Manufacturers have stood in the pillory for presuming to carry on
|
|
their business by new and improved methods. In modern Europe, and
|
|
most in those parts of it which have participated most largely in
|
|
all other modern improvements, diametrically opposite doctrines now
|
|
prevail. Law and government do not undertake to prescribe by whom
|
|
any social or industrial operation shall or shall not be conducted,
|
|
or what modes of conducting them shall be lawful. These things are
|
|
left to the unfettered choice of individuals. Even the laws which
|
|
required that workmen should serve an apprenticeship, have in this
|
|
country been repealed: there being ample assurance that in all
|
|
cases in which an apprenticeship is necessary, its necessity will
|
|
suffice to enforce it. The old theory was, that the least possible
|
|
should be left to the choice of the individual agent; that all he
|
|
had to do should, as far as practicable, be laid down for him by
|
|
superior wisdom. Left to himself he was sure to go wrong. The
|
|
modern conviction, the fruit of a thousand years of experience, is,
|
|
that things in which the individual is the person directly
|
|
interested, never go right but as they are left to his own
|
|
discretion; and that any regulation of them by authority, except to
|
|
protect the rights of others, is sure to be mischievous. This
|
|
conclusion slowly arrived at, and not adopted until almost every
|
|
possible application of the contrary theory had been made with
|
|
disastrous result, now (in the industrial department) prevails
|
|
universally in the most advanced countries, almost universally in
|
|
all that have pretensions to any sort of advancement. It is not
|
|
that all processes are supposed to be equally good, or all persons
|
|
to be equally qualified for everything; but that freedom of
|
|
individual choice is now known to be the only thing which procures
|
|
the adoption of the best processes, and throws each operation into
|
|
the hands of those who are best qualified for it. Nobody thinks it
|
|
necessary to make a law that only a strong-armed man shall be a
|
|
blacksmith. Freedom and competition suffice to make blacksmiths
|
|
strong-armed men, because the weak armed can earn more by engaging
|
|
in occupations for which they are more fit. In consonance with this
|
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doctrine, it is felt to be an overstepping of the proper bounds of
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authority to fix beforehand, on some general presumption, that
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certain persons are not fit to do certain things. It is now
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thoroughly known and admitted that if some such presumptions exist,
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no such presumption is infallible. Even if it be well grounded in
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a majority of cases, which it is very likely not to be, there will
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be a minority of exceptional cases in which it does not hold: and
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in those it is both an injustice to the individuals, and a
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detriment to society, to place barriers in the way of their using
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their faculties for their own benefit and for that of others. In
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the cases, on the other hand, in which the unfitness is real, the
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ordinary motives of human conduct will on the whole suffice to
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prevent the incompetent person from making, or from persisting in,
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the attempt.
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If this general principle of social and economical science is not
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true; if individuals, with such help as they can derive from the
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opinion of those who know them, are not better judges than the law
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and the government, of their own capacities and vocation; the world
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cannot too soon abandon this principle, and return to the old
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system of regulations and disabilities. But if the principle is
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true, we ought to act as if we believed it, and not to ordain that
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to be born a girl instead of a boy, any more than to be born black
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instead of white, or a commoner instead of a nobleman, shall decide
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the person's position through all life--shall interdict people from
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all the more elevated social positions, and from all, except a few,
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respectable occupations. Even were we to admit the utmost that is
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ever pretended a to the superior fitness of men for all the
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functions now reserve to them, the same argument applies which
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forbids a legal qualification for Members of Parliament. If only
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once in a dozen years the conditions of eligibility exclude a fit
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person, there is a real loss, while the exclusion of thousands of
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unfit persons is no gain; for if the constitution of the electoral
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|
body disposes them to choose unfit persons, there are always plenty
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of such persons to choose from. In all things of any difficulty and
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|
importance, those who can do them well are fewer than the need,
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|
even with the most unrestricted latitude of choice: and any
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limitation of the field of selection deprives society of some
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chances of being served by the competent, without ever saving it
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from the incompetent.
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At present, in the more improved countries, the disabilities of
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women are the only case, save one, in which laws and institutions
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take persons at their birth, and ordain that they shall never in
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|
all their lives be allowed to compete for certain things. The one
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exception is that of royalty. Persons still are born to the
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throne; no one, not of the reigning family, can ever occupy it, and
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no one even of that family can, by any means but the course of
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hereditary succession, attain it. All other dignities and social
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|
advantages are open to the whole male sex: many indeed are only
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attainable by wealth, but wealth may be striven for by anyone, and
|
|
is actually obtained by many men of the very humblest origin. The
|
|
difficulties, to the majority, are indeed insuperable without the
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|
aid of fortunate accidents; but no male human being is under any
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|
legal ban: neither law nor opinion superadd artificial obstacles to
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the natural ones. Royalty, as I have said, is excepted: but in this
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|
case everyone feels it to be an exception--an anomaly in the modern
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|
world, in marked opposition to its customs and principles, and to
|
|
be justified only by extraordinary special expediences, which,
|
|
though individuals and nations differ in estimating their weight,
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unquestionably do in fact exist. But in this exceptional case, in
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|
which a high social function is, for important reasons, bestowed on
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birth instead of being put up to competition, all free nations
|
|
contrive to adhere in substance to the principle from which they
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nominally derogate; for they circumscribe this high function by
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conditions avowedly intended to prevent the person to whom it
|
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ostensibly belongs from really performing it; while the person by
|
|
whom it is performed, the responsible minister, does obtain the
|
|
post by a competition from which no full-grown citizen of the male
|
|
sex is legally excluded. The disabilities, therefore, to which
|
|
women are subject from the mere fact of their birth, are the
|
|
solitary examples of the kind in modern legislation. In no instance
|
|
except this, which comprehends half the human race, are the higher
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|
social functions closed against anyone by a fatality of birth which
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|
no exertions, and no change of circumstances, can overcome; for
|
|
even religious disabilities (besides that in England and in Europe
|
|
they have practically almost ceased to exist) do not close any
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career to the disqualified person in case of conversion.
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|
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The social subordination of women thus stands out an isolated fact
|
|
in modern social institutions; a solitary breach of what has become
|
|
their fundamental law; a single relic of an old world of thought
|
|
and practice exploded in everything else, but retained in the one
|
|
thing of most universal interest; as if a gigantic dolmen, or a
|
|
vast temple of Jupiter Olympius, occupied the site of St. Paul's
|
|
and received daily worship, while the surrounding Christian
|
|
churches were only resorted to on fasts and festivals. This entire
|
|
discrepancy between one social fact and all those which accompany
|
|
it, and the radical opposition between its nature and the
|
|
progressive movement which is the boast of the modern world, and
|
|
which has successively swept away everything else of an analogous
|
|
character, surely affords, to a conscientious observer of human
|
|
tendencies, serious matter for reflection. It raises a prima facie
|
|
presumption on the unfavourable side, far outweighing any which
|
|
custom and usage could in such circumstances create on the
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|
favourable;and should at least suffice to make this, like the
|
|
choice between republicanism and royalty, a balanced question.
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|
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|
The least that can be demanded is, that the question should not be
|
|
considered as prejudged by existing fact and existing opinion, but
|
|
open to discussion on its merits, as a question of justice and
|
|
expediency: the decision on this, as on any of the other social
|
|
arrangements of mankind, depending on what an enlightened estimate
|
|
of tendencies and consequences may show to be most advantageous to
|
|
humanity in general, without distinction of sex. And the discussion
|
|
must be a real discussion, descending to foundations, and not
|
|
resting satisfied with vague and general assertions. It will not
|
|
do, for instance to assert in general terms, that the experience of
|
|
mankind has pronounced in favour of the existing system. Experience
|
|
cannot possibly have decided between two courses, so long as there
|
|
has only been experience of one. If it be said that the doctrine of
|
|
the equality of the sexes rests only on theory, it must be
|
|
remembered that the contrary doctrine also has only theory to rest
|
|
upon. All that is proved in its favour by direct experience, is
|
|
that mankind have been able to exist under it, and to attain the
|
|
degree of improvement and prosperity which we now see; but whether
|
|
that prosperity has been attained sooner, or is now greater, than
|
|
it would have been under the other system, experience does not say.
|
|
on the other hand, experience does say, that every step in
|
|
improvement has been so invariably accompanied by a step made in
|
|
raising the social position of women, that historians and
|
|
philosophers have been led to adopt their elevation or debasement
|
|
as on the whole the surest test and most correct measure of the
|
|
civilisation of a people or an age. Through all the progressive
|
|
period of human history, the condition of women has been
|
|
approaching nearer to equality with men. This does not of itself
|
|
prove that the assimilation must goon to complete equality; but it
|
|
assuredly affords some presumption that such is the case.
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|
|
|
Neither does it avail anything to say that the nature of the two
|
|
sexes adapts them to their present functions and position, and
|
|
renders these appropriate to them. Standing on the ground of common
|
|
sense and the constitution of the human mind, I deny that anyone
|
|
knows, or can know, the nature of the two sexes, as long as they
|
|
have only been seen in their present relation to one another. If
|
|
men had ever been found in society without women, or women without
|
|
men, or if there had been a society of men and women in which the
|
|
women were not under the control of the men, something might have
|
|
been positively known about the mental and moral differences which
|
|
may be inherent in the nature of each. What is now called the
|
|
nature of women is an eminently artificial thing--the result of
|
|
forced repression in some directions, unnatural stimulation in
|
|
others. It may be asserted without scruple, that no other class of
|
|
dependents have had their character so entirely distorted from its
|
|
natural proportions by their relation with their masters; for, if
|
|
conquered and slave races have been, in some respects, more
|
|
forcibly repressed, whatever in them has not been crushed down by
|
|
an iron heel has generally been let alone, and if left with any
|
|
liberty of development, it has developed itself according to its
|
|
own laws; but in the case of women, a hot-house and stove
|
|
cultivation has always been carried on of some of the capabilities
|
|
of their nature, for the benefit and pleasure of their masters
|
|
Then, because certain products of the general vital force sprout
|
|
luxuriantly and reach a great development in this heated atmosphere
|
|
and under this active nurture and watering, while other shoots from
|
|
the same root, which are left outside in the wintry air, with ice
|
|
purposely heaped all round them, have a stunted growth, and some
|
|
are burnt off with fire and disappear; men, with that inability to
|
|
recognise their own work which distinguishes the unanalytic mind,
|
|
indolently believe that the tree grows of itself in the way they
|
|
have made it grow, and that it would die if one half of it were not
|
|
kept in a vapour bath and the other half in the snow.
|
|
|
|
Of all difficulties which impede the progress of thought, and the
|
|
formation of well-grounded opinions on life and social
|
|
arrangements, the greatest is now the unspeakable ignorance and
|
|
inattention of mankind in respect to the influences which form
|
|
human character. Whatever any portion of the human species now are,
|
|
or seem to be, such, it is supposed, they have a natural tendency
|
|
to be: even when the most elementary knowledge of the circumstances
|
|
in which they have been placed, clearly points out the causes that
|
|
made them what they are. Because a cottier deeply in arrears to his
|
|
landlord is not industrious, there are people who think that the
|
|
Irish are naturally idle. Because constitutions can be overthrown
|
|
when the authorities appointed to execute them turn their arms
|
|
against them, there are people who think the French incapable of
|
|
free government. Because the Greeks cheated the Turks, and the
|
|
Turks only plundered the Greeks, there are persons who think that
|
|
the Turks are naturally more sincere: and because women, as is
|
|
often said, care nothing about politics except their personalities,
|
|
it is supposed that the general good is naturally less interesting
|
|
to women than to men. History, which is now so much better
|
|
understood than formerly, teaches another lesson: if only by
|
|
showing the extraordinary susceptibility of human nature to
|
|
external influences, and the extreme variableness of those of its
|
|
manifestations which are supposed to be most universal and uniform.
|
|
But in history, as in travelling, men usually see only what they
|
|
already had in their own minds; and few learn much from history,
|
|
who do not bring much with them to its study.
|
|
|
|
Hence, in regard to that most difficult question, what are the
|
|
natural differences between the two sexes--a subject on which it is
|
|
impossible in the present state of society to obtain complete and
|
|
correct knowledge--while almost everybody dogmatises upon it,
|
|
almost all neglect and make light of the only means by which any
|
|
partial insight can be obtained into it. This is, an analytic study
|
|
of the most important department of psychology, the laws of the
|
|
influence of circumstances on character. For, however great and
|
|
apparently ineradicable the moral and intellectual differences
|
|
between men and women might be, the evidence of there being natural
|
|
differences could only be negative. Those only could be inferred to
|
|
be natural which could not possibly be artificial--the residuum,
|
|
after deducting every characteristic of either sex which can admit
|
|
of being explained from education or external circumstances. The
|
|
profoundest knowledge of the laws of the formation of character is
|
|
indispensable to entitle anyone to affirm even that there is any
|
|
difference, much more what the difference is, between the two sexes
|
|
considered as moral and rational beings; and since no one, as yet,
|
|
has that knowledge (for there is hardly any subject which, in
|
|
proportion to its importance, has been so little studied), no one
|
|
is thus far entitled to any positive opinion on the subject.
|
|
Conjectures are all that can at present be made;conjectures more or
|
|
less probable, according as more or less authorised by such
|
|
knowledge as we yet have of the laws of psychology, as applied to
|
|
the formation of character.
|
|
|
|
Even the preliminary knowledge, what the differences between the
|
|
sexes now are, apart from all question as to how they are made what
|
|
they are, is still in the crudest and most' incomplete state.
|
|
Medical practitioners and physiologists have ascertained, to some
|
|
extent, the differences in bodily constitution; and this is an
|
|
important element to the psychologist: but hardly any medical
|
|
practitioner is a psychologist. Respecting the mental
|
|
characteristics of women; their observations are of no more worth
|
|
than those of common men. It is a subject on which nothing final
|
|
can be known, so long as those who alone can really know it, women
|
|
themselves, have given but little testimony, and that little,
|
|
mostly suborned. It is easy to know stupid women. Stupidity is much
|
|
the same all the world over. A stupid person's notions and feelings
|
|
may confidently be inferred from those which prevail in the circle
|
|
by which the person is surrounded. Not so with those whose opinions
|
|
and feelings are an emanation from their own nature and faculties.
|
|
It is only a man here and there who has any tolerable knowledge of
|
|
the character even of the women of his own family. I do not mean,
|
|
of their capabilities; these nobody knows, not even themselves,
|
|
because most of them have never been called out. I mean their
|
|
actually existing thoughts and feelings. Many a man think she
|
|
perfectly understands women, because he has had amatory relations
|
|
with several, perhaps with many of them.
|
|
|
|
If he is a good observer, and his experience extends to quality as
|
|
well as quantity, he may have learnt something of one narrow
|
|
department of their nature--an important department, no doubt. But
|
|
of all the rest of it, few persons are generally more ignorant,
|
|
because there are few from whom it is so carefully hidden. The most
|
|
favourable case which a man can generally have for studying the
|
|
character of a woman, is that of his own wife: for the
|
|
opportunities are greater, and the cases of complete sympathy not
|
|
so unspeakably rare. And in fact, this is the source from which any
|
|
knowledge worth having on the subject has, I believe, generally
|
|
come. But most men have not had the opportunity of studying in this
|
|
way more than a single case: accordingly one can, to an almost
|
|
laughable degree, infer what a man's wife is like, from his
|
|
opinions about women in general. To make even this one case yield
|
|
any result, the woman must be worth knowing, and the man not only
|
|
a competent judge, but of a character so sympathetic in itself, and
|
|
so well adapted to hers, that he can either read her mind by
|
|
sympathetic intuition, or has nothing in himself which makes her
|
|
shy of disclosing it, Hardly anything, I believe, can be more rare
|
|
than this conjunction. It often happens that there is the most
|
|
complete unity of feeling and community of interests as to all
|
|
external things, yet the one has as little admission into the
|
|
internal life of the other as if they were common acquaintance.
|
|
Even with true affection, authority on the one side and
|
|
subordination on the other prevent perfect confidence. Though
|
|
nothing may be intentionally withheld, much is not shown. In the
|
|
analogous relation of parent and child, the corresponding
|
|
phenomenon must have been in the observation of everyone. As
|
|
between father and son, how many are the cases in which the father,
|
|
in spite of real affection on both sides, obviously to all the
|
|
world does not know, nor suspect, parts of the son's character
|
|
familiar to his companions and equals. The truth is, that the
|
|
position of looking up to another is extremely unpropitious to
|
|
complete sincerity and openness with him. The fear of losing ground
|
|
in his opinion or in his feelings is so strong, that even in an
|
|
upright character, there is an unconscious tendency to show only
|
|
the best side, or the side which, though not the best, is that
|
|
which he most likes to see: and it may be confidently said that
|
|
thorough knowledge of one another hardly ever exists, but between
|
|
persons who, besides being intimates, are equals. How much more
|
|
true, then, must all this be, when the one is not only under the
|
|
authority of the other, but has it inculcated on her as a duty to
|
|
reckon everything else subordinate to his comfort and pleasure, and
|
|
to let him neither see nor feel anything coming from her, except
|
|
what is agreeable to him. All these difficulties stand in the way
|
|
of a man's obtaining any thorough knowledge even of the one woman
|
|
whom alone, in general, he has sufficient opportunity of studying.
|
|
When we further consider that to understand one woman is not
|
|
necessarily to understand any other woman; that even if he could
|
|
study many women of one rank, or of one country, he would not
|
|
thereby understand women of other ranks or countries; and even if
|
|
he did, they are still only the women of a single period of
|
|
history; we may safely assert that the knowledge which men can
|
|
acquire of women, even as they have been and are, without reference
|
|
to what they might be, is wretchedly imperfect and superficial, and
|
|
always will be so, until women themselves have told all that they
|
|
have to tell.
|
|
|
|
And this time has not come; nor will it come otherwise than
|
|
gradually. It is but of yesterday that women have either been
|
|
qualified by literary accomplishments or permitted by society, to
|
|
tell anything to the general public. As yet very few of them dare
|
|
tell anything, which men, on whom their literary success depends,
|
|
are unwilling to hear. Let us remember in what manner, up to a very
|
|
recent time, the expression, even by a male author, of uncustomary
|
|
opinions, or what are deemed eccentric feelings, usually was, and
|
|
in some degree still is, received; and we may form some faint
|
|
conception under what impediments a woman, who is brought up to
|
|
think custom and opinion her sovereign rule, attempts to express in
|
|
books anything drawn from the depths of her own nature. The
|
|
greatest woman who has left writings behind her sufficient to give
|
|
her an eminent rank in the literature of her country, thought it
|
|
necessary to prefix as a motto to her boldest work, " Un homme peut
|
|
braver l'opinion; une femme doit s'y soumettre." [1] The greater
|
|
part of what women write about women is mere sycophancy to men. In
|
|
the case of unmarried women, much of it seems only intended to
|
|
increase their chance of a husband. Many, both married and
|
|
unmarried, overstep the mark, and inculcate a servility beyond what
|
|
is desired or relished by any man, except the very vulgarest. But
|
|
this is not so often the L case as, even at a quite late period, it
|
|
still was. Literary women I are becoming more free-spoken, and more
|
|
willing to express their real sentiments. Unfortunately, in this
|
|
country especially, they are themselves such artificial products,
|
|
that their sentiments are compounded of a small element of
|
|
individual observation and consciousness, and a very large one of
|
|
acquired associations. This will be less and less the case, but it
|
|
will remain true to a great extent, as long as social institutions
|
|
do not admit the same free development of originality in women
|
|
which is possible to men. When that time comes, and not before, we
|
|
shall see, and not merely hear, as much as it is necessary to know
|
|
of the nature of women, and the adaptation of other things to it.
|
|
|
|
I have dwelt so much on the difficulties which at present obstruct
|
|
any real knowledge by men of the true nature of women, because in
|
|
this as in so many other things "opinio copiae inter maximas causas
|
|
inopiae est"; and there is little chance of reasonable thinking on
|
|
the matter while people flatter themselves that they perfectly
|
|
understand a subject of which most men know absolutely nothing, and
|
|
of which it is at present impossible that any man, or all men taken
|
|
together, should have knowledge which can qualify them to lay down
|
|
the law to women as to what is, or is not, their vocation. Happily,
|
|
no such knowledge is necessary for any practical purpose connected
|
|
with the position of women is relation to society and life. For,
|
|
according to all the principles involved in modern society, the
|
|
question rests with women themselves--to be decided by their own
|
|
experience, and by the use of their own faculties. There are no
|
|
means of finding what either one person or many can do, but by
|
|
trying--and no means by which anyone else can discover for them
|
|
what it is for their happiness to do or leave undone.
|
|
|
|
One thing we may be certain of--that what is contrary to women's
|
|
nature to do, they never will be made to do by simply giving their
|
|
nature free play. The anxiety of mankind to interfere in behalf of
|
|
nature, for fear lest nature should not succeed m effecting its
|
|
purpose, is an altogether unnecessary solicitude. What women by
|
|
nature cannot do, it is quite superfluous to forbid them from
|
|
doing. What they can do, but not so well as the men who are their
|
|
competitors, competition suffices to exclude them from; since
|
|
nobody asks for protective duties and bounties in favour of women;
|
|
it is only asked that the present bounties and protective duties in
|
|
favour of men should be recalled. If women have a greater natural
|
|
inclination for somethings than for others, there is no need of
|
|
laws or social inculcation to make the majority of them do the
|
|
former in preference to the latter. Whatever women's services are
|
|
most wanted for, the free play of competition will hold out the
|
|
strongest inducements to them to undertake. And, as the words
|
|
imply, they are most wanted for the things for which they are most
|
|
fit; by the apportionment of which to them, the collective
|
|
faculties of the two sexes can be applied on the whole with the
|
|
greatest sum of valuable result. The general opinion of men is
|
|
supposed to be, that the natural vocation of a woman is that of a
|
|
wife and mother. I say, is supposed to be, because, judging from
|
|
acts--from the whole of the present constitution of society--one
|
|
might infer that their opinion was the direct contrary. They might
|
|
be supposed to think that the alleged natural vocation of women was
|
|
of all things the most repugnant to their nature; insomuch that if
|
|
they are free to do anything else--if any other means of living or
|
|
occupation of their time and faculties, is open, which has any
|
|
chance of appearing desirable to them- there will not be enough of
|
|
them who will be willing to accept the condition said to be natural
|
|
to them. If this is the real opinion of men in general, it would be
|
|
well that it should be spoken out. I should like to hear somebody
|
|
openly enunciating the doctrine (it is already implied in much that
|
|
is written on the subJect)- It is necessary to society that women
|
|
should marry and produce children. They will not do so unless they
|
|
are compelled. Therefore it is necessary to compel them. " The
|
|
merits of the case would then be clearly defined. It would be
|
|
exactly that of the slave-holders of South Carolina and Louisiana.
|
|
" It is necessary that cotton and sugar should be grown. White men
|
|
cannot produce them. Negroes will not, for any wages which we
|
|
choose to give. Ergo they must be compelled. " An illustration
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still closer to the point is that of impressment. Sailors must
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absolutely be had to defend the country. It often happens that they
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will not voluntarily enlist. Therefore there must be the power of
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forcing them. How often has this logic been used!and, but for one
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flaw in it, without doubt it would have been successful up to this
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day. But lt is open to the retort-- First pay the sailors the
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honest value of their labour. When you have made it as well worth
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their while to serve you, as to work for other employers, you will
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have no more difficulty than others have in obtaining their
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services. To this there is no logical answer except"I will not":
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and as people are now not only ashamed, but are not desirous, to
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rob the labourer of his hire, impressment is no longer advocated.
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Those who attempt to force women into marriage by closing all other
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doors against them, lay themselves open to a similar retort. If
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they mean what they say, their opinion must evidently be, that men
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do not render the married condition so desirable to women, as to
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induce them to accept it for its own recommendations. It is not a
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sign of one's thinking the boon one offers very attractive, when
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one allows only Hobson's choice, "that or none. " And here, I
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believe, is the clue to the feelings of those men, who have a real
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antipathy to the equal freedom of women. I believe they are afraid,
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not lest women should be unwilling to marry, for I do not think
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that anyone in reality has that apprehension; but lest they should
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insist that marriage should be on equal conditions; lest all women
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of spirit and capacity should prefer doing almost anything else,
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not in their own eyes degrading, rather than marry, when marrying
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is giving themselves a master, and a master too of all their
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earthly possessions. And truly, if this consequence were
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necessarily incident to marriage, I think that the apprehension
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would be very well founded. I agree in thinking it probable that
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few women, capable of anything else, would, unless under an
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irresistible entrainement, rendering them for the time insensible
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to anything but itself, choose such a lot, when any other means
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were open to them of filling a conventionally honourable place in
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life: and if men are determined that the law of marriage shall be
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a law of despotism, they are quite right, in point of mere policy,
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in leaving to women only Hobson's choice. But, in that case, all
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that has been done in the modern world to relax the chain on the
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minds of women, has been a mistake. They never should have been
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allowed to receive a literary education. Women who read, much more
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women who write, are, in the existing constitution of things, a
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contradiction and a disturbing element: and it was wrong to bring
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women up with any acquirements but those of an odalisque, or of a
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domestic servant.
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NOTES
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[1] Title-page of Mme de Stael's Delphine.
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CHAPTER II
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It will be well to commence the detailed discussion of the subject
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by the particular branch of it to which the course of our
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observations has led us: the conditions which the laws of this and
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all other countries annex to the marriage contract. Marriage being
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the destination appointed by society for women, the prospect they
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are brought up to, and the object which it is intended should be
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sought by all of them, except those who are too little attractive
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to be chosen by any man as his companion; one might have supposed
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that everything would have been done to make this condition as
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eligible to them as possible, that they might have no cause to
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regret being denied the option of any other. Society, however, both
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in this, and, at first, in all other cases, has preferred to attain
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its object by foul rather than fair means: but this is the only
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case in which it has substantially persisted in them even to the
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present day. Originally women were taken by force, or regularly
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sold by their father to the husband. Until a late period in
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European history, the father had the power to dispose of his
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daughter in marriage at his own will and pleasure, without any
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regard to hers. The Church, indeed, was so far faithful to a better
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morality as to require a formal "yes" from the woman at the
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marriage ceremony; but there was nothing to show that the consent
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was other than compulsory; and it was practically impossible for
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the girl to refuse compliance if the father persevered, except
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perhaps when she might obtain the protection of religion by a
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determined resolution to take monastic vows. After marriage, the
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man had anciently (but this was anterior to Christianity) the power
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of life and death over his wife. She could invoke no law against
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him; he was her sole tribunal and law. For a long time he could
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repudiate her, but she had no corresponding power in regard to him.
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By the old laws of England, the husband was called the lord of the
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wife; he was literally regarded as her sovereign, inasmuch that the
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murder of a man by his wife was called treason (petty as
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distinguished from high treason), and was more cruelly avenged than
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was usually the case with high treason, for the penalty was burning
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to death. Because these various enormities have fallen into disuse
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(for most of them were never formally abolished, or not until they
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had long ceased to be practised) men suppose that all is now as it
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should be in regard to the marriage contract; and we are
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continually told that civilisation and Christianity have restored
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to the woman her just rights. Meanwhile the wife is the actual bond
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servant of her husband: no less so, as far as legal obligation
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goes, than slaves commonly so called. She vows a livelong obedience
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to him at the altar, and is held to it all through her life by law.
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Casuists may say that the obligation of obedience stops short of
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participation in crime, but it certainly extends to everything
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else. She can do no act whatever but by his permission, at least
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tacit. She can acquire no property but for him; the instant it
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becomes hers, even if by inheritance, it becomes ipso facto his. In
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this respect the wife's position under the common law of England is
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worse than that-of slaves in the laws of many countries: by the
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Roman law, for example, a slave might have his peculium, which to
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a certain extent the law guaranteed to him for his exclusive use.
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The higher classes in this country have given an analogous
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advantage to their women, through special contracts setting aside
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the law, by conditions of pin-money, etc. : since parental feeling
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being stronger with fathers than the class feeling of their own
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sex, a father generally prefers his own daughter to a son-in-law
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who is a stranger to him. By means of settlements, the rich usually
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contrive to withdraw the whole or part of the inherited property of
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the wife from the absolute control of the husband: but they do not
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|
succeed in keeping it under her own control; the utmost they can do
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only prevents the husband from squandering it, at the same time
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debarring the rightful owner from its use. The property itself is
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|
out of the reach of both; and as to the income derived from it, the
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form of settlement most favourable to the wife (that called "to her
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separate use") only precludes the husband from receiving it instead
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|
of her: it must pass through her hands, but if he takes it from her
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by personal violence as soon as she receives it, he can neither be
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punished, nor compelled to restitution. This is the amount of the
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protection which, under the laws of this country, the most powerful
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nobleman can give to his own daughter as respects her husband. In
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the immense majority of cases there is no settlement: and the
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absorption of all rights, all property, as well as all freedom of
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action, is complete. The two are called " one person in law, " for
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the purpose of inferring that whatever is hers is his, but the
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parallel inference is never drawn that whatever is his is hers; the
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maxim is not applied against the man, except to make him
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responsible to third parties for her acts, as a master is for the
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|
acts of his slaves or of his cattle. I am far from pretending that
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wives are in general no better treated than slaves; but no slave is
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a slave to the same lengths, and in so full a sense of the word, as
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a wife is. Hardly any slave, except one immediately attached to the
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master's person, is a slave at all hours and all minutes; in
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general he has, like a soldier, his fixed task, and when it is
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|
done, or when he is off duty, he disposes, within certain limits,
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|
of his own time, and has a family life into which the master rarely
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|
intrudes. "Uncle Tom " under his first master had his own life in
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|
his "cabin, " almost as much as any man whose work takes him away
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|
from home, is able to have in his own family. But it cannot be so
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|
with the wife. Above all, a female slave has (in Christian
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|
countries) an admitted right, and is considered under a moral
|
|
obligation, to refuse to her master the last familiarity. Not so
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|
the wife: however brutal a tyrant she may unfortunately be chained
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|
to--though she may know that he hates her, though it may be his
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|
daily pleasure to torture her, and though she may feel it
|
|
impossible not to loathe him--he can claim from her and enforce the
|
|
lowest degradation of a human being, that of being made the
|
|
instrument of an animal function contrary to her inclinations.
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|
While she is held in this worst description of slavery as to her
|
|
own person, what is her position in regard to the children in whom
|
|
she and her master have a joint interest? They are by law his
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|
children. He alone has any legal rights over them. Not one act can
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|
she do towards or in relation to them, except by delegation from
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|
him. Even after he is dead she is not their legal guardian, unless
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|
he by will has made her so. He could even send them away from her,
|
|
and deprive her of the means of seeing or corresponding with them,
|
|
until this power was in some degree restricted by Serjeant
|
|
Talfourd's Act. This is her legal state. And from this state she
|
|
has no means of withdrawing herself. If she leaves her husband, she
|
|
can take nothing with her, neither her children nor anything which
|
|
is rightfully her own. If he chooses, he can compel her to return,
|
|
by law, or by physical force; or he may content himself with
|
|
seizing for his own use anything which she may earn, or which may
|
|
be given to her by her relations. It is only legal separation by a
|
|
decree of a court of justice, which entitles her to live apart,
|
|
without being forced back into the custody of an exasperated
|
|
jailer--or which empowers her to apply any earnings to her own use,
|
|
without fear that a man whom perhaps she has not seen for twenty
|
|
years will pounce upon her some day and carry all off. This legal
|
|
separation, until lately, the courts of justice would only give at
|
|
an expense which made it inaccessible to anyone out of the higher
|
|
ranks. Even now it is only given in cases of desertion, or of the
|
|
extreme of cruelty; and yet complaints are made every day that it
|
|
is granted too easily. Surely, if a woman is denied any lot in life
|
|
but that of being the personal body-servant of a despot, and is
|
|
dependent for everything upon the chance of finding one who may be
|
|
disposed to make a favourite of her instead of merely a drudge, it
|
|
is a very cruel aggravation of her fate that she should be allowed
|
|
to try this chance only once. The natural sequel and corollary from
|
|
this state of things would be, that since her all in life depends
|
|
upon obtaining a good master, she should be allowed to change again
|
|
and again until she finds one. I am not saying that she ought to be
|
|
allowed this privilege. That is a totally different consideration.
|
|
The question of divorce, in the sense involving liberty of
|
|
remarriage, is one into which it is foreign to my purpose to enter.
|
|
All I now say is, that to those to whom nothing but servitude is
|
|
allowed, the free choice of servitude is the only, though a most
|
|
insufficient, alleviation. Its refusal completes the assimilation
|
|
of the wife to the slave--and the slave under not the mildest form
|
|
of slavery: for in some slave codes the slave could, under certain
|
|
circumstances of ill usage, legally compel the master to sell him.
|
|
But no amount of ill usage, without adultery superadded, will in
|
|
England free a wife from her tormentor.
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|
|
|
I have no desire to exaggerate, nor does the case stand in any need
|
|
of exaggeration. I have described the wife's legal position, not
|
|
her actual treatment. The laws of most countries are far worse than
|
|
the people who execute them, and many of them are only able to
|
|
remain laws by being seldom or never carried into effect. If
|
|
married life were all that it might be expected to be, looking to
|
|
the laws alone, society would be a hell upon earth. Happily there
|
|
are both feelings and interests which in many men exclude, and in
|
|
most, greatly temper, the impulses and propensities which lead to
|
|
tyranny: and of those feelings, the tie which connects a man with
|
|
his wife affords, in a normal state of things, incomparably the
|
|
strongest example. The only tie which at all approaches to it. that
|
|
between him and his children, tends, in all save exceptional cases,
|
|
to strengthen, instead of conflicting with, the first. Because this
|
|
is true; because men in general do not inflict, nor women suffer,
|
|
all the misery which could be inflicted and suffered if the full
|
|
power of tyranny with which the man is legally invested were acted
|
|
on; the defenders of the existing form of the institution think
|
|
that all its iniquity is justified, and that any complaint is
|
|
merely quarrelling with the evil which is the price paid for every
|
|
great good. But the mitigations in practice, which are compatible
|
|
with maintaining in full legal force this or any other kind of
|
|
tyranny, instead of being any apology for despotism, only serve to
|
|
prove what power human nature possesses of reacting against the
|
|
vilest institutions, and with what vitality the seeds of good as
|
|
well as those of evil in human character diffuse and propagate
|
|
themselves. Not a word can be said for despotism in the family
|
|
which cannot be said for political despotism. Every absolute king
|
|
does not sit at his window to enjoy the groans of his tortured
|
|
subjects, nor strips them of their last rag and turns them out to
|
|
shiver in the road The despotism of Louis XVI was not the despotism
|
|
of Philippe le Bel, or of Nadir Shah, or of Caligula; but it was
|
|
bad enough to justify the French Revolution, and to palliate even
|
|
its horrors. If an appeal be made to the intense attachments which
|
|
exist between wives and their husbands, exactly as much may be said
|
|
of domestic slavery. It was quite an ordinary fact in Greece and
|
|
Rome for slaves to submit to death by torture rather than betray
|
|
their masters. In the proscriptions of the Roman civil wars it was
|
|
remarked that wives and slaves were heroically faithful, sons very
|
|
commonly treacherous. Yet we know how cruelly many Romans treated
|
|
their slaves. But in truth these intense individual feelings
|
|
nowhere rise to such a luxuriant height as under the most atrocious
|
|
institutions. It IS part of the irony of life, that the strongest
|
|
feelings of devoted gratitude of which human nature seems to be
|
|
susceptible, are called forth in human beings towards those who,
|
|
having the power entirely to crush their earthly existence,
|
|
voluntarily refrain from using that power. How great a place in
|
|
most men this sentiment fills, even in religious devotion, it would
|
|
be cruel to inquire. We daily see how much their gratitude to
|
|
Heaven appears to be stimulated by the contemplation of
|
|
fellow-creatures to whom God has not been so merciful as he has to
|
|
themselves.
|
|
|
|
Whether the institution to be defended is slavery, political
|
|
absolutism, or the absolutism of the head of a family, we are
|
|
always expected to judge of it from its best instances; and we are
|
|
presented with pictures of loving exercise of authority on one
|
|
side, loving submission to it on the other--superior wisdom
|
|
ordering all things for the greatest good of the dependents, and
|
|
surrounded by their smiles and benedictions. All this would be very
|
|
much to the purpose if anyone pretended that there are no such
|
|
things as goodmen. Who doubts that there may be great goodness, and
|
|
great happiness, and great affection, under the absolute government
|
|
of a good man? Meanwhile, laws and institutions require to be
|
|
adapted, not to good men, but to bad. Marriage is not an
|
|
institution designed fora select few. Men are not required, as a
|
|
preliminary to the marriage ceremony, to prove by testimonials that
|
|
they are fit to be trusted with the exercise of absolute power. The
|
|
tie of affection and obligation to a wife and children is very
|
|
strong with those whose general social feelings are strong, and
|
|
with many who are little sensible to any other social ties; but
|
|
there are all degrees of sensibility and insensibility to it, as
|
|
there are all grades of goodness and wickedness in men, down to
|
|
those whom no ties will bind, and on whom society has no action but
|
|
through its ultima ratio, the penalties of the law. In every grade
|
|
of this descending scale are men to whom are committed all the
|
|
legal powers of a husband. The vilest malefactor has some wretched
|
|
woman tied to him, against whom he can commit any atrocity except
|
|
killing her, and, if tolerably cautious, can do that without much
|
|
danger of the legal penalty. And how many thousands are there among
|
|
the lowest classes in every country, who, without being in a legal
|
|
sense malefactors in any other respect, because in every other
|
|
quarter their aggressions meet with resistance, indulge the utmost
|
|
habitual excesses of bodily violence towards the unhappy wife, who
|
|
alone, at least of grown persons, can neither repel nor escape from
|
|
their brutality; and towards whom the excess of dependence inspires
|
|
their mean and savage natures, not with a generous forbearance, and
|
|
a point of honour to behave well to one whose lot in life is
|
|
trusted entirely to their kindness, but on the contrary with a
|
|
notion that the law has delivered her to them as their thing, to be
|
|
used at their pleasure, and that they are not expected to practise
|
|
the consideration towards her which is required from them towards
|
|
everybody else. The law, which till lately left even these
|
|
atrocious extremes of domestic oppression practically unpunished,
|
|
has within these few years made some feeble attempts to repress
|
|
them. But its attempts have done little, and cannot be expected to
|
|
do much, because it is contrary to reason and experience to suppose
|
|
that there can be any real check to brutality, consistent with
|
|
leaving the victim still in the power of the executioner. Until a
|
|
conviction for personal violence, or at all events a repetition of
|
|
it after a first conviction, entitles the woman ipso facto to a
|
|
divorce, or at least to a judicial separation, the attempt to
|
|
repress these "aggravated assaults " by legal penalties will break
|
|
down for want of a prosecutor, or for want of a witness.
|
|
|
|
When we consider how vast is the number of men, in any great
|
|
country, who are little higher than brutes, and that this never
|
|
prevents them from being able, through the law of marriage, to
|
|
obtain a victim, the breadth and depth of human misery caused in
|
|
this shape alone by the abuse of the institution swells to
|
|
something appalling. Yet these are only the extreme cases. They are
|
|
the lowest abysses, but there is a sad succession of depth after
|
|
depth before reaching them. In domestic as in political tyranny,
|
|
the case of absolute monsters chiefly illustrates the institution
|
|
by showing that there is scarcely any horror which may not occur
|
|
under it if the despot pleases, and thus setting in a strong light
|
|
what must be the terrible frequency of things only a little less
|
|
atrocious. Absolute fiends are as rare as angels, perhaps rarer:
|
|
ferocious savages, with occasional touches of humanity, are however
|
|
very frequent: and in the wide interval which separates these from
|
|
any worthy representatives of the human species, how many are the
|
|
forms and gradations of animalism and selfishness, often under an
|
|
outward varnish of civilisation and even cultivation, living at
|
|
peace with the law, maintaining a creditable appearance to all who
|
|
are not under their power, yet sufficient often to make the lives
|
|
of all who are so, a torment and a burthen to them ! It would be
|
|
tiresome to repeat the commonplaces about the unfitness of men in
|
|
general for power, which, after the political discussions of
|
|
centuries, everyone knows by heart, were it not that hardly anyone
|
|
thinks of applying these maxims to the case in which above all
|
|
others they are applicable, that of power, not placed in the hands
|
|
of a man here and there, but offered to every adult male, down to
|
|
the basest and most ferocious. It is not because a man is not known
|
|
to have broken any of the Ten Commandments, or because he maintains
|
|
a respectable character in his dealings with those whom he cannot
|
|
compel to have intercourse with him, or because he does not fly out
|
|
into violent bursts of ill-temper against those who are not obliged
|
|
to bear with him, that it is possible to surmise of what sort his
|
|
conduct will be in the unrestraint of home. Even the commonest men
|
|
reserve the violent, the sulky, the undisguisedly selfish side of
|
|
their character for those who have no power to withstand it.
|
|
The relation of superiors to dependents is the nursery of these
|
|
vices of character, which, wherever else they exist, are an
|
|
overflowing from that source. A man who is morose or violent to his
|
|
equals, is sure to be one who has lived among inferiors, whom he
|
|
could frighten or worry into submission. If the family in its best
|
|
forms is, as it is often said to be, a school of sympathy,
|
|
tenderness, and loving forgetfulness of self, it is still oftener,
|
|
as respects its chief, a school of wilfulness, overbearingness,
|
|
unbounded selfish indulgence, and a double-dyed and idealised
|
|
selfishness, of which sacrifice itself is only a particular form:
|
|
the care for the wife and children being only care for them as
|
|
parts of the man's own interests and belongings, and their
|
|
individual happiness being immolated in every shape to his smallest
|
|
preferences. What better is to be looked for under the existing
|
|
form of the institution? We know that the bad propensities of human
|
|
nature are only kept within bounds when they are allowed no scope
|
|
for their indulgence. We know that from impulse and habit, when not
|
|
from deliberate purpose, almost everyone to whom others yield, goes
|
|
on encroaching upon them, until a point is reached at which they
|
|
are compelled to resist. Such being the common tendency of human
|
|
nature; the almost unlimited power which present social
|
|
institutions give to the man over at least one human being-- the
|
|
one with whom he resides, and whom he has always present -- this
|
|
power seeks out and evokes the latent germs of selfishness in the
|
|
remotest corners of his nature--fans its faintest sparks and
|
|
smouldering embers--offers to him a licence for the indulgence of
|
|
those points of his original character which in all other relations
|
|
he would have found it necessary to repress and conceal, and the
|
|
repression of which would in time have become a second nature. I
|
|
know that there is another side to the question. I grant that the
|
|
wife, if she cannot effectually resist, can at least retaliate;
|
|
she, too, can make the man's life extremely uncomfortable, and by
|
|
that power is able to carry many points which she ought, and many
|
|
which she ought not, to prevail in. But this instrument of
|
|
self-protection--which may be called the power of the scold, or the
|
|
shrewish sanction--has the fatal defect, that it avails most
|
|
against the least tyrannical superiors, and in favour of the least
|
|
deserving dependents. It is the weapon of irritable and self-willed
|
|
women; of those who would make the worst use of power if they
|
|
themselves had it, and who generally turn this power to a bad use.
|
|
The amiable cannot use such an instrument, the high minded disdain
|
|
it. And on the other hand, the husbands against whom it is used
|
|
most effectively are the gentler and more inoffensive; those who
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cannot be induced, even by provocation, to resort to any very harsh
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exercise of authority. The wife's power of being disagreeable
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generally only establishes a counter-tyranny, and makes victims in
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their turn chiefly of those husbands who are least inclined to be
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tyrants.
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What is it, then, which really tempers the corrupting effects of
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the power, and makes it compatible with such amount of good as we
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actually see? Mere feminine blandishments. though of great effect
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in individual instances, have very little effect in modifying the
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general tendencies of the situation; for their power only lasts
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while the woman is young and attractive, often only while her charm
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is new, and not dimmed by familiarity; and on many men they have
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not much influence at any time. The real mitigating causes are, the
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personal affection which is the growth of time in so far as the
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man's nature is susceptible of it and the woman's character
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sufficiently congenial with his to excite it; their common
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interests as regards the children, and their general community of
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interest as concerns third persons(to which however there are very
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great limitations); the real importance of the wife to his daily
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comforts and enjoyments, and the value he consequently attaches to
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her on his personal account, which, in a man capable of feeling for
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others, lays the foundation of caring for her on her own; and
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lastly, the influence naturally acquired over almost all human
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beings by those near to their persons (if not actually disagreeable
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to them): who, both by their direct entreaties, and by the
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insensible contagion of their feelings and dispositions, are often
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able, unless counteracted by some equally strong personal
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influence, to obtain a degree of command over the conduct of the
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superior, altogether excessive and unreasonable. Through these
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various means, the wife frequently exercises even too much power
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over the man; she is able to affect his conduct in things in which
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she may not be qualified to influence it for good--in which her
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influence may be not only unenlightened, but employed on the
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morally wrong side; and in which he would act better if left to his
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own prompting. But neither in the affairs of families nor in those
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of states is power a compensation for the loss of freedom. Her
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power often gives her what she has no right to, but does not enable
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her to assert her own rights. A Sultan's favourite slave has slaves
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under her, over whom she tyrannises; but the desirable thing would
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be that she should neither have slaves nor be a slave. By entirely
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sinking her own existence in her husband; by having no will (or
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persuading him that she has no will) but his, in anything which
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regards their joint relation, and by making it the business of her
|
|
life to work upon his sentiments, a wife may gratify herself by
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influencing, and very probably perverting, his conduct, in those of
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his external relations which she has never qualified herself to
|
|
judge of, or in which she is herself wholly influenced by some
|
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personal or other partiality or prejudice. Accordingly, as things
|
|
now are, those who act most kindly to their wives, are quite as
|
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often made worse, as better, by the wife's influence, in respect to
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all interests extending beyond the family. She is taught that she
|
|
has no business with things out of that sphere; and accordingly she
|
|
seldom has any honest and conscientious opinion on them; and
|
|
therefore hardly ever meddles with them for any legitimate purpose,
|
|
but generally for an interested one. She neither knows nor cares
|
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which is the right side in politics, but she knows what will bring
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in money or invitations, give her husband a title, her son a place,
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or her daughter a good marriage.
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But how, it will be asked, can any society exist without
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government? In a family, as in a state, some one person must be the
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|
ultimate ruler. Who shall decide when married people differ in
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|
opinion? Both cannot have their way, yet a decision one way or the
|
|
other must be come to.
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|
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It is not true that in all voluntary association between two
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|
people, one of them must be absolute master: still less that the
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law must determine which of them it shall be. The most frequent
|
|
case of voluntary association, next to marriage, is partnership in
|
|
business: and it is not found or thought necessary to enact that in
|
|
every partnership, one partner shall have entire control over the
|
|
concern, and the others shall be bound to obey his orders. No one
|
|
would enter into partnership on terms which would subject him to
|
|
the responsibilities of a principal, with only the powers and
|
|
privileges of a clerk or agent. If the law dealt with other
|
|
contracts as it does with marriage, it would ordain that one
|
|
partner should administer the common business as if it was his
|
|
private concern; that the others should have only delegated powers;
|
|
and that this one should be designated by some general presumption
|
|
of law, for example as being the eldest. The law never does this:
|
|
nor does experience show it to be necessary that any theoretical
|
|
inequality of power should exist between the partners, or that the
|
|
partnership should have any other conditions than what they may
|
|
themselves appoint by their articles of agreement. Yet it might
|
|
seem that the exclusive power might be conceded with less danger to
|
|
the rights and interests of the inferior, in the case of
|
|
partnership than in that of marriage, since he is free to cancel
|
|
the power by withdrawing from the connexion. The wife has no such
|
|
power, and even if she had, it is almost always desirable that she
|
|
should try all measures before resorting to it.
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|
|
|
It is quite true that things which have to be decided everyday, and
|
|
cannot adjust themselves gradually, or wait for a compromise, ought
|
|
to depend on one will; one person must have their sole control. But
|
|
it does not follow that this should always be the same person. The
|
|
natural arrangement is a division of powers between the two; each
|
|
being absolute in the executive branch of their own department, and
|
|
any change of system and principle requiring the consent of both.
|
|
The division neither can nor should be pre-established by the law,
|
|
since it must depend on individual capacities and suitabilities. If
|
|
the two persons chose, they might pre-appoint it by the marriage
|
|
contract, as pecuniary arrangements are now often pre-appointed.
|
|
There would seldom be any difficulty in deciding such things by
|
|
mutual consent, unless the marriage was one of those unhappy ones
|
|
in which all other things, as well as this, become subjects of
|
|
bickering and dispute. The division of rights would naturally
|
|
follow the division of duties and functions; and that is already
|
|
made by consent, or at all events not by law, but by general
|
|
custom, modified and modifiable at the pleasure of the persons
|
|
concerned.
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|
|
|
The real practical decision of affairs, to whichever may be given
|
|
the legal authority, will greatly depend, as it even now does, upon
|
|
comparative qualifications. The mere fact that he is usually the
|
|
eldest, will in most cases give the preponderance to the man; at
|
|
least until they both attain a time of life at which the difference
|
|
in their years is of no importance. There will naturally also be a
|
|
more potential voice on the side, whichever it is, that brings the
|
|
means of support. Inequality from this source does not depend on
|
|
the law of marriage, but on the general conditions of human
|
|
society, as now constituted. The influence of mental superiority,
|
|
either general or special, and of superior decision of character,
|
|
will necessarily tell for much. It always does so at present. And
|
|
this fact shows how little foundation there is for the apprehension
|
|
that the powers and responsibilities of partners in life (as of
|
|
partners in business), cannot be satisfactorily apportioned by
|
|
agreement between themselves. They always are so apportioned,
|
|
except in cases in which the marriage institution is a failure.
|
|
Things never come to an issue of downright power on one side, and
|
|
obedience on the other, except where the connexion altogether has
|
|
been a mistake, and it would be a blessing to both parties to be
|
|
relieved from it. Some may say that the very thing by which an
|
|
amicable settlement of differences becomes possible, is the power
|
|
of legal compulsion known to be in reserve; as people submit to an
|
|
arbitration because there is a court of law in the background,
|
|
which they know that they can be forced to obey. But to make the
|
|
cases parallel, we must suppose that the rule of the court of law
|
|
was, not to try the cause, but to give judgment always for the same
|
|
side, suppose the defendant. If so, the amenability to it would be
|
|
a motive with the plaintiff to agree to almost any arbitration, but
|
|
it would be just the reverse with the defendant. The despotic power
|
|
which the law gives to the husband may be a reason to make the wife
|
|
assent to any compromise by which power is practically shared
|
|
between the two, but it cannot be the reason why the husband does.
|
|
That there is always among decently conducted people a practical
|
|
compromise, though one of them at least is under no physical or
|
|
moral necessity of making it, shows that the natural motives which
|
|
lead to a voluntary adjustment of the united life of two persons in
|
|
a manner acceptable to both, do on the whole, excepting
|
|
unfavourable cases, prevail. The matter is certainly not improved
|
|
by laying down as an ordinance of law, that the superstructure of
|
|
free government shall be raised upon a legal basis of despotism on
|
|
one side and subjection on the other, and that every concession
|
|
which the despot makes may, at his mere pleasure, and without any
|
|
warning, be recalled. Besides that no freedom is worth much when
|
|
held on so precarious a tenure, its conditions are not likely to be
|
|
the most equitable when the law throws so prodigious a weight into
|
|
one scale; when the adjustment rests between two persons one of whom
|
|
is declared to be entitled to everything, the other not only
|
|
entitled to nothing except during the good pleasure of the first,
|
|
but under the strongest moral and religious obligation not to rebel
|
|
under any excess of oppression.
|
|
|
|
A pertinacious adversary, pushed to extremities, may say, that
|
|
husbands indeed are willing to be reasonable, and to make fair
|
|
concessions to their partners without being compelled to it, but
|
|
that wives are not: that if allowed any rights of their own, they
|
|
will acknowledge no rights at all in anyone else, and never will
|
|
yield in anything, unless they can be compelled, by the man's mere
|
|
authority, to yield in everything. This would have been said by
|
|
many persons some generations ago, when satires on women were in
|
|
vogue, and men thought it a clever thing to insult women for being
|
|
what men made them. But it will be said by no one now who is worth
|
|
replying to. It is not the doctrine of the present day that women
|
|
are less susceptible of good feeling, and consideration for those
|
|
with whom they are united by the strongest ties, than men are. On
|
|
the contrary, we are perpetually told that women are better than
|
|
men, by those who are totally opposed to treating them as if they
|
|
were as good; so that the saying has passed into a piece of
|
|
tiresome cant, intended to put a complimentary face upon an injury,
|
|
and resembling those celebrations of royal clemency which,
|
|
according to Gulliver, the king of Lilliput always prefixed to his
|
|
most sanguinary decrees. If women are better than men in anything,
|
|
it surely is in individual self-sacrifice for those of their own
|
|
family. But I lay little stress on this, so long as they are
|
|
universally taught that they are born and created for
|
|
self-sacrifice. I believe that equality of rights would abate the
|
|
exaggerated self-abnegation which is the present artificial ideal
|
|
of feminine character, and that a good woman would not be more
|
|
self-sacrificing than the best man: but on the other hand, men
|
|
would be much more unselfish and self-sacrificing than at present,
|
|
because they would no longer be taught to worship their own will as
|
|
such a grand thing that it is actually the law for another rational
|
|
being. There is nothing which men so easily learn as this
|
|
self-worship: all privileged persons, and all privileged classes,
|
|
have had it. The more we descend in the scale of humanity, the
|
|
intenser it is; and most of all in those who are not, and can never
|
|
expect to be, raised above anyone except an unfortunate wife and
|
|
children. The honourable exceptions are proportionally fewer than
|
|
in the case of almost any other human infirmity. Philosophy and
|
|
religion, instead of keeping it in check, are generally suborned to
|
|
defend it; and nothing controls it but that practical feeling of
|
|
the equality of human beings, which is the theory of Christianity,
|
|
but which Christianity will never practically teach, while it
|
|
sanctions institutions grounded on an arbitrary preference of one
|
|
human being over another.
|
|
|
|
There are, no doubt, women, as there are men, whom equality of
|
|
consideration will not satisfy; with whom there is no peace while
|
|
any will or wish is regarded but their own. Such persons are a
|
|
proper subject for the law of divorce. They are only fit to live
|
|
alone, and no human beings ought to be compelled to associate their
|
|
lives with them. But the legal subordination tends to make such
|
|
characters among women more, rather than less, frequent. If the man
|
|
exerts his whole power, the woman is of course crushed: but if she
|
|
is treated with indulgence, and permitted to assume power, there is
|
|
no rule to set limits to her encroachments. The law, not
|
|
determining her rights, but theoretically allowing her none at all,
|
|
practically declares that the measure of what she has a right to,
|
|
is what she can contrive to get.
|
|
|
|
The equality of married persons before the law, is not only the
|
|
sole mode in which that particular relation can be made consistent
|
|
with justice to both sides, and conducive to the happiness of both,
|
|
but it is the only means of rendering the daily life of mankind, in
|
|
any high sense, a school of moral cultivation. Though the truth may
|
|
not be felt or generally acknowledged for generations to come, the
|
|
only school of genuine moral sentiment is society between equals.
|
|
The moral education of mankind has hitherto emanated chiefly from
|
|
the law of force, and is adapted almost solely to the relations
|
|
which force creates. In the less advanced states of society, people
|
|
hardly recognise any relation with their equals. To be an equal is
|
|
to be an enemy. Society, from its highest place to its lowest, is
|
|
one long chain, or rather ladder, where every individual is either
|
|
above or below his nearest neighbour, and wherever he does not
|
|
command he must obey. Existing moralities, accordingly, are mainly
|
|
fitted to a relation of command and obedience. Yet command and
|
|
obedience are but unfortunate necessities of human life: society in
|
|
equality is its normal state. Already in modern life, and more and
|
|
more as it progressively improves, command and obedience become
|
|
exceptional facts in life, equal association its general rule. The
|
|
morality of the first ages rested on the obligation to submit to
|
|
power; that of the ages next following, on the right of the weak to
|
|
the forbearance and protection of the strong. How much longer is
|
|
one form of society and life to content itself with the morality
|
|
made for another ? We have had the morality of submission, and the
|
|
morality of chivalry and generosity; the time is now come for the
|
|
morality of justice. Whenever, in former ages, any approach has
|
|
been made to society in equality, Justice has asserted its claims
|
|
as the foundation of virtue. It was thus in the free republics of
|
|
antiquity. But even in the best of these, the equals were limited
|
|
to the free male citizens; slaves, women, and the unenfranchised
|
|
residents were under the law of force. The joint influence of Roman
|
|
civilisation and of Christianity obliterated these distinctions,
|
|
and in theory (if only partially in practice) declared the claims
|
|
of the human being, as such, to be paramount to those of sex,
|
|
class, or social position. The barriers which had begun to be
|
|
levelled were raised again by the northern conquests; and the whole
|
|
of modern history consists of the slow process by which they have
|
|
since been wearing away. We are entering into an order of things in
|
|
which justice will again be the primary virtue; grounded as before
|
|
on equal, but now also on sympathetic association; having its root
|
|
no longer in the instinct of equals for self protection, but in a
|
|
cultivated sympathy between them; and no one being now left out,
|
|
but an equal measure being extended to all. It is no novelty that
|
|
mankind do not distinctly foresee their own changes, and that their
|
|
sentiments are adapted to past, not to coming ages. To see the
|
|
futurity of the species has always been the privilege of the
|
|
intellectual elite, or of those who have learnt from them; to have
|
|
the feelings of that futurity has been the distinction, and usually
|
|
the martyrdom, of a still rarer elite. Institutions, books,
|
|
education, society, all go on training human beings for the old,
|
|
long after the new has come; much more when it is only coming. But
|
|
the true virtue of human beings is fitness to live together as
|
|
equals; claiming nothing for themselves but what they as freely
|
|
concede to everyone else; regarding command of any kind as an
|
|
exceptional necessity, and in all cases a temporary one; and
|
|
preferring, whenever possible, the society of those with whom
|
|
leading and following can be alternate and reciprocal. To these
|
|
virtues, nothing in life as at present constituted gives
|
|
cultivation by exercise. The family is a school of despotism, in
|
|
which the virtues of despotism, but also its vices, are largely
|
|
nourished. Citizenship, in free countries, is partly a school of
|
|
society in equality; but citizenship fills only a small place in
|
|
modern life, and does not come near the daily habits or inmost
|
|
sentiments. The family, justly constituted, would be the real
|
|
school of the virtues of freedom. It is sure to be a sufficient one
|
|
of everything else. It will always be a school of obedience for the
|
|
children, of command for the parents. What is needed is, that it
|
|
should be a school of sympathy in equality, of living together in
|
|
love, without power on one side or obedience on the other. This it
|
|
ought to be between the parents. It would then be an exercise of
|
|
those virtues which each requires to fit them for all other
|
|
association, and a model to the children of the feelings and
|
|
conduct which their temporary training by means of obedience is
|
|
designed to render habitual, and therefore natural, to them. The
|
|
moral training of mankind will never be adapted to the conditions
|
|
of the life for which all other human progress is a preparation,
|
|
until they practise in the family the same moral rule which is
|
|
adapted to the normal constitution of human society. Any sentiment
|
|
of freedom which can exist in a man whose nearest and dearest
|
|
intimacies, are with those of whom he is absolute master, is not
|
|
the genuine or Christian love of freedom, but, what the love of
|
|
freedom generally was in the ancients and in the middle ages---an
|
|
intense feeling of the dignity and importance of his own
|
|
personality; making him disdain a yoke for himself, of which he has
|
|
no abhorrence whatever in the abstract, but which he is abundantly
|
|
ready to impose on others for his own interest or glorification.
|
|
|
|
I readily admit (and it is the very foundation of my hopes) that
|
|
numbers of married people even under the present law (in the higher
|
|
classes of England probably a great majority), live in the spirit
|
|
of a just law of equality. Laws never would be improved, if there
|
|
were not numerous persons whose moral sentiments are better than
|
|
the existing laws. Such persons ought to support the principles
|
|
here advocated; of which the only object is to make all other
|
|
married couples similar to what these are now. But persons even of
|
|
considerable moral worth, unless they are also thinkers, are very
|
|
ready to believe that laws or practices, the evils of which they
|
|
have not personally experienced, do not produce any evils, but (if
|
|
seeming to be generally approved of) probably do good, and that it
|
|
is wrong to object to them. It would, however, be a great mistake
|
|
in such married people to suppose, because the legal conditions of
|
|
the tie which unites them do not occur to their thoughts once in a
|
|
twelve month, and because they live and feel in all respects as if
|
|
they were legally equals, that the same is the case with all other
|
|
married couples, wherever the husband is not a notorious ruffian.
|
|
To suppose this, would be to show equal ignorance of human nature
|
|
and of fact. The less fit a man is for the possession of power--the
|
|
less likely to be allowed to exercise it over any person with that
|
|
person's voluntary consent--the more does he hug himself in the
|
|
consciousness of the power the law gives him, exact its legal
|
|
rights to the utmost point which custom (the custom of men like
|
|
himself) will tolerate, and take pleasure in using the power,
|
|
merely to enliven the agreeable sense of possessing it. What is
|
|
more; in the most naturally brutal and morally uneducated part of
|
|
the lower classes, the legal slavery of the woman, and something in
|
|
the merely physical subjection to their will as an instrument,
|
|
causes them to feel a sort of disrespect and contempt towards their
|
|
own wife which they do not feel towards any other woman, or any
|
|
other human being, with whom they come in contact; and which makes
|
|
her seem to them an appropriate subject for any kind of indignity.
|
|
Let an acute observer of the signs of feeling, who has the
|
|
requisite opportunities, judge for himself whether this is not the
|
|
case: and if he finds that it is, let him not wonder at any amount
|
|
of disgust and indignation that can be felt against institutions
|
|
which lead naturally to this depraved state of the human mind.
|
|
|
|
We shall be told, perhaps, that religion imposes the duty of
|
|
obedience; as every established fact which is too bad to admit of
|
|
any other defence, is always presented to us as an injunction of
|
|
religion. The Church, it is very true, enjoins it in her
|
|
formularies, but it would be difficult to derive any such
|
|
injunction from Christianity. We are told that St. Paul said,
|
|
"Wives, obey your husbands": but he also said, "Slaves, obey your
|
|
masters. " It was not St. Paul's business, nor was it consistent
|
|
with his object, the propagation of Christianity, to incite anyone
|
|
to rebellion against existing laws. The Apostle's acceptance of all
|
|
social institutions as he found them, is no more to be construed as
|
|
a disapproval of attempts to improve them at the proper time, than
|
|
his declaration, "The powers that be are ordained of God, " gives
|
|
his sanction to military despotism, and to that alone, as the
|
|
Christian form of political government, or commands passive
|
|
obedience to it. To pretend that Christianity was intended to
|
|
stereotype existing forms of government and society, and protect
|
|
them against change, is to reduce it to the level of Islamism or of
|
|
Brahminism. It is precisely because Christianity has not done this,
|
|
that it has been the religion of the progressive portion of
|
|
mankind, and Islamism, Brahminism, etc. have been those of the
|
|
stationary portions; or rather (for there is no such thing as a
|
|
really stationary society) of the declining portions. There have
|
|
been abundance of people, in all ages of Christianity, who tried to
|
|
make it something of the same kind; to convert us into a sort of
|
|
Christian Mussulmans, with the Bible for a Koran, prohibiting all
|
|
improvement: and great has been their power, and many have had to
|
|
sacrifice their lives in resisting them. But they have been
|
|
resisted, and the resistance has made us what we are, and will yet
|
|
make us what we are to be.
|
|
|
|
After what has been said respecting the obligation of obedience, it
|
|
is almost superfluous to say anything concerning the more special
|
|
point included in the general one--a woman's right to her own
|
|
property; for I need not hope that this treatise can make any
|
|
impression upon those who need anything to convince them that a
|
|
woman's inheritance or gains ought to be as much her own after
|
|
marriage as before. The rule is simple: whatever would be the
|
|
husband's or wife's if they were not married, should be under their
|
|
exclusive control during marriage; which need not interfere with
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the power to tie up property by settlement, in order to preserve it
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for children. Some people are sentimentally shocked at the idea of
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a separate interest in money matters as inconsistent with the ideal
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fusion of two lives into one. For my own part, I am one of the
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strongest supporters of community of goods, when resulting from an
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entire unity of feeling in the owners, which makes all things
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common between them. But I have no relish for a community of goods
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resting on the doctrine, that what is mine is yours, but what is
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yours is not mine; and I should prefer to decline entering into
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such a compact with anyone, though I were myself the person to
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profit by it.
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This particular injustice and oppression to women, which is, to
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common apprehensions, more obvious than all the rest, admits of
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remedy without interfering with any other mischiefs: and there can
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belittle doubt that it will be one of the earliest remedied.
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Already, in many of the new and several of the old States of the
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American Confederation, provisions have been inserted even in the
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written Constitutions, securing to women equality of rights in this
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respect: and thereby improving materially the position, in the
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marriage relation, of those women at least who have property, by
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leaving them one instrument of power which they have not signed
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away; and preventing also the scandalous abuse of the marriage
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institution, which is perpetrated when a man entraps a girl into
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marrying him without a settlement, for the sole purpose of getting
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possession of her money. When the support of the family depends,
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not on property, but on earnings, the common arrangement, by which
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the man earns the income and the wife superintends the domestic
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expenditure, seems to me in general the most suitable division of
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labour between the two persons. If, in addition to the physical
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suffering of bearing children, and the whole responsibility of
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their care and education in early years, the wife undertakes the
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careful and economical application of the husband's earnings to the
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general comfort of the family; she takes not only her fair share,
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but usually the larger share, of the bodily and mental exertion
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required by their joint existence. If she undertakes any additional
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portion, it seldom relieves her from this, but only prevents her
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from performing it properly. The care which she is herself disabled
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from taking of the children and the household, nobody else takes;
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those of the children who do not die, grow up as they best can, and
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the management of the household is likely to be so bad, as even in
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point of economy to be a great drawback from the value of the
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wife's earnings. In another wise just state of things, it is not,
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therefore, I think, a desirable custom, that the wife should
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contribute by her labour to the income of the family. In an unjust
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state of things, her doing so may be useful to her, by making her
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of more value in the eyes of the man who is legally her master;
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but, on the other hand, it enables him still farther to abuse his
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power, by forcing her to work, and leaving the support of the
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family to her exertions, while he spends most of his time in
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drinking and idleness. The power of earning is essential to the
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dignity of a woman, if she has not independent property. But if
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marriage were an equal contract, not implying the obligation of
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obedience; if the connexion were no longer enforced to the
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oppression of those to whom it is purely a mischief, but a
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separation, on just terms (I do not now speak of a divorce), could
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be obtained by any woman who was morally entitled to it; and if she
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would then find all honourable employments as freely open to her as
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to men; it would not be necessary for her protection, that during
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marriage she should make this particular use of her faculties. Like
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a man when he chooses a profession, so, when a woman marries, it
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may in general be understood that she makes choice of the
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management of a household, and the bringing up of a family, as the
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first call upon her exertions, during as many years of her life as
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may be required for the purpose; and that she renounces, not all
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other objects and occupations, but all which are not consistent
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with the requirements of this. The actual exercise, in a habitual
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or systematic manner, of outdoor occupations, or such as cannot be
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carried on at home, would by this principle be practically
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interdicted to the greater number of married women. But the utmost
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latitude ought to exist for the adaptation of general rules to
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individual suitabilities; and there ought to be nothing to prevent
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faculties exceptionally adapted to any other pursuit, from obeying
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their vocation notwithstanding marriage: due provision being made
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for supplying otherwise any falling-short which might become
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inevitable, in her full performance of the ordinary functions of
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mistress of a family. These things, if once opinion were rightly
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directed on the subject, might with perfect safety be left to be
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regulated by opinion, without any interference of law.
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CHAPTER III
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On the other point which is involved in the just equality of women,
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their admissibility to all the functions and occupations hitherto
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retained as the monopoly of the stronger sex, I should anticipate
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no difficulty in convincing anyone who has gone with me on the
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subject of the equality of women in the family. I believe that
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their disabilities elsewhere are only clung to in order to maintain
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their subordination in domestic life; because the generality of the
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male sex cannot yet tolerate the idea of living with an equal. Were
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it not for-that, I think that almost everyone, in the existing
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state of opinion in politics and political economy, would admit the
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injustice of excluding half the human race from the greater number
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of lucrative occupations, and from almost all high social
|
|
functions; ordaining from their birth either that they are not, and
|
|
cannot by any possibility become, fit for employments which are
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|
legally open to the stupidest and basest of the other sex, or else
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|
that however fit they may be, those employments shall be
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|
interdicted to them, in order to be preserved for the exclusive
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|
benefit of males. In the last two centuries, when (which was seldom
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|
the case) any reason beyond the mere existence of the fact was
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|
thought to be required to justify the disabilities of women, people
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|
seldom assigned as a reason their inferior mental capacity; which,
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|
in times when there was a real trial of personal faculties (from
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|
which all women were not excluded) in the struggles of public life,
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|
no one really believed in. The reason given in those days was not
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women's unfitness, but the interest of society, by which was meant
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|
the interest of men: just as the raison d 'etat, meaning the
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convenience of the government, and the support of existing
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|
authority, was deemed a sufficient explanation and excuse for the
|
|
most flagitious crimes. In the present day, power holds a smoother
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|
language, and whomsoever it oppresses, always pretends to do so for
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their own good: accordingly, when anything is forbidden to women,
|
|
it is thought necessary to say, and desirable to believe, that they
|
|
are incapable of doing it, and that they depart from their real
|
|
path of success and happiness when they aspire to it. But to make
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this reason plausible (I do not say valid), those by whom it is
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urged must be prepared to carry it to a much greater length than
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anyone ventures to do in the face of present experience. It is not
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sufficient to maintain that women on the average are less gifted
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|
then men on the average, with certain of the higher mental
|
|
faculties, or that a smaller number of women than of men are fit
|
|
for occupations and functions of the highest intellectual
|
|
character. It is necessary to maintain that no women at all are fit
|
|
for them, and that the most eminent women arc inferior in mental
|
|
faculties to the most mediocre of the men on whom those functions
|
|
at present devolve. For if the performance of the function is
|
|
decided either by competition, or by any mode of choice which
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|
secures regard to the public interest, there needs be no
|
|
apprehension that any important employments will fall into the
|
|
hands of women inferior to average men, or to the average of their
|
|
male competitors. The only result would be that there would be
|
|
fewer women than men in such employments; a result certain to
|
|
happen in any case, if only from the preference always likely to be
|
|
felt by the majority of women for the one vocation in which there
|
|
is nobody to compete with them. Now, the most determined
|
|
depreciator of women will not venture to deny, that when we add the
|
|
experience of recent times to that of ages past, women, and not a
|
|
few merely, but many women, have proved themselves capable of
|
|
everything, perhaps without a single exception, which is done by
|
|
men, and of doing it successfully and creditably. The utmost that
|
|
can be said is, that there arc many things which none of them have
|
|
succeeded in doing as well as they have been done by some men--many
|
|
in which they have not reached the very highest rank. But there are
|
|
extremely few, dependent only on mental faculties, in which they
|
|
have not attained the rank next to the highest. Is not this enough,
|
|
and much more than enough, to make it a tyranny to them, and a
|
|
detriment to society, that they should not be allowed to compete
|
|
with men for the exercise of these functions ? Is it not a mere
|
|
truism to say, that such functions are often filled by men far less
|
|
fit for them than numbers of women, and who would be beaten by
|
|
women in any fair field of competition? What difference does it
|
|
make that there may be men somewhere, fully employed about other
|
|
things, who may be still better qualified for the things in
|
|
question than these women? Does not this take place in all
|
|
competitions? Is there so great a superfluity of men fit for high
|
|
duties, that society can afford to reject the service of any
|
|
competent person? Are we so certain of always finding a man made to
|
|
our hands for any duty or function of social importance which falls
|
|
vacant, that we lose nothing by putting a ban upon one half of
|
|
mankind, and refusing beforehand to make their faculties available,
|
|
however distinguished they may be? And even if we could do without
|
|
them, would it be consistent with justice to refuse to them their
|
|
fair share of honour and distinction, or to deny to them the equal
|
|
moral right of all human beings to choose their occupation (short
|
|
of injury to others) according to their own preferences, at their
|
|
own risk? Nor is the injustice confined to them: it is shared by
|
|
those who are in a position to benefit by their services. To ordain
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|
that any kind of persons shall not be physicians, or shall not be
|
|
advocates, or shall not be Members of Parliament, is to injure not
|
|
them only, but all who employ physicians or advocates, or elect
|
|
Members of Parliament, and who are deprived of the stimulating
|
|
effect of greater competition on the exertions of the competitors,
|
|
as well as restricted to a narrower range of individual choice.
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|
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It will perhaps be sufficient if I confine myself, in the details
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|
of my argument, to functions of a public nature: since, if I am
|
|
successful as to those, it probably will be readily granted that
|
|
women should be admissible to all other occupations to which it is
|
|
at all material whether they are admitted or not. And here let me
|
|
begin by marking out one function, broadly distinguished from all
|
|
others, their right to which is entirely independent of any
|
|
question which can be raised concerning their faculties. I mean the
|
|
suffrage, both parliamentary and municipal. The right to share in
|
|
the choice of those who are to exercise a public trust, is
|
|
altogether a distinct thing from that of competing for the trust
|
|
itself. If no one could vote for a Member of Parliament who was not
|
|
fit to be a candidate, the government would be a narrow oligarchy
|
|
indeed. To have a voice in choosing those by whom one is to be
|
|
governed, is a means of self-protection due to everyone, though he
|
|
were to remain for ever excluded from the function of governing:
|
|
and that women are considered fit to have such a choice, may be
|
|
presumed from the fact, that the law already gives it to women in
|
|
the most important of all cases to themselves: for the choice of
|
|
the man who is to govern a woman to the end of life, is always
|
|
supposed to be voluntarily made by herself. In the case of election
|
|
to public trusts, it is the business of constitutional law to
|
|
surround the right of suffrage with all needful securities and
|
|
limitations; but whatever securities are sufficient in the case of
|
|
the male sex, no others need be required in the case of women.
|
|
Under whatever conditions, and within whatever limits, men are
|
|
admitted to the suffrage, there is not a shadow of justification
|
|
for not admitting women under the same. The majority of the women
|
|
of any class are not likely to differ in political opinion from the
|
|
majority of the men of the same class, unless the question be one
|
|
in which the interests of women, as such, are in some way involved;
|
|
and if they are so, women require the suffrage, as their guarantee
|
|
of just and equal consideration. This ought to be obvious even to
|
|
those who coincide in no other of the doctrines for which I
|
|
contend. Even if every woman were a wife, and if every wife ought
|
|
to be a slave, all the more would these slaves stand in need of
|
|
legal protection: and we know what legal protection the slaves
|
|
have, where the laws are made by their masters.
|
|
|
|
With regard to the fitness of women, not only to participate in
|
|
elections, but themselves to hold offices or practise professions
|
|
involving important public responsibilities; I have already
|
|
observed that this consideration is not essential to the practical
|
|
question in dispute: since any woman, who succeeds n an open
|
|
profession, proves by that very fact that she is qualified for it.
|
|
And in the case of public offices, if the political system of the
|
|
country is such as to exclude unfit men, it will equally exclude
|
|
unfit women: while if it is not, there is no additional evil in the
|
|
fact that the unfit persons whom it admits may be either women or
|
|
men. As long therefore as it is acknowledged that even a few women
|
|
may be fit for these duties, the laws which shut the door on those
|
|
exceptions cannot bc justified by any opinion which can be held
|
|
respecting the capacities of women in general. But, though this
|
|
last consideration is not essential, it is far from being
|
|
irrelevant. An unprejudiced view of it gives additional strength to
|
|
the arguments against the disabilities of women, and reinforces
|
|
them by high considerations of practical utility.
|
|
|
|
Let us first make entire abstraction of all psychological
|
|
considerations tending to show, that any of the mental differences
|
|
supposed to exist between women and men are but the natural effect
|
|
of the differences in their education and circumstances, and
|
|
indicate no radical difference, far less radical inferiority, of
|
|
nature. Let us consider women only as they already are, or as they
|
|
are known to have been; and the capacities which they have already
|
|
practically shown. What they have done, that at least, if nothing
|
|
else, it is proved that they can do. When we consider how
|
|
sedulously they are all trained away from, instead of being trained
|
|
towards, any of the occupations or objects reserved for men, it is
|
|
evident that I am taking a very humble ground for them, when I rest
|
|
their case on what they have actually achieved. For, in this case,
|
|
negative evidence is worth little,-while any positive evidence is
|
|
conclusive. It cannot be inferred to be impossible that a woman
|
|
should be a Homer, or an Aristotle, or a Michael Angelo, or a
|
|
Beethoven, because no woman has yet actually produced works
|
|
comparable to theirs in any of those lines of excellence. This
|
|
negative fact at most leaves the question uncertain, and open to
|
|
psychological discussion. But it is quite certain that a woman can
|
|
be a Queen Elizabeth, or a Deborah, or a Joan of Arc, since this is
|
|
not inference, but fact. Now it is a curious consideration, that
|
|
the only things which the existing law excludes women from doing,
|
|
are the things which they have proved that they are able to do.
|
|
There is no law to prevent a woman from having written all the
|
|
plays of Shakespeare, or composed all the operas of Mozart. But
|
|
Queen Elizabeth or Queen Victoria, had they not inherited the
|
|
throne, could not have been entrusted with the smallest of the
|
|
political duties, of which the former showed herself equal to the
|
|
greatest.
|
|
|
|
If anything conclusive could be inferred from experience, without
|
|
psychological analysis, it would be that the things which women are
|
|
not allowed to do are the very ones for which they are peculiarly
|
|
qualified; since their vocation for government has made its way,
|
|
and become conspicuous, through the very few opportunities which
|
|
have been given; while in the lines of distinction which apparently
|
|
were freely open to them, they have by no means so eminently
|
|
distinguished themselves.
|
|
|
|
We know how small a number of reigning queens history presents, in
|
|
comparison with that of kings. of this smaller number a far larger
|
|
proportion have shown talents for rule; though many of them have
|
|
occupied the throne in difficult periods. It is remarkable, too,
|
|
that they have, in a great number of instances, been distinguished
|
|
by merits the most opposite to the imaginary and conventional
|
|
character of women: they have been as much remarked for the
|
|
firmness and vigour of their rule, as for its intelligence. When,
|
|
to queens and empresses, we add regents, and viceroys of provinces,
|
|
the list of women who have been eminent rulers of mankind swells to
|
|
a great length.[1] This fact is so undeniable, that someone, long
|
|
ago, tried to retort the argument, and turned the admitted truth
|
|
into an additional insult, by saying that queens are better than
|
|
kings, because under kings women govern, but under queens, men.
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|
|
|
It may seem a waste of reasoning to argue against a bad joke; but
|
|
such things do affect people's minds; and I have heard men quote
|
|
this saying, with an air as if they thought that there was
|
|
something in it. At any rate, it will serve as anything, else for
|
|
a starting-point in discussion. I say, then, that it is not true
|
|
that under kings, women govern. Such cases are entirely
|
|
exceptional: and weak kings have quite as often governed ill
|
|
through the influence of male favourites, as of female. When a king
|
|
is governed by a woman merely through his amatory propensities,
|
|
good government is not probable, though even then there are
|
|
exceptions. But French history counts two kings who have
|
|
voluntarily given the direction of affairs during many years, the
|
|
one to his mother, the other to his sister: one of them, Charles
|
|
VIII, was a mere boy, but in doing so he followed the intentions of
|
|
his father Louis XI, the ablest monarch of his age. The other,
|
|
Saint Louis, was the best, and one of the most vigorous rulers,
|
|
since the time of Charlemagne. Both these princesses ruled in a
|
|
manner hardly equalled by any prince among their contemporaries.
|
|
The Emperor Charles the Fifth, the most politic prince of his time,
|
|
who had as great a number of able men in his service as a ruler
|
|
ever had, and was one of the least likely of all sovereigns to
|
|
sacrifice his interest to personal feelings, made two princesses of
|
|
his family successively Governors of the Netherlands, and kept one
|
|
or other of them in that post during his whole life (they were
|
|
afterwards succeeded by a third). Both ruled very successfully, and
|
|
one of them, Margaret of Austria, as one of the ablest politicians
|
|
of the age. So much for one side of the question. Now as to the
|
|
other. When it is said that under queens men govern, is the same
|
|
meaning to be understood as when kings are said to be governed by
|
|
women ? Is it meant that queens choose as their instruments of
|
|
government, the associates of their personal pleasures? The case is
|
|
rare even with those who are as unscrupulous on the latter point as
|
|
Catherine II: and it is not in these cases that the good
|
|
government, alleged to arise from male influence, is to be found.
|
|
If it be true, then, that the administration is in the hands of
|
|
better men under a queen than under an average king, it must be
|
|
that queens have a superior capacity for choosing them; and women
|
|
must be better qualified than men both for the position of
|
|
sovereign, and for that of chief minister; for the principal
|
|
business of a Prime Minister is not to govern in person, but to
|
|
find the fittest persons to conduct every department of public
|
|
affairs. The more rapid insight into character, which is one of the
|
|
admitted points of superiority in women over men, must certainly
|
|
make them, with anything like parity of qualifications in other
|
|
respects, more apt than men in that choice of instruments, which is
|
|
nearly the most important business of everyone who has to do with
|
|
governing mankind. Even the unprincipled Catherine de Medici could
|
|
feel the value of a Chancellor de l'Hopital. But it is also true
|
|
that most great queens have been great by their own talents for
|
|
government, and have been well served precisely for that reason.
|
|
They retained the supreme direction of affairs in their own hands:
|
|
and if they listened to good advisers, they gave by that fact the
|
|
strongest proof that their judgment fitted them for dealing with
|
|
the great questions of government.
|
|
|
|
Is it reasonable to think that those who are fit for the greater
|
|
functions of politics, are incapable of qualifying themselves for
|
|
the less? Is there any reason in the nature of things, that the
|
|
wives and sisters of princes should, whenever called on, be found
|
|
as competent as the princes themselves to their business, but that
|
|
the wives and sisters of statesmen, and administrators, and
|
|
directors of companies, and managers of public institutions, should
|
|
be unable to do what is done by their brothers and husbands? The
|
|
real reason is plain enough; it is that princesses, being more
|
|
raised above the generality of men by their rank than placed below
|
|
them by their sex, have never been taught that it was improper for
|
|
them to concern themselves with politics; but have been allowed to
|
|
feel the liberal interest natural to any cultivated human being, in
|
|
the great transactions which took place around them, and in which
|
|
they might be called on to take a part. The ladies of reigning
|
|
families are the only women who are allowed the same range of
|
|
interests and freedom of development as men; and it is precisely in
|
|
their case that there is not found to be any inferiority. Exactly
|
|
where and in proportion as women's capacities for government have
|
|
been tried, in that proportion have they been found adequate.
|
|
|
|
This fact is in accordance with the best general conclusions which
|
|
the world's imperfect experience seems as yet to suggest,
|
|
concerning the peculiar tendencies and aptitudes characteristic of
|
|
women, as women have hitherto been. I do not say, as they will
|
|
continue to be; for, as I have already said more than once, I
|
|
consider it presumption in anyone to pretend to decide what women
|
|
are or are not, can or cannot be, by natural constitution. They
|
|
have always hitherto been kept, as far as regards spontaneous
|
|
development, in so unnatural a state, that their nature cannot but
|
|
have been greatly distorted and disguised; and no one can safely
|
|
pronounce that if women's nature were left to choose its direction
|
|
as freely as men's, and if no artificial bent were attempted to be
|
|
given to it except that required by the conditions of human
|
|
society, and given to both sexes alike, there would be any material
|
|
difference, or perhaps any difference at all, in the character and
|
|
capacities which would unfold themselves. I shall presently show,
|
|
that even the least contestable of the differences which now exist,
|
|
are such as may very well have been produced merely by
|
|
circumstances, without any difference of natural capacity. But,
|
|
looking at women as they are known in experience, it may be said of
|
|
them, with more truth than belongs to most other generalisations on
|
|
the subject, that the general bent of their talents is towards the
|
|
practical. This statement is conformable to all the public history
|
|
of women, in the present and the past. It is no less borne out by
|
|
common and daily experience. Let us consider the special nature of
|
|
the mental capacities most characteristic of a woman of talent.
|
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They are all of a kind which fits them for practice, and makes them
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tend towards it. What is meant by a woman's capacity of intuitive
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perception? It means, a rapid and correct insight into present
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fact. It has nothing to do with general principles. Nobody ever
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perceived a scientific law of nature by intuition, nor arrived at
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a general rule of duty or prudence by it. These are results of slow
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and careful collection and comparison of experience; and neither
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the men nor the women. of intuition usually shine in this
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department, unless, indeed, the experience necessary is such as
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they can acquire by themselves. For what is called their intuitive
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sagacity makes them peculiarly apt in gathering such general truths
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as can be collected from their individual means of observation.
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When, consequently, they chance to be as well provided as men are
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with the results of other people's experience, by reading and
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education (I use the word chance advisedly, for, in respect to the
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knowledge that tends to fit them for the greater concerns of life,
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the only educated women are the self-educated) they are better
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furnished than men in general with the essential requisites of
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skilful and successful practice. Men who have been much taught, are
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apt to be deficient in the sense of present fact; they do not see,
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in the facts which they are called upon to deal with, what is
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really there, but what they have been taught to expect. This is
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seldom the case with women of any ability. Their capacity of
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"intuition" preserves them from it. With equality of experience and
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of general faculties, a woman usually sees much more than a man of
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what is immediately before her. Now this sensibility to the
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present, is the main quality on which the capacity for practice, as
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distinguished from theory, depends. To discover general principles,
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belongs to the speculative faculty: to discern and discriminate the
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particular cases in which they are and are not applicable,
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constitutes practical talent: and for this, women as they now are
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have a peculiar aptitude. I admit that there can be no good
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practice without principles, and that the predominant place which
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quickness of observation holds among a woman's faculties, makes her
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particularly apt to build overhasty generalisations upon her own
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observation; though at the same time no less ready in rectifying
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those generalisations, as her observation takes a wider range. But
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the corrective to this defect, is access to the experience of the
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human race; general knowledge--exactly the thing which education
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can best supply. A woman's mistakes are specifically those of a
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clever self-educated man, who often sees what men trained in
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routine do not see, but falls into errors for want of knowing
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things which have long been known. Of course he has acquired much
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of the pre-existing knowledge, or he could not have got on at all;
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but what he knows of it he has picked up in fragments and at
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random, as women do.
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But this gravitation of women's minds to the present, to the real,
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to actual fact, while in its exclusiveness it is a source of
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errors, is also a most useful counteractive of the contrary error.
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The principal and most characteristic aberration of speculative
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minds as such, consists precisely in the deficiency of this lively
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perception and ever-present sense of objective fact. For want of
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this, they often not only overlook the contradiction which outward
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facts oppose to their theories, but lose sight of the legitimate
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purpose of speculation altogether, and let their speculative
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faculties go astray into regions not peopled with real beings,
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animate or inanimate, even idealised, but with personified shadows
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created by the illusions of metaphysics or by the mere entanglement
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of words, and think these shadows the proper objects of the
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highest, the most transcendant, philosophy. Hardly anything can be
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of greater value to a man of theory and speculation who employs
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himself not in collecting materials of knowledge by observation,
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|
but in working them up by processes of thought into comprehensive
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truths of science and laws of conduct, than to carry on his
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speculations in the companionship, and under the criticism, of a
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really superior woman. There is nothing comparable to it for
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keeping his thoughts within the limits of real things, and the
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actual facts of nature. A woman seldom runs wild after an
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abstraction. The habitual direction of her mind to dealing with
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things as individuals rather than in groups, and (what is closely
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|
connected with it) her more lively interest in the present feelings
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of persons, which makes her consider first of all, in anything
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which claims to be applied to practice, in what manner persons will
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be affected by it-- these two things make her extremely unlikely to
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put faith in any speculation which loses sight of individuals, and
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deals with things as if they existed for the benefit of some
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imaginary entity, some mere creation of the mind, not resolvable
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into the feelings of living beings. Women's thoughts are thus as
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useful in giving reality to those of thinking men, as men's
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thoughts in giving width and largeness to those of women. In depth,
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as distinguished from breadth, I greatly doubt if even now, women,
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compared with men, are at any disadvantage.
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If the existing mental characteristics of women are thus valuable
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even in aid of speculation, they are still more important, when
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speculation has done its work, for carrying out the results of
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|
speculation into practice. For the reasons already given, women are
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comparatively unlikely to fall into the common error of men, that
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of sticking to their rules in a case whose specialities either take
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it out of the class to which the rules are applicable, or require
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a special adaptation of them. Let us now consider another of the
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admitted superiorities of clever women, greater quickness of
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apprehension. Is not this pre- eminently a quality which fits a
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|
person for practice ? In action, everything continually depends
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|
upon deciding promptly. In speculation, nothing does. A mere
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|
thinker can wait, can take time to consider, can collect additional
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|
evidence; he is not obliged to complete his philosophy at once,
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|
lest the opportunity should go by. The power of drawing the best
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|
conclusion possible from insufficient data is not indeed useless in
|
|
philosophy; the construction of a provisional hypothesis consistent
|
|
with all known facts is often the needful basis for further
|
|
inquiry. But this faculty is rather serviceable in philosophy, than
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|
the main qualification for it: and, for the auxiliary as well as
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|
for the main operation, the philosopher can allow himself any time
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he pleases. He is in no need of the capacity of doing rapidly what
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|
he does; what he rather needs is patience, to work on slowly until
|
|
imperfect lights have become perfect, and a conjecture has ripened
|
|
into a theorem. For those, on the contrary, whose business is with
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|
the fugitive and perishable--with individual facts, not kinds of
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|
facts--rapidity of thought is a qualification next only in
|
|
importance to the power of thought itself. He who has not his
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|
faculties under immediate command, in the contingencies of action,
|
|
might as well not have them at all. He may be fit to criticise, but
|
|
he is not fit to act. Now it is in this that women, and the men who
|
|
are most like women, confessedly excel. The other sort of man,
|
|
however pre-eminent may be his faculties, arrives slowly at
|
|
complete command of them: rapidity of judgment and promptitude of
|
|
judicious action, even in the things he knows best, are the gradual
|
|
and late result of strenuous effort grown into habit.
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|
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|
It will be said, perhaps, that the greater nervous susceptibility
|
|
of women is a disqualification for practice, in anything but
|
|
domestic life, by rendering them mobile, changeable, too vehemently
|
|
under the influence of the moment, incapable of dogged
|
|
perseverance, unequal and uncertain in the power of using their
|
|
faculties. I think that these phrases sum up the greater part of
|
|
the objections commonly made to the fitness of women for the higher
|
|
class of serious business. Much of all this is the mere overflow of
|
|
nervous energy run to waste, and would cease when the energy was
|
|
directed to a definite end. Much is also the result of conscious or
|
|
unconscious cultivation; as we see by the almost total
|
|
disappearance of "hysterics" and fainting-fits, since they have
|
|
gone out of fashion. Moreover, when people are brought up, like
|
|
many women of the higher classes (though less so in our own country
|
|
than any other), a kind of hot-house plants, shielded from the
|
|
wholesome vicissitudes of air and temperature, and untrained in any
|
|
of the occupations and exercises which give stimulus and
|
|
development to the circulatory and muscular system, while their
|
|
nervous system, especially in its emotional department, is kept in
|
|
unnaturally active play; it is no wonder if those of them who do
|
|
not die of consumption, grow up with constitutions liable to
|
|
derangement from slight causes, both internal and external, and
|
|
without stamina to support any task, physical or mental, requiring
|
|
continuity of effort. But women brought up to work for their
|
|
livelihood show none of these morbid characteristics, unless indeed
|
|
they are chained to an excess of sedentary work in confined and
|
|
unhealthy rooms. Women who in their early years have shared in the
|
|
healthful physical education and bodily freedom of their brothers,
|
|
and who obtain a sufficiency of pure air and exercise in
|
|
after-life, very rarely have any excessive susceptibility of nerves
|
|
which can disqualify them for active pursuits. There is indeed a
|
|
certain proportion of persons, in both sexes, in whom an unusual
|
|
degree of nervous sensibility is constitutional, and of so marked
|
|
a character as to be the feature of their organisation which
|
|
exercises the greatest influence over the whole character of the
|
|
vital phenomena. This constitution, like other physical
|
|
conformations, is hereditary, and is transmitted to sons as well as
|
|
daughters; but it is possible, and probable, that the nervous
|
|
temperament (as it is called) is inherited by a greater number of
|
|
women than of men. We will assume this as a fact: and let me then
|
|
ask, are men of nervous temperament found to be unfit for the
|
|
duties and pursuits usually followed by men? If not, why should
|
|
women of the same temperament be unfit for them? The peculiarities
|
|
of the temperament are, no doubt, within certain limits, an
|
|
obstacle to success in some employments, though an aid to it in
|
|
others. But when the occupation is suitable to the temperament, and
|
|
sometimes even when it is unsuitable, the most brilliant examples
|
|
of success are continually given by the men of high nervous
|
|
sensibility. They are distinguished in their practical
|
|
manifestations chiefly by this, that being susceptible of a higher
|
|
degree of excitement than those of another physical constitution,
|
|
their powers when excited differ more than in the case of other
|
|
people, from those shown in their ordinary state: they are raised,
|
|
as it were, above themselves, and do things with ease which they
|
|
are wholly incapable of at other times. But this lofty excitement
|
|
is not, except in weak bodily constitutions, a mere flash, which
|
|
passes away immediately, leaving no permanent traces, and
|
|
incompatible with persistent and steady pursuit of an object. It is
|
|
the character of the nervous temperament to be capable of sustained
|
|
excitement, holding out through long-continued efforts. It is what
|
|
is meant by spirit. It is what makes the high-bred racehorse run
|
|
without slackening speed till he drops down dead. It is what has
|
|
enabled so many delicate women to maintain the most sublime
|
|
constancy not only at the stake, but through a long preliminary
|
|
succession of mental and bodily tortures. It is evident that people
|
|
of this temperament are particularly apt for what may be called the
|
|
executive department of the leadership of mankind. They are the
|
|
material of great orators, great preachers, impressive diffusers of
|
|
moral influences. Their constitution might be deemed less
|
|
favourable to the qualities required from a statesman in the
|
|
cabinet, or from a judge. It would be so, if the consequence
|
|
necessarily followed that because people are excitable they must
|
|
always be in a state of excitement. But this is wholly a question
|
|
of training. Strong feeling is the instrument and element of strong
|
|
self-control: but it requires to be cultivated in that direction.
|
|
When it is, it forms not the heroes of impulse only, but those also
|
|
of self-conquest. History and experience prove that the most
|
|
passionate characters are the most fanatically rigid in their
|
|
feelings of duty, when their passion has been trained to act in
|
|
that direction. The judge who gives a just decision in a case where
|
|
his feelings are intensely interested on the other side, derives
|
|
from that same strength of feeling the determined sense of the
|
|
obligation of justice, which enables him to achieve this victory
|
|
over himself. The capability of that lofty enthusiasm which takes
|
|
the human being out of his every-day character, reacts upon the
|
|
daily character itself. His aspirations and powers when he is in
|
|
this exceptional state, become the type with which he compares, and
|
|
by which he estimates, his sentiments and proceedings at other
|
|
times: and his habitual purposes assume a character moulded by and
|
|
assimilated to the moments of lofty excitement, although those,
|
|
from the physical nature of a human being, can only be transient.
|
|
Experience of races, as well as of individuals, does not show those
|
|
of excitable temperament to be less fit, on the average, either for
|
|
speculation or practice, than the more unexcitable. The French, and
|
|
the Italians, are undoubtedly by nature more nervously excitable
|
|
than the Teutonic races, and, compared at least with the English,
|
|
they have a much greater habitual and daily emotional life: but
|
|
have they been less great in science, in public business, in legal
|
|
and judicial eminence, or in war? There is abundant evidence that
|
|
the Greeks were of old, as their descendants and successors still
|
|
are, one of the most excitable of the races of mankind. It is
|
|
superfluous to ask, what among the achievements of men they did not
|
|
excel in. The Romans, probably, as an equally southern people, had
|
|
the same original temperament: but the stern character of their
|
|
national discipline, like that of the Spartans, made them an
|
|
example of the opposite type of national character; the greater
|
|
strength of their natural feelings being chiefly apparent in the
|
|
intensity which the same original temperament made it possible to
|
|
give to the artificial. If these cases exemplify what a naturally
|
|
excitable people may be made, the Irish Celts afford one of the
|
|
aptest examples of what they are when left to themselves; (if those
|
|
can be said to be left to themselves who have been for centuries
|
|
under the indirect influence of bad government, and the direct
|
|
training of a Catholic hierarchy and of a sincere belief in the
|
|
Catholic religion). The Irish character must be considered,
|
|
therefore, as an unfavourable case: yet, whenever the circumstances
|
|
of the individual have been at all favourable, what people have
|
|
shown greater capacity for the most varied and multifarious
|
|
individual eminence? Like the French compared with the English, the
|
|
Irish with the Swiss, the Greeks or Italians compared with the
|
|
German races, so women compared with men may be found, on the
|
|
average, to do the same things with some variety in the particular
|
|
kind of excellence. But, that they would do them fully as well on
|
|
the whole, if their education and cultivation were adapted to
|
|
correcting instead of aggravating the infirmities incident to their
|
|
temperament, I see not the smallest reason to doubt.
|
|
|
|
Supposing it, however, to be true that women's minds are by nature
|
|
more mobile than those of men, less capable of persisting long in
|
|
the same continuous effort, more fitted for dividing their
|
|
faculties among many things than for travelling in any one path to
|
|
the highest point which can be reached by it: this may be true of
|
|
women as they now are (though not without great and numerous
|
|
exceptions), and may account for their having remained behind the
|
|
highest order of men in precisely the things in which this
|
|
absorption of the whole mind in one set of ideas and occupations
|
|
may seem to be most requisite. Still, this difference is one which
|
|
can only affect the kind of excellence, not the excellence itself,
|
|
or its practical worth: and it remains to be shown whether this
|
|
exclusive working of a part of the mind, this absorption of the
|
|
whole thinking faculty in a single subject, and concentration of it
|
|
on a single work, is the normal and healthful condition of the
|
|
human faculties, even for speculative uses. I believe that what is
|
|
gained in special development by this concentration, is lost in the
|
|
capacity of the mind for the other purposes of life; and even in
|
|
abstract thought, it is my decided opinion that the mind does more
|
|
by frequently returning to a difficult problem, than by sticking to
|
|
it without interruption. For the purposes, at all events, of
|
|
practice, from its highest to its humblest departments, the
|
|
capacity of passing promptly from one subject of consideration to
|
|
another, without letting the active spring of the intellect run
|
|
down between the two, is a power far more valuable; and this power
|
|
women pre-eminently possess, by virtue of the very mobility of
|
|
which they are accused. They perhaps have it from nature, but they
|
|
certainly have it by training and education; for nearly the whole
|
|
of the occupations of women consist in the management of small but
|
|
multitudinous details, on each of which the mind cannot dwell even
|
|
for a minute, but must pass on to other things, and if anything
|
|
requires longer thought, must steal time at odd moments for
|
|
thinking of it. The capacity indeed which women show for doing
|
|
their thinking in circumstances and at times which almost any man
|
|
would make an excuse to himself for not attempting it, has often
|
|
been noticed: and a woman's mind, though it may be occupied only
|
|
with small things, can hardly ever permit its elf to be vacant, as
|
|
a man's so often is when not engaged in what he chooses to consider
|
|
the business of his life. The business of a woman's ordinary life
|
|
is things in general, and can as little cease to go on as the world
|
|
to go round.
|
|
|
|
But (it is said) there is anatomical evidence of the superior
|
|
mental capacity of men compared with women: they have a larger
|
|
brain. I reply, that in the first place the fact itself is
|
|
doubtful. It is by no means established that the brain of a woman
|
|
is smaller than that of a man. If it is inferred merely because a
|
|
woman's bodily frame generally is of less dimensions than a man's,
|
|
this criterion would lead to strange consequences. A tall and
|
|
large-boned man must on this showing be wonderfully superior in
|
|
intelligence to a small man, and an elephant or a whale must
|
|
prodigiously excel mankind. The size of the brain in human beings,
|
|
anatomists say, varies much less than the size of the body, or even
|
|
of the head, and the one cannot be at all inferred from the other.
|
|
It is certain that some women have as large a brain as any man. It
|
|
is within my knowledge that a man who had weighed many human
|
|
brains, said that the heaviest he knew of, heavier even than
|
|
Cuvier's (the heaviest previously recorded), was that of a woman.
|
|
Next, I must observe that the precise relation which exists between
|
|
the brain and the intellectual powers is not yet well understood,
|
|
but is a subject of great dispute. That there is a very close
|
|
relation we cannot doubt. The brain is certainly the material organ
|
|
of thought and feeling: and (making abstraction of the great
|
|
unsettled controversy respecting the appropriation of different
|
|
parts of the brain to different mental faculties) I admit that it
|
|
would be an anomaly, and an exception to all we know of the general
|
|
laws of life and organisation, if the size of the organ were wholly
|
|
indifferent to the function; if no accession of power were derived
|
|
from the great magnitude of the instrument. But the exception and
|
|
the anomaly would be fully as great if the organ exercised
|
|
influence by its magnitude only. In all the more delicate
|
|
operations of nature--of which those of the animated creation are
|
|
the most delicate, and those of the nervous system by far the most
|
|
delicate of these--differences in the effect depend as much on
|
|
differences of quality in the physical agents, as on their
|
|
quantity: and if the quality of an instrument is to be tested by
|
|
the nicety and delicacy of the work it can do, the indications
|
|
point to a greater average fineness of quality in the brain and
|
|
nervous system of women than of men. Dismissing abstract difference
|
|
of quality, a thing difficult to verify, the efficiency of an organ
|
|
is known to depend not solely on its size but on its activity: and
|
|
of this we have an approximate measure in the energy with which the
|
|
blood circulates through it, both the stimulus and the reparative
|
|
force being mainly dependent on the circulation. It would not be
|
|
surprising-- it is indeed an hypothesis which accords well with the
|
|
differences actually observed between the mental operations of the
|
|
two sexes--if men on the average should have the advantage in the
|
|
size of the brain, and women in activity of cerebral circulation.
|
|
The results which conjecture, founded on analogy, would lead us to
|
|
expect from this difference of organisation, would correspond to
|
|
some of those which we most commonly see. In the first place, the
|
|
mental operations of men might be expected to be slower. They would
|
|
neither be so prompt as women in thinking, nor so quick to feel.
|
|
Large bodies take more time to get into full action. on the other
|
|
hand, when once got thoroughly into play, men's brain would bear
|
|
more work. It would be more persistent in the line first taken; it
|
|
would have more difficulty in changing from one mode of action to
|
|
another, but, in the one thing it was doing, it could go on longer
|
|
without loss of power or sense of fatigue. And do we not find that
|
|
the things in which men most excel women are those which require
|
|
most plodding and long hammering at a single thought, while women
|
|
do best what must be done rapidly ? A woman's brain is sooner
|
|
fatigued, sooner exhausted; but given the degree of exhaustion, we
|
|
should expect to find that it would recover itself sooner. I repeat
|
|
that this speculation is entirely hypothetical; it pretends to no
|
|
more than to suggest a line of inquiry. I have before repudiated
|
|
the notion of its being yet certainly known that there is any
|
|
natural difference at all in the average strength or direction of
|
|
the mental capacities of the two sexes, much less what that
|
|
difference is. Nor is it possible that this should be known, so
|
|
long as the psychological laws of the formation of character have
|
|
been so little studied, even in a general way, and in the
|
|
particular case never scientifically applied at all; so long as the
|
|
most obvious external causes of difference of character are
|
|
habitually disregarded--left unnoticed by the observer, and looked
|
|
down upon with a kind of supercilious contempt by the prevalent
|
|
schools both of natural history and of mental philosophy: who,
|
|
whether they look for the source of what mainly distinguishes human
|
|
beings from one another, in the world of matter or in that of
|
|
spirit, agree in running down those who prefer to explain these
|
|
differences by the different relations of human beings to society
|
|
and life.
|
|
|
|
To so ridiculous an extent are the notions formed of the nature of
|
|
women, mere empirical generalisations, framed, without philosophy
|
|
or analysis, upon the first instances which present themselves,
|
|
that the popular idea of it is different in different countries,
|
|
according as the opinions and social circumstances of the country
|
|
have given to the women living in it any speciality of development
|
|
or non-development. An oriental thinks that women are by nature
|
|
peculiarly voluptuous; see the violent abuse of them on this ground
|
|
in Hindoo writings. An Englishman usually thinks that they are by
|
|
nature cold. The sayings about women's fickleness are mostly of
|
|
French origin; from the famous distich of Francis the First, upward
|
|
and downward. In England it is a common remark, how much more
|
|
constant women are than men. Inconstancy has been longer reckoned
|
|
discreditable to a woman, in England than in France; and
|
|
Englishwomen are besides, in their inmost nature, much more subdued
|
|
to opinion. It may be remarked by the way, that Englishmen are in
|
|
peculiarly unfavourable circumstances for attempting to judge what
|
|
is or is not natural, not merely to women, but to men, or to human
|
|
beings altogether, at least if they have only English experience to
|
|
go upon: because there is no place where human nature shows so
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|
little of its original lineaments. Both in a good and a bad sense,
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the English are farther from a state of nature than any other
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modern people. They are, more than any other people, a product of
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civilisation and discipline. England is the country in which social
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discipline has most succeeded, not so much in conquering, as in
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suppressing, whatever is liable to conflict with it. The English,
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more than any other people, not only act but feel according to
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rule. In other countries, the taught opinion, or the requirement of
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society, may be the stronger power, but the promptings of the
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individual nature are always visible under it, and often resisting
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it: rule may be stronger than nature, but nature is still there. In
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England, rule has to a great degree substituted itself for nature.
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The greater part of life is carried on, not by following
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inclination under the control of rule, but by having no inclination
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but that of following a rule. Now this has its good side doubtless,
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though it has also a wretchedly bad one; but it must render an
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Englishman peculiarly ill-qualified to pass a judgment on the
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original tendencies of human nature from his own experience. The
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errors to which observers elsewhere are liable on the subject, are
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of a different character. An Englishman is ignorant respecting
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human nature, a Frenchman is prejudiced. An Englishman's errors are
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negative, a Frenchman's positive. An Englishman fancies that things
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do not exist, because he never sees them; a Frenchman thinks they
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must always and necessarily exist, because he does see them. An
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Englishman does not know nature, because he has had no opportunity
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of observing it; a Frenchman generally knows a great deal of it,
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but often mistakes it, because he has only seen it sophisticated
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and distorted. For the artificial state superinduced by society
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disguises the natural tendencies of the thing which is the subject
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of observation, in two different ways: by extinguishing the nature,
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or by transforming it. In the one case there is but a starved
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residuum of nature remaining to be studied; in the other case there
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is much, but it may have expanded in any direction rather than that
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in which it would spontaneously grow.
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I have-said that it cannot now be known how much of the existing
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mental differences between men and women is natural and how much
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artificial; whether there are any natural differences at all; or,
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supposing all artificial causes of difference to be withdrawn, what
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natural character would be revealed I am not about to attempt what
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I have pronounced impossible: but doubt does not forbid conjecture,
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and where certainty is unattainable, there may yet be the means of
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arriving at some degree of probability. The first point, the origin
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of the differences actually observed, is the one most accessible to
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speculation; and I shall attempt to approach it, by the only path
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by which it can be reached; by tracing the mental consequences of
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external influences. We cannot isolate a human being from the
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circumstances of his condition, so as to ascertain experimentally
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what he would have been by nature. but we can consider what he is,
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and what his circumstances have been, and whether the one would
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have been capable of producing the other.
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Let us take, then, the only marked case which observation affords,
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of apparent inferiority of women to men, if we except the merely
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physical one of bodily strength. No production in philosophy,
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science, or art, entitled to the first rank, has been the work of
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a woman. Is there any mode of accounting for this, without
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supposing that women are naturally incapable of producing them?
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In the first place, we may fairly question whether experience has
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afforded sufficient grounds for an induction. It is scarcely three
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|
generations since women, saving very rare exceptions have begun to
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try their capacity in philosophy, science, or art. It is only in
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the present generation that their attempts have been at all
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numerous; and they are even now extremely few, everywhere but in
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England and France. It is a relevant question, whether a mind
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possessing the requisites of first rate eminence in speculation or
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creative art could have been expected, on the mere calculation of
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chances, to turn up during that lapse of time, among the women
|
|
whose tastes and personal position admitted of their devoting
|
|
themselves to these pursuits In all things which there has yet been
|
|
time for--in all but the very highest grades in the scale of
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excellence, especially in the department in which they have been
|
|
longest engaged, literature (both prose and poetry)--women have
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done quite as much, have obtained fully as high prizes and as many
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of them, as could be expected from the length of time and the
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|
number of competitors. If we go back to the earlier period when
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very few women made the attempt, yet some of those few made it with
|
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distinguished success. The Greeks always accounted Sappho among
|
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their great poets; and we may well suppose that Myrtis, said to
|
|
have been the teacher of Pindar, and Corinna, who five times bore
|
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away from him the prize of poetry, must at least have had
|
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sufficient merit to admit of being compared with that great name.
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|
Aspasia did not leave any philosophical writings; but it is an
|
|
admitted fact that Socrates resorted to her for instruction, and
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avowed himself to have obtained it.
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If we consider the works of women in modem times, and contrast them
|
|
with those of men, either in the literary or the artistic
|
|
department, such inferiority as may be observed resolves itself
|
|
essentially into one thing: but that is a most material one;
|
|
deficiency of originality. Not total deficiency; for every
|
|
production of mind which is of any substantive value, has an
|
|
originality of its own--is a conception of the mind itself, not a
|
|
copy of something else. Thoughts original, in the sense of being
|
|
unborrowed--of being derived from the thinker's own observations or
|
|
intellectual processes--are abundant in the writings of women. But
|
|
they have not yet produced any of those great and luminous new
|
|
ideas which form an era in thought, nor those fundamentally new
|
|
conceptions in art, which open a vista of possible effects not
|
|
before thought of, and found a new school. Their compositions are
|
|
mostly grounded on the existing fund of thought, and their
|
|
creations do-not deviate widely from existing types. This is the
|
|
sort of inferiority which their works manifest: for in point of
|
|
execution, in the detailed application of thought, and the
|
|
perfection of style, there is no inferiority. Our best novelists in
|
|
point of composition, and of the management of detail, have mostly
|
|
been women; and there is not in all modern literature a more
|
|
eloquent vehicle of thought than the style of Madame de Stael, nor,
|
|
as a specimen of purely artistic excellence, anything superior to
|
|
the prose of Madame Sand, whose style acts upon the nervous system
|
|
like a symphony of Haydn or Mozart. High originality of conception
|
|
is, as I have said, what is chiefly wanting. And now to examine if
|
|
there is any manner in which this deficiency can be accounted for.
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|
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Let us remember, then, so far as regards mere thought, that during
|
|
all that period in the world's existence, and in the progress of
|
|
cultivation, in which great and fruitful new truths I could be
|
|
arrived at by mere force of genius, with little precious study and
|
|
accumulation of knowledge--during all that time women did not
|
|
concern themselves with speculation at all. From the days of
|
|
Hypatia to those of the Reformation, the illustrious Heloisa is
|
|
almost the only woman to whom any such achievement might have been
|
|
possible; and we know not how great a capacity of speculation in
|
|
her may have been lost to mankind by the misfortunes of her life.
|
|
Never since any considerable number of women have began to
|
|
cultivate serious thought, has originality been possible on easy
|
|
terms. Nearly all the thoughts which can be reached by mere
|
|
strength of original faculties, have long since been arrived at;
|
|
and originality, in any high sense of the word, is now scarcely
|
|
ever attained but by minds which have undergone elaborate
|
|
discipline, and are deeply versed in the results of previous
|
|
thinking. It is Mr. Maurice, I think, who has remarked on the
|
|
present age, that its most original thinkers are those who have
|
|
known most thoroughly what had been thought by their; predecessors:
|
|
and this will always henceforth be the case. Every fresh stone in
|
|
the edifice has now to be placed on the top of so many others, that
|
|
a long process of climbing, and of carrying up materials, has to be
|
|
gone through by whoever aspires to take a share in the present
|
|
stage of the work. How many women are there who have gone through
|
|
any such process ? Mrs. Somerville, alone perhaps of women, knows
|
|
as much of mathematics as is now needful for making any
|
|
considerable mathematical discovery: is it any proof of inferiority
|
|
in women, that she has not happened to be one of the two or three
|
|
persons who in her lifetime have associated their names with some
|
|
striking advancement of the science? Two women, since political
|
|
economy has been made a science, have known enough of it to write
|
|
usefully on the subject: of how many of the innumerable men who
|
|
have written on it during the same time, is it possible with truth
|
|
to say more? If no woman has hitherto been a great historian, what
|
|
woman has had the necessary erudition? If no woman is a great
|
|
philologist, what woman has studied Sanscrit and Slavonic, the
|
|
Gothic of Ulphila and the Persic of the Zendavesta? Even in
|
|
practical matters we all know what is the value of the originality
|
|
of untaught geniuses. It means, inventing over again in its
|
|
rudimentary form something already invented and improved upon by
|
|
many successive inventors. When women have had the preparation
|
|
which all men now require to be eminently original, it will be time
|
|
enough to begin judging by experience of their capacity for
|
|
originality.
|
|
|
|
It no doubt often happens that a person, who has not widely and
|
|
accurately studied the thoughts of others on a subject, has by
|
|
natural sagacity a happy intuition, which he can suggest, but
|
|
cannot prove, which yet when matured may be an important addition
|
|
to knowledge: but even then, no justice can be done to it until
|
|
some other person, who does possess the previous acquirements,
|
|
takes it in hand, tests it, gives it a scientific or practical
|
|
form, and fits it into its place among the existing truths of
|
|
philosophy or science. Is it supposed that such felicitous thoughts
|
|
do not occur to women? They occur by hundreds to every woman of
|
|
intellect. But they are mostly lost, for want of a husband or
|
|
friend who has the other knowledge which can enable him to estimate
|
|
them properly and bring them before the world: and even when they
|
|
are brought before it, they generally appear as his ideas, not
|
|
their real author's. Who can tell how many of the most original
|
|
thoughts put forth by male writers, belong to a woman by
|
|
suggestion, to themselves only by verifying and working out ? If I
|
|
may judge by my own case, a very large proportion indeed.
|
|
|
|
If we turn from pure speculation to literature in the narrow sense
|
|
of the term, and the fine arts, there is.a very obvious reason why
|
|
women's literature is, in its general conception and in its main
|
|
features, an imitation of men's. Why is the Roman literature, as
|
|
critics proclaim to satiety, not original, but an imitation of the
|
|
Greek ? Simply because the Greeks came first. If women lived in a
|
|
different country from men, and had never read any of their
|
|
writings, they would have had a literature of their own. As it is,
|
|
they have not created one, because they found a highly advanced
|
|
literature already created. If there had been no suspension of the
|
|
knowledge of antiquity, or if the Renaissance had occurred before
|
|
the Gothic cathedrals were built, they never would have been built.
|
|
We see that, in France and Italy, imitation of the ancient
|
|
literature stopped the original development even after it had
|
|
commenced. All women who write are pupils of the great male
|
|
writers. A painter's early pictures, even if he be a Raffaello, are
|
|
undistinguishable in style from those of his master. Even a Mozart
|
|
does not display his powerful originality in his earliest pieces.
|
|
What years are to a gifted individual, generations are to a mass.
|
|
If women's literature is destined to have a different collective
|
|
character from that of men, depending on any difference of natural
|
|
tendencies, much longer time is necessary than has yet elapsed,
|
|
before it can emancipate itself from the influence of accepted
|
|
models, and guide itself by its own impulses. But if, as I believe,
|
|
there will not prove to be any natural tendencies common to women,
|
|
and distinguishing their genius from that of men, yet every
|
|
individual writer among them has her individual tendencies, which
|
|
at present are still subdued by the influence of precedent and
|
|
example: and it will require generations more, before their
|
|
individuality is sufficiently developed to make head against that
|
|
influence.
|
|
|
|
It is in the fine arts, properly so called, that the prima facie
|
|
evidence of inferior original powers in women at first sight
|
|
appears the strongest: since opinion (it may be said) does not
|
|
exclude them from these, but rather encourages them, and their
|
|
education, instead of passing over this department, is in the
|
|
affluent classes mainly composed of it. Yet in this line of
|
|
exertion they have fallen still more short than in many others, of
|
|
the highest eminence attained by men. This shortcoming, however,
|
|
needs no other explanation than the familiar fact, more universally
|
|
true in the fine arts than in anything else; the vast superiority
|
|
of professional persons over amateurs. Women in the educated
|
|
classes are almost universally taught more or less of some branch
|
|
or other of the fine arts, but not that they may gain their living
|
|
or their social consequence by it. Women artists are all amateurs.
|
|
The exceptions are only of the kind which confirm the general
|
|
truth. Women. are taught music, I but not for the purpose of
|
|
composing, only of executing it: and accordingly it is only as
|
|
composers, that men, in music, are superior to women. The only one
|
|
of the fine arts which women do follow, to any extent, as a
|
|
profession, and an occupation for life, is the histrionic; and in
|
|
that they are confessedly equal, if not superior, to men. To make
|
|
the comparison fair, it should be made between the productions of
|
|
women in any branch of art, and those of men not following it as a
|
|
profession. In musical composition, for example, women surely have
|
|
produced fully as good things as have ever been produced by male
|
|
amateurs. There are now a few women, a very few, who practise
|
|
painting as a profession, and these are already beginning to show
|
|
quite as much talent as could be expected. Even male painters (pace
|
|
Mr. Ruskin) have not made any very remarkable figure these last
|
|
centuries, and it will be long before they do so. The reason why
|
|
the old painters were so greatly superior to the modern, is that a
|
|
greatly superior class of men applied themselves to the art. In the
|
|
fourteenth and fifteenth centuries the Italian painters were the
|
|
most accomplished men of their age. The greatest of them were men
|
|
of encyclopaedical acquirements and powers, like the great men of
|
|
Greece. But in their times fine art was, to men's feelings and
|
|
conceptions, among the grandest things in which a human being could
|
|
excel; and by it men were made,- what only political or military
|
|
distinction now makes them, the companions of sovereigns, and the
|
|
equals of the highest nobility. In the present age, men of anything
|
|
like similar calibre find something more-important to do, for their
|
|
own fame and the uses of the modern world, than painting: and it is
|
|
only now and then that a Reynolds or a Turner (of whose relative
|
|
rank among eminent men I do not pretend to an opinion) applies
|
|
himself to that art. Music belongs to a different order of things:
|
|
it does not require the same general powers of mind, but seems more
|
|
dependent on a natural gift: and it may be thought surprising that
|
|
no one of the great musical composers has been a woman. But even
|
|
this natural gift, to be made available for great creations,
|
|
requires study, and professional devotion to the pursuit. The only
|
|
countries which have produced first-rate composers, even of the
|
|
male sex, are Germany and Italy-- countries in which, both in point
|
|
of special and of general cultivation, women have remained far
|
|
behind France and England, being generally (it may be said without
|
|
exaggeration) very little educated, and having scarcely cultivated
|
|
at all any of the higher faculties of mind. And in those countries
|
|
the men who are acquainted with the principles of musical
|
|
composition must be counted by hundreds, or more probably by
|
|
thousands, the women barely by scores: so that here again, on the
|
|
doctrine of averages, we cannot reasonably expect to see more than
|
|
one eminent woman to fifty eminent men; and the last three
|
|
centuries have not produced fifty eminent male composers either in
|
|
Germany or in Italy.
|
|
|
|
There are other reasons, besides those which we have now given,
|
|
that help to explain why women remain behind men, even in the
|
|
pursuits which are open to both. For one thing, very few women have
|
|
time for them. This may seem a paradox; it is an undoubted social
|
|
fact. The time and thoughts of every woman have to satisfy great
|
|
previous demands on them for things practical. There is, first, the
|
|
superintendence of the family and the domestic expenditure, which
|
|
occupies at least one woman in every family, generally the one of
|
|
mature years and acquired experience; unless the family is so rich
|
|
as to admit of delegating that task to hired agency, and submitting
|
|
to all the waste and malversation inseparable from that mode of
|
|
conducting it. The superintendence of a household, even when not in
|
|
other respects laborious, is extremely onerous to the thoughts; it
|
|
requires incessant vigilance, an eye which no detail escapes, and
|
|
presents questions for consideration and solution, foreseen and
|
|
unforeseen, at every hour of the day, from which the person
|
|
responsible for them can hardly ever shake herself free. If a woman
|
|
is of a rank and circumstances which relieve her in a measure from
|
|
these cares, she has still devolving on her the management for the
|
|
whole family of its intercourse with others -- of what is called
|
|
society, and the less the call made on her by the former duty, the
|
|
greater is always the development of the latter: the dinner
|
|
parties, concerts, evening parties, morning visits, letter-writing,
|
|
and all that goes with them. All this is over and above the
|
|
engrossing duty which society imposes exclusively on women, of
|
|
making themselves charming. A clever woman of the higher ranks
|
|
finds nearly a sufficient employment of her talents in cultivating
|
|
the graces of manner and the arts of conversation. To look only at
|
|
the outward side of the subject: the great and continual exercise
|
|
of thought which all women who attach any value to dressing well (I
|
|
do not mean expensively, but with taste, and perception of natural
|
|
and of artificial convenance) must bestow upon their own dress,
|
|
perhaps also upon that of their daughters, would alone go a great
|
|
way towards achieving respectable results in art, or science, or
|
|
literature, and does actually exhaust much of the time and mental
|
|
power they might have to spare for either.[2] If it were possible
|
|
that all this number of little practical interests (which are made
|
|
great to them) should leave them either much leisure, or much
|
|
energy and freedom of mind, to be devoted to art or speculation,
|
|
they must have a much greater original supply of active faculty
|
|
than the vast majority of men. But this is not all. Independently
|
|
of the regular offices of life which devolve upon a woman, she is
|
|
expected to have her time and faculties always at the disposal of
|
|
everybody. If a man has not a profession to exempt him from such
|
|
demands, still, if he has a pursuit, he offends nobody by devoting
|
|
his time to it; occupation is received as a valid excuse for his
|
|
not answering to every casual demand which may be made on him. Are
|
|
a woman's occupations, especially her chosen and voluntary ones,
|
|
ever regarded as excusing her from any of what are termed the calls
|
|
of society ? Scarcely are her most necessary and recognised duties
|
|
allowed as an exemption. It requires an illness in the family, or
|
|
something else out of the common way, to entitle her to give her
|
|
own business the precedence over other people's amusement. She must
|
|
always be at the beck and call of somebody, generally of everybody.
|
|
If she has a study or a pursuit, she must snatch any short interval
|
|
which accidentally occurs to be employed in it. A celebrated woman,
|
|
in a work which I hope will some day be published, remarks truly
|
|
that everything a woman does is done at odd times. Is it wonderful,
|
|
then, if she does not attain the highest eminence in things which
|
|
require consecutive attention, and the concentration on them of the
|
|
chief interest of life ? Such is philosophy, and such, above all,
|
|
is art, in which, besides the devotion of the thoughts and
|
|
feelings, the hand also must be kept in constant exercises to
|
|
attain high skill.
|
|
|
|
There is another consideration to be added to all these. In the
|
|
various arts and intellectual occupations, there is a degree of
|
|
proficiency sufficient for living by it, and there is a higher
|
|
degree on which depend the great productions which immortalise a
|
|
name. To the attainment of the former, there are adequate motives
|
|
in the case of all who follow the pursuit professionally: the other
|
|
is hardly ever attained where there is not, or where there has not
|
|
been at some period of life, an ardent desire of celebrity. Nothing
|
|
less is commonly a sufficient stimulus to undergo the long and
|
|
patient drudgery, which, in the case even of the greatest natural
|
|
gifts, is absolutely required for great eminence in pursuits in
|
|
which we already possess so many splendid memorials of the highest
|
|
genius. Now, whether the cause be natural or artificial, women
|
|
seldom have this eagerness for fame. Their ambition is generally
|
|
confined within narrower bounds. The influence they seek is over
|
|
those who immediately surround them. Their desire is to be liked,
|
|
loved, or admired, by those whom they see with their eyes: and the
|
|
proficiency in knowledge, arts, and accomplishments, which is
|
|
sufficient for that, almost always contents them. This is a trait
|
|
of character which cannot be left out of the account in judging of
|
|
women as they are. I do not at all believe that it is inherent in
|
|
women. It is only the natural result of their circumstances. The
|
|
love of fame in men is encouraged by education and opinion: to "
|
|
scorn delights and live laborious days " for its sake, is accounted
|
|
the part of "noble minds," even if spoken of as their "last
|
|
infirmity," and is stimulated by the access which fame gives to all
|
|
objects of ambition, including even the favour of women; while to
|
|
women themselves all these objects are closed, and the desire of
|
|
fame itself considered daring and unfeminine. Besides, how could it
|
|
be that a woman's interests should not be all concentrated upon the
|
|
impressions made on those who come into her daily life, when
|
|
society has ordained that all her duties should be to them, and has
|
|
contrived that all her comforts should depend on them? The natural
|
|
desire of consideration from our fellow-creatures is as strong in
|
|
a woman as in a man; but society has so ordered things that public
|
|
consideration is, in all ordinary cases, only attainable by her
|
|
through the consideration of her husband or of her male relations,
|
|
while her private consideration is forfeited by making herself
|
|
individually prominent, or appearing in any other character than
|
|
that of an appendage to men. Whoever is in the least capable of
|
|
estimating the influence on the mind of the entire domestic and
|
|
social position and the whole habit of a life, must easily
|
|
recognise in that influence a complete explanation of nearly all
|
|
the apparent differences between women and men, including the whole
|
|
of those which imply any inferiority.
|
|
|
|
As for moral differences, considered as distinguished from
|
|
intellectual, the distinction commonly drawn is to the advantage of
|
|
women. They are declared to be better than men; an empty
|
|
compliment, which must provoke a bitter smile from every woman of
|
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spirit, since there is no other situation in life in which it is
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the established order, and considered quite natural and suitable,
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that the better should obey the worse. If this piece of idle talk
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is good for anything, it is only as an admission by men, of the
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corrupting influence of power; for that is certainly the only truth
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which the fact, if it be a fact, either proves or illustrates. And
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it is true that servitude, except when it actually brutalises,
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though corrupting to both, is less so to the slaves than to the
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slave-masters. It is wholesomer for the moral nature to be
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restrained, even by arbitrary power, than to be allowed to exercise
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arbitrary power without restraint. Women, it is said, seldomer fall
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under the penal law-- contribute a much smaller number of offenders
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to the criminal calendar, than men. I doubt not that the same thing
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may be said, with the same truth, of negro slaves. Those who are
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under the control of others cannot often commit crimes, unless at
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the command and for the purposes of their masters. I do not know a
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more signal instance of the blindness with which the world,
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including the herd of studious men, ignore and pass over all the
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influences of social circumstances, than their silly depreciation
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of the intellectual, and silly panegyrics on the moral, nature of
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women.
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The complimentary dictum about women's superior moral goodness may
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be allowed to pair off with the disparaging one respecting their
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greater liability to moral bias. Women, we are told, are not
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capable of resisting their personal partialities: their judgment in
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grave affairs is warped by their sympathies and antipathies.
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Assuming it to be so, it is still to be proved that women are
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oftener misled by their personal feelings than men by their
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personal interests. The chief difference would seem in that case to
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be, that men are led from the course of duty and the public
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interest by their regard for themselves, women (not being allowed
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to have private interests of their own) by their regard for
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somebody else. It is also to be considered, that all the education
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which women receive from society inculcates on them the feeling
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that the individuals connected with them are the only ones to whom
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they owe any duty --the only ones whose interest they are called
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upon to care for; while, as far as education is concerned, they are
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left strangers even to the elementary ideas which are presupposed
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in any intelligent regard for larger interests or higher moral
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objects. The complaint against them resolves itself merely into
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this, that they fulfil only too faithfully the sole duty which they
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are taught, and almost the only one which they are permitted to
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practise.
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The concessions of the privileged to the unprivileged are so seldom
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brought about by any better motive than the power of the
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unprivileged to extort them, that any arguments against the
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prerogative of sex are likely to be little attended to by the
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generality, as long as they are able to say to themselves that
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women do not complain of it. That fact certainly enables men to
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retain the unjust privilege some time longer; but does not render
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it less unjust. Exactly the same thing may be said of the women in
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the harem of an oriental: they do not complain of not being allowed
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the freedom of European women. They think our women insufferably
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bold and unfeminine. How rarely it is that even men complain of the
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general order of society; and how much rarer still would such
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complaint be, if they did not know of any different order existing
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anywhere else. Women do not complain of the general lot of women;
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or rather they do, for plaintive elegies on it are very common in
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the writings of women, and were still more so as long as the
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lamentations could not be suspected of having any practical object.
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Their complaints are like the complaints which men make of the
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general unsatisfactoriness of human life; they are not meant to
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imply blame, or to plead for any change. But though women do not
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complain of the power of husbands, each complains of her own
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husband, or of the husbands of her friends. It is the same in all
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other cases of servitude, at least in the commencement of the
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emancipatory movement. The serfs did not at first complain of the
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power of their lords, but only of their tyranny. The commons began
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by claiming a few municipal privileges; they next asked an
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exemption for themselves from being taxed without their own
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consent; but they would at that time have thought it a great
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presumption to claim any share in the king's sovereign authority.
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The case of women is now the only case in which to rebel against
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established rules is still looked upon with the same eyes as was
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formerly a subject's claim to the I right of rebelling against his
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king. A woman who joins in any movement which her husband
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disapproves, makes herself a martyr, without even being able to be
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an apostle, for the husband can legally put a stop to her
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apostleship. Women cannot be expected to devote themselves to the
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emancipation of women, until men in considerable number are
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prepared to join with them in the undertaking.
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NOTES
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[1] Especially is this true if we take into consideration Asia as
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well as Europe. If a Hindoo principality is strongly, vigilantly,
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and economically governed; if order is preserved without
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oppression; if cultivation is extending, and the people prosperous,
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in three cases out of four that principalityis under a woman's
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rule. This fact, to me an entirely unexpected one, I have collected
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from a long knowledge of Hindoo governments. There are many such
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|
instances: for though, by Hindoo institutions, a woman cannot
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reign, she is the legal regent of a kingdom during the minority of
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the heir; and minorities are frequent, the lives of the male rulers
|
|
being so often prematurely terminated through the effect of
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inactivity and sensual excesses. When we consider that these
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princesses have never been seen in public, have never conversed
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|
with any man not of their own family except from behind a curtain,
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that they do not read, and if they did there is no book in their
|
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languages which ca give them the smallest instruction on political
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|
affairs; the example they afford of the natural capacity of women
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for government is very striking.
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[2] "It appears to be the same right turn of mind which enables a
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man to acquire the truth, or just idea of what is right, in the
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ornaments, as in the more stable principles of art. It has still
|
|
the same centre of perfection, though it is the centre of a smaller
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|
circle. --To illustrate this by fashion of dress, in which there is
|
|
allowed to be a good or bad taste. The component parts of dress are
|
|
continually changing from great to little, from short to long; but
|
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the general form still remains; it is still the same general dress
|
|
which is comparatively fixed , though on a very slender foundation;
|
|
but it is on this which fashion must rest. He who invents with the
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|
most success, or dresses in the best taste, would probably, from
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|
the same sagacity employed to greater purposes, have discovered
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equal skill, or have formed the same correct taste, in the highest
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labours of art." -- Sir Joshua Reynold's Discourses, Disc. vii.
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CHAPTER IV
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There remains a question, not of less importance than those already
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|
discussed, and which will be asked the most importunately by those
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|
opponents whose conviction is somewhat shaken on the main point.
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What good are we to expect from the changes proposed in our customs
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|
and institutions? Would mankind be at all better off if women were
|
|
free? If not, why disturb their minds, and attempt to make a social
|
|
revolution in the name of an abstract right? It is hardly to be
|
|
expected that this question will be asked in respect to the change
|
|
proposed in the condition of women in marriage. The sufferings,
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|
immoralities, evils of all sorts, produced in innumerable cases by
|
|
the subjection of individual women to individual men, are far too
|
|
terrible to be overlooked. Unthinking or uncandid persons, counting
|
|
those cases alone which are extreme, or which attain publicity, may
|
|
say that the evils are exceptional; but no one can be blind to
|
|
their existence, nor, in many cases, to their intensity. And it is
|
|
perfectly obvious that the abuse of the power cannot be very much
|
|
checked while the power remains. It is a power given, or offered,
|
|
not to good men, or to decently respectable men, but to all men;
|
|
the most brutal, and the most criminal. There is no check but that
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|
of opinion, and such men are in general within the reach of no
|
|
opinion but that of men like themselves. If such men did not
|
|
brutally tyrannise over the one human being whom the law compels to
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|
bear everything from them, society must already have reached a
|
|
paradisiacal state. There could be no need any longer of laws to
|
|
curb men's vicious propensities. Astraea must not only have
|
|
returned to earth, but the heart of the worst man must have become
|
|
her temple. The law of servitude in marriage is a monstrous
|
|
contradiction to all the principles of the modern world, and to all
|
|
the experience through which those principles have been slowly and
|
|
painfully worked out. It is the sole case, now that negro slavery
|
|
has been abolished, in which a human being in the plenitude of
|
|
every faculty is delivered up to the tender mercies of another
|
|
human being, in the hope forsooth that this other will use the
|
|
power solely for the good of the person subjected to it. Marriage
|
|
is the only actual bondage known to our law. There remain no legal
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|
slaves, except the mistress of every house. It is not, therefore,
|
|
on this part of the subject, that the question is likely to be
|
|
asked, Cui bono ~ We may be told that the evil would outweigh the
|
|
good, but the reality of the good admits of no dispute. In regard,
|
|
however, to the larger question, the removal of women's
|
|
disabilities--their recognition as the equals of men in all that
|
|
belongs to citizenship--the opening to them of all honourable
|
|
employments, and of the training and education which qualifies for
|
|
those employments--there are many persons for whom it is not enough
|
|
that the inequality has no just or legitimate defence; they require
|
|
to be told what express advantage would be obtained by abolishing
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|
it. To which let me first answer, the advantage of having the most
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|
universal and pervading of all human relations regulated by justice
|
|
instead of injustice. The vast amount of this gain to human nature,
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|
it is hardly possible, by any explanation or illustration, to place
|
|
in a stronger light than it is placed by the bare statement, to
|
|
anyone who attaches a moral meaning to words. All the selfish
|
|
propensities, the self-worship, the unjust self-preference, which
|
|
exist among mankind, have their source and root in, and derive
|
|
their principal nourishment from, the present constitution of the
|
|
relation between men and women. Think what it is to a boy, to grow
|
|
up to manhood in the belief that without any merit or any exertion
|
|
of his own, though he may be the most frivolous and empty or the
|
|
most ignorant and stolid of mankind, by the mere fact of being born
|
|
a male he is by right the superior of all and every one of an
|
|
entire half of the human race: including probably some whose real
|
|
superiority to himself he has daily or hourly occasion to feel; but
|
|
even if in his whole conduct he habitually follows a woman's
|
|
guidance, still, if he is a fool, she thinks that of course she is
|
|
not, and cannot be, equal in ability and judgment to himself; and
|
|
if he is not a fool, he does worse--he sees that she is superior to
|
|
him, and believes that, notwithstanding her superiority, he is
|
|
entitled to command and she is bound to obey. What must be the
|
|
effect on his character, of this lesson ? And men of the cultivated
|
|
classes are often not aware how deeply it sinks into the immense
|
|
majority of male minds. For, among right-feeling and wellbred
|
|
people, the inequality is kept as much as possible out of sight;
|
|
above all, out of sight of the children. As much obedience is
|
|
required from boys to their mother as to their father: they are not
|
|
permitted to domineer over their sisters, nor are they accustomed
|
|
to see these postponed to them, but the contrary; the compensations
|
|
of the chivalrous feeling being made prominent, while the servitude
|
|
which requires them is kept in the background. Well brought-up
|
|
youths in the higher classes thus often escape the bad influences
|
|
of the situation in their early years, and only experience them
|
|
when, arrived at manhood, they fall under the dominion of facts as
|
|
they really exist. Such people are little aware, when a boy is
|
|
differently brought up, how early the notion of his inherent
|
|
superiority to a girl arises in his mind; how it grows with his
|
|
growth and strengthens with his strength; how it is inoculated by
|
|
one schoolboy upon another; how early the youth thinks himself
|
|
superior to his mother, owing her perhaps forbearance, but no-real
|
|
respect; ana how sublime and sultan-like a sense of superiority he
|
|
feels, above all, over the woman whom he honours by admitting her
|
|
to a partnership of his life. Is it imagined that all this does not
|
|
pervert the whole manner of existence of the man, both as an
|
|
individual and as a social being? It is an exact parallel to the
|
|
feeling of a hereditary king that he is excellent above others by
|
|
being born a king, or a noble by being born a noble. The relation
|
|
between husband and wife is very like that between lord and vassal,
|
|
except that the wife is held to more unlimited obedience than the
|
|
vassal was. However the vassal's character may have been affected,
|
|
for better and for worse, by his subordination, who can help seeing
|
|
that the lord's was affected greatly for the worse? whether he was
|
|
led to believe that his vassals were really superior to himself, or
|
|
to feel that he was placed in command over people as good as
|
|
himself, for no merits or labours of his own, but merely for
|
|
having, as Figaro says, taken the trouble to be born. The
|
|
self-worship of the monarch, or of the feudal superior, is matched
|
|
by the self-worship of the male. Human beings do not grow up from
|
|
childhood in the possession of unearned distinctions, without
|
|
pluming themselves upon them. Those whom privileges not acquired by
|
|
their merit, and which they feel to be disproportioned to it,
|
|
inspire with additional humility, are always the few, and the best
|
|
few. The rest are only inspired with pride, and the worst sort of
|
|
pride, that which values itself upon accidental advantages, not of
|
|
its own achieving. Above all, when the feeling of being raised
|
|
above the whole of the other sex is combined with personal
|
|
authority over one individual among them; the situation, if a
|
|
school of conscientious and affectionate forbearance to those whose
|
|
strongest points of character are conscience and affection, is to
|
|
men of another quality a regularly constituted academy or gymnasium
|
|
for training them in arrogance and overbearingness; which vices, if
|
|
curbed by the certainty of resistance in their intercourse with
|
|
other men, their equals, break out towards all who are in a
|
|
position to be obliged to tolerate them, and often revenge
|
|
themselves upon the unfortunate wife for the involuntary restraint
|
|
which they are obliged to submit to elsewhere. The example
|
|
afforded, and the education given to the sentiments, by laying the
|
|
foundation of domestic existence upon a relation contradictory to
|
|
the first principles of social justice must, from the very nature
|
|
of man, have a perverting influence of such magnitude, that it is
|
|
hardly possible with our present experience to raise our
|
|
imaginations to the conception of so great a change for the better
|
|
as would be made by its removal. All that education and
|
|
civilisation are doing to efface the influences on character of the
|
|
law of force, and replace them by those of justice, remains merely
|
|
on the surface, as long as the citadel of the enemy is not
|
|
attacked. The principle of the modern movement in morals and
|
|
politics, is that conduct, and conduct alone, entitles to respect:
|
|
that not what men are, but what they do, constitutes their claim to
|
|
deference; that, above all, merit, and not birth, is the only
|
|
rightful claim to power and authority. If no authority, not in its
|
|
nature temporary, were allowed to one human being over another,
|
|
society would not be employed in building up propensities with one
|
|
hand which it has to curb with the other. The child would really,
|
|
for the first time in man's existence on earth, be trained in the
|
|
way he should go, and when he was old there would be a chance that
|
|
he would not depart from it. But so long as the right of the strong
|
|
to power over the weak rules in the very heart of society, the
|
|
attempt to make the equal right of the weak ~h~. principle of its
|
|
outward actions will always be an uphill struggle; for the law of
|
|
justice, which is also that of Christianity, will never get
|
|
possession of men's inmost sentiments; they will be working against
|
|
it, even when bending to it. The second benefit to be expected
|
|
from giving to women the free use of their faculties, by leaving
|
|
them the free choice of their employments, and opening to them the
|
|
same field of occupation and the same prizes and encouragements as
|
|
to other human beings, would be that of doubling the mass of mental
|
|
faculties available for the higher service of humanity. Where there
|
|
is now one person qualified to benefit mankind and promote the
|
|
general improvement, as a public teacher, or an administrator of
|
|
some branch of public or social affairs, there would then be a
|
|
chance of two. Mental superiority of any kind is at present
|
|
everywhere so much below the demand; there is such a deficiency of
|
|
persons competent to do excellently anything which it requires any
|
|
considerable amount of ability to do; that the loss to the world,
|
|
by refusing to make use of one half of the whole quantity of talent
|
|
it possesses, is extremely serious. It is true that this amount of
|
|
mental power is not totally lost. Much of it is employed, and would
|
|
in any case be employed, in domestic management, and in the few
|
|
other occupations open to women; and from the remainder indirect
|
|
benefit is in many individual cases obtained, through the personal
|
|
influence of individual women over individual men. But these
|
|
benefits are partial; their range is extremely circumscribed; and
|
|
if they must be admitted, on the one hand, as a deduction from the
|
|
amount of fresh social power that would be acquired by giving
|
|
freedom to one-half of the whole sum of human intellect, there must
|
|
be added, on the other, the benefit of the stimulus that would be
|
|
given to the intellect of men by the competition; or (to use a more
|
|
true expression) by the necessity that would be imposed on them of
|
|
deserving precedency before they could expect to obtain it. This
|
|
great accession to the intellectual power of the species, and to
|
|
the amount of intellect available for the good management of its
|
|
affairs, would be obtained, partly, through the better and more
|
|
complete intellectual education of women, which would then improve
|
|
pari passu with that of men. Women in general would be brought up
|
|
equally capable of understanding business, public affairs, and the
|
|
higher matters of speculation, with men In the same class of
|
|
society; and the select few of the one as well as of the other sex,
|
|
who were qualified not only to comprehend what is done or thought
|
|
by others, but to think or do something considerable themselves,
|
|
would meet with the same facilities for improving and training
|
|
their capacities in the one sex as in the other. In this way, the
|
|
widening of the sphere of action for women would operate for good,
|
|
by raising their education to the level of that of men, and making
|
|
the one participate in all improvements made in the other. But
|
|
independently of this, the mere breaking down of the barrier would
|
|
of itself have an educational virtue of the highest worth. The mere
|
|
getting rid of the idea that all the wider subjects of thought and
|
|
action, all the things which are of general and not solely of
|
|
private interest, are men's business, from which women are to be
|
|
warned off--positively interdicted from most of it, coldly
|
|
tolerated in the little which is allowed them--the mere
|
|
consciousness a woman would then have of being a human being like
|
|
any other, entitled to choose her pursuits, urged or invited by the
|
|
same inducements as anyone else to interest herself in whatever is
|
|
interesting to human beings, entitled to exert the share of
|
|
influence on all human concerns which belongs to an individual
|
|
opinion, whether she attempted actual participation in them or
|
|
not--this alone would effect an immense expansion of the faculties
|
|
of women, as well as enlargement of the range of their moral
|
|
sentiments. Besides the addition to the amount of individual
|
|
talent available for the conduct of human affairs, which certainly
|
|
are not at present so abundantly provided in that respect that they
|
|
can afford to dispense with one-half of what nature proffers; the
|
|
opinion of women would then possess a more beneficial, rather than
|
|
a greater, influence upon the general mass of human belief and
|
|
sentiment. I say a more beneficial, rather than a greater
|
|
influence; for the influence of women over the general tone of
|
|
opinion has always, or at least from the earliest known period,
|
|
been very considerable. The influence of mothers on the early
|
|
character of their sons, and the desire of young men to recommend
|
|
themselves to young women, have in all recorded times been
|
|
important agencies in the formation of character, and have
|
|
determined some of the chief steps in the progress of civilisation.
|
|
Even in the Homeric age, [Greek word deleted] towards the [Greek
|
|
phrase deleted] is an acknowledged and powerful motive of action in
|
|
the great Hector. The moral influence of women has had two modes of
|
|
operation. First, it has been a softening influence. Those who were
|
|
most liable to be the victims of violence, have naturally tended as
|
|
much as they could towards limiting its sphere and mitigating its
|
|
excesses. Those who were not taught to fight, have naturally
|
|
inclined in favour of any other mode of settling differences rather
|
|
than that of fighting. In general, those who have been the greatest
|
|
sufferers by the indulgence of selfish passion, have been the most
|
|
earnest supporters of any moral law which offered a means of
|
|
bridling passion. Women were powerfully instrumental in inducing
|
|
the northern conquerors to adopt the creed of Christianity, a creed
|
|
so much more favourable to women than any that preceded it. The
|
|
conversion of the Anglo-Saxons and of the Franks may be said to
|
|
have been begun by the wives of Ethelbert and Clovis. The other
|
|
mode in which the effect of women's opinion has been conspicuous,
|
|
is by giving, a powerful stimulus to those qualities in men, which,
|
|
not being themselves trained in, it was necessary for them that
|
|
they should find in their protectors. Courage, and the military
|
|
virtues generally, have at all times been greatly indebted to the
|
|
desire which men felt of being admired by women: and the stimulus
|
|
reaches far beyond this one class of eminent qualities, since, by
|
|
a very natural effect of their position, the best passport to the
|
|
admiration and favour of women has always been to be thought highly
|
|
of by men. From the combination of the two kinds of moral influence
|
|
thus exercised by women, arose the spirit of chivalry: the
|
|
peculiarity ~,f which is, to aim at combining the highest standard
|
|
of the warlike qualities with the cultivation of a totally
|
|
different class of virtues--those of gentleness, generosity, and
|
|
self-abnegation, towards the non-military and defenseless classes
|
|
generally, and a special submission and worship directed towards
|
|
women; who were distinguished from the other defence- less classes
|
|
by the high rewards which they had it in their power voluntarily to
|
|
bestow on those who endeavoured to earn their favour, instead of
|
|
extorting their subjection. Though the practice of chivalry fell
|
|
even more sadly short of its theoretic standard than practice
|
|
generally falls below theory, it remains one of the most precious
|
|
monuments of the moral history of our race; as a remarkable
|
|
instance of a concerted and organised attempt by a most
|
|
disorganised and distracted society, to raise up and carry into
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practice a moral ideal greatly in advance of its social condition
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and institutions; so much so as to have been completely frustrated
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in the main object, yet never entirely inefficacious, and which has
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left a most sensible, and for the most part a highly valuable
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impress on the ideas and feelings of all subsequent times. The
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chivalrous ideal is the acme of the influence of women's sentiments
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on the moral cultivation of mankind: and if women are to remain in
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their subordinate situation, it were greatly to be lamented that
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the chivalrous standard should have passed away, for it is the only
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one at all capable of mitigating the demoralising influences of
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that position. But the changes in the general state of the species
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|
rendered inevitable the substitution of a totally different ideal
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of morality for the chivalrous one. Chivalry was the attempt to
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infuse moral elements into a state of society in which everything
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depended for good o~ evil on individual prowess, under the
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softening influences of individual delicacy and generosity. In
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modern societies, all things, even in the military department of
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affairs, are decided, not by individual effort, but by the combined
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operations of numbers; while the main occupation of society has
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changed from fighting to business, from military to industrial
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life. The exigencies of the new life are no more exclusive of the
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virtues of generosity than those of the old, but it no longer
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entirely depends on them. The main foundations of the moral life of
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modern times must be justice and prudence; the respect of each for
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the rights of every other, and the ability of each to take care of
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himself. Chivalry left without legal check all forms of wrong which
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reigned unpunished throughout society; it only encouraged a few to
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do right in preference to wrong, by the direction it gave to the
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instruments of praise and admiration. But the real dependence of
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morality must always be upon its penal sanctions--its power to
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deter from evil. The security of society cannot rest on merely
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rendering honour to right, a motive so comparatively weak in all
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but a few, and which on very many does not operate at all. Modern
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society is able to repress wrong through all departments of life,
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by a fit exertion of the superior strength which civilisation has
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given it, and thus to render the existence of the weaker members of
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society (no longer defenseless but protected by law) tolerable to
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them, without reliance on the chivalrous feelings of those who are
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in a position to tyrannise. The beauties and graces of the
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chivalrous character are still what they were, but the rights of
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the weak, and the general comfort of human life, now rest on a far
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surer and steadier support; or rather, they do so in every relation
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of life except the conjugal. At present the moral influence of
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women is no less real, but it is no longer of so marked and
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|
definite a character: it has more nearly merged in the general
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|
influence of public opinion. Both through the contagion of
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sympathy, and through the desire of men to shine in the eyes of
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women, their feelings have great effect in keeping alive what
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remains of the chivalrous ideal--in fostering the sentiments and
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continuing the traditions of spirit and generosity. In these points
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of character, their standard is higher than that of men; in the
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quality of justice, somewhat lower. As regards the relations of
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private life it may be said generally, that their influence is, on
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the whole, encouraging to the softer virtues, discouraging to the
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|
sterner: though the statement must be taken with all the
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|
modifications dependent on individual character. In the chief of
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|
the greater trials to which virtue is subject in the concerns of
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|
life--the conflict between interest and principle--the tendency of
|
|
women's influence- is of a very mixed character. When the principle
|
|
involved happens to be one of the very few which the course of
|
|
their religious or moral education has strongly impressed upon
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|
themselves, they are potent auxiliaries to virtue: and their
|
|
husbands and sons are often prompted by them to acts of abnegation
|
|
which they never would have been capable of without that stimulus.
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|
But, with the present education and position of women, the moral
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|
principles which have been impressed on them cover but a
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|
comparatively small part of the field of virtue, and are, moreover,
|
|
principally negative; forbidding particular acts, but having little
|
|
to do with the general direction of the thoughts and purposes. I am
|
|
afraid it must be said, that disinterestedness in the general
|
|
conduct of life--the devotion of the energies to purposes which
|
|
hold out no promise of private advantages to the family--is very
|
|
seldom encouraged or supported by women's influence. It is small
|
|
blame to them that they discourage objects of which they have not
|
|
learnt to see the advantage, and which withdraw their men from
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|
them, and from the interests of the family. But the consequence is
|
|
that women's influence is often anything but favourable to public
|
|
virtue. Women have, however, some share of influence in giving the
|
|
tone to public moralities since their sphere of action has been a
|
|
little widened, and since a considerable number of them have
|
|
occupied themselves practically in the promotion of objects
|
|
reaching beyond their own family and household. The influence of
|
|
women counts for a great deal in two of the most marked features of
|
|
modern European life--its aversion to war, and its addiction to
|
|
philanthropy. Excellent characteristics both; but unhappily, if the
|
|
influence of women is valuable in the encouragement it gives to
|
|
these feelings in general, in the particular applications the
|
|
direction it gives to them is at least as often mischievous as
|
|
useful. In the philanthropic department more particularly, the two
|
|
provinces chiefly cultivated by women are religious proselytism and
|
|
charity. Religious proselytism at home, is but another word for
|
|
embittering of religious animosities: abroad, it is usually a blind
|
|
running at an object, without either knowing or heeding the fatal
|
|
mischiefs--fatal to the religious object itself as well as to all
|
|
other desirable objects --which may be produced by the means
|
|
employed. As for charity, it is a matter in which the immediate
|
|
effect on the persons directly concerned, and the ultimate
|
|
consequence to the general good, are apt to be at complete war with
|
|
one another: while the education given to women--an education of
|
|
the sentiments rather than of the understanding--and the habit
|
|
inculcated by their whole life, of looking to immediate effects on
|
|
persons, and not to remote effects on classes of persons-- make
|
|
them both unable to see, and unwilling to admit, the ultimate evil
|
|
tendency of any form of charity or philanthropy which commends
|
|
itself to their sympathetic feelings. The great and continually
|
|
increasing mass of unenlightened and shortsighted benevolence,
|
|
which, taking the care of people's lives out of their own hands,
|
|
and relieving them from the disagreeable consequences of their own
|
|
acts, saps the very foundations of the self-respect, self-help, and
|
|
self-control which are the essential conditions both of individual
|
|
prosperity and of social virtue-- this waste of resources and of
|
|
benevolent feelings in doing harm instead of good, is immensely
|
|
swelled by women's contributions, and stimulated by their
|
|
influence. Not that this is a mistake likely to be made by women,
|
|
where they have actually the practical management of schemes of
|
|
beneficence. It sometimes happens that women who administer public
|
|
charities--with that insight into present fact, and especially into
|
|
the minds and feelings of those with whom they are in immediate
|
|
contact, in which women generally excel men-- recognise in the
|
|
clearest manner the demoralising influence of the alms given or the
|
|
help afforded, and could give lessons on the subject to many a male
|
|
political economist. But women who only give their money, and are
|
|
not brought face to face with the effects it produces, how can they
|
|
be expected to foresee them ? A woman born to the present lot of
|
|
women, and content with it, how should she appreciate the value of
|
|
self-dependence ? She is not self-dependent; she is not taught
|
|
self-dependence; her destiny is to receive everything from others,
|
|
and why should what is good enough for her be bad for the poor? Her
|
|
familiar notions of good are of blessings descending from a
|
|
superior. She forgets that she is not free, and that the poor are;
|
|
that if what they need is given to them unearned, they cannot be
|
|
compelled to earn it: that everybody cannot be taken care of by
|
|
everybody, but there must be some motive to induce people to take
|
|
care of themselves; and that to be helped-to help themselves, if
|
|
they are physically capable of it, is the only charity which proves
|
|
to be charity in the end. These considerations show how usefully
|
|
the part which women take in the formation of general opinion,
|
|
would be modified for the better by that more enlarged instruction,
|
|
and practical conversancy with the things which their opinions
|
|
influence, that would necessarily arise from their social and
|
|
political emancipation. But the improvement it would work through
|
|
the influence they exercise, each in her own family, would be still
|
|
more remarkable. It is often said that in the classes most exposed
|
|
to temptation, a man's wife and children tend to keep him honest
|
|
and respectable, both by the wife's direct influence, and by the
|
|
concern he feels for their future welfare. This may be so, and no
|
|
doubt often is so, with those who are more weak than wicked; and
|
|
this beneficial influence would be preserved and strengthened under
|
|
equal laws; it does not depend on the woman's servitude, but is, on
|
|
the contrary, diminished by the disrespect which the inferior class
|
|
of men always at heart feel towards those who are subject to their
|
|
power. But when we ascend higher in the scale, we come among a
|
|
totally different set of moving forces. The wife's influence tends,
|
|
as far as it goes, to prevent the husband from falling below the
|
|
common standard of approbation of the country. It tends quite as
|
|
strongly to hinder him from rising above it. The wife is the
|
|
auxiliary of the common public opinion. A man who is married to a
|
|
woman his inferior in intelligence, finds her a perpetual dead
|
|
weight, or, worse than a dead weight, a drag, upon every aspiration
|
|
of his to be better than public opinion requires him to be. It is
|
|
hardly possible for one who is in these bonds, to attain exalted
|
|
virtue. If he differs in his opinion from the mass--if he sees
|
|
truths which have not yet dawned upon them, or if, feeling in his
|
|
heart truths which they nominally recognise, he would like to act
|
|
up to those truths more conscientiously than the generality of
|
|
mankind-- to all such thoughts and desires, marriage is the
|
|
heaviest of drawbacks, unless he be so fortunate as to have a wife
|
|
as much above the common level as he himself is. For, in the first
|
|
place, there is always some sacrifice of personal interest
|
|
required; either of social consequence, or of pecuniary means;
|
|
perhaps the risk of even the means of subsistence. These sacrifices
|
|
and risks he may be willing to encounter for himself; but he will
|
|
pause before he imposes them on his family. And his family in this
|
|
case means his wife and daughters; for he always hopes that his
|
|
sons will feel as he feels himself, and that what he can do
|
|
without, they will do without, willingly, is the same cause. But
|
|
his daughters- -their marriage may depend upon it: and his wife,
|
|
who is unable to enter into or understand the objects for which
|
|
these sacrifices are made-- who, if she thought them worth any
|
|
sacrifice, would think so on trust, and solely for his sake--who
|
|
could participate in none of the enthusiasm or the self-approbation
|
|
he himself may feel, while the things which he is disposed to
|
|
sacrifice are all in all to her; will not the best and most
|
|
unselfish man hesitate the longest before bringing on her this
|
|
consequence? If it be not the comforts of life, but only social
|
|
consideration, that is at stake, the burthen upon his conscience
|
|
and feelings is still very severe. Whoever has a wife and children
|
|
has given hostages to Mrs. Grundy. The approbation of that
|
|
potentate may be a matter of indifference to him, but it is of
|
|
great importance to his wife. The man himself may be above opinion,
|
|
or may find sufficient compensation in the opinion of those of his
|
|
own way of thinking. But to the women connected with him, he can
|
|
offer no compensation. The almost invariable tendency of the wife
|
|
to place her influence in the same scale with social consideration,
|
|
is sometimes made a reproach to women, and represented as a
|
|
peculiar trait of feebleness and childishness of character in them:
|
|
surely with great injustice. Society makes the whole life of a
|
|
woman, in the easy classes, a continued self sacrifice; it exacts
|
|
from her an unremitting restraint of the whole of her natural
|
|
inclinations, and the sole return it makes to her for what often
|
|
deserves the name of a martyrdom, is consideration. Her
|
|
consideration is inseparably connected with that of her husband,
|
|
and after paying the full price for it, she finds that she is to
|
|
lose it, for no reason of which she can feel the cogency. She has
|
|
sacrificed her whole life to it, and her husband will not sacrifice
|
|
to it a whim, a freak, an eccentricity; something not recognised or
|
|
allowed for by the world, and which the world will agree with her
|
|
in thinking a folly, if it thinks no worse ! The dilemma is hardest
|
|
upon that very meritorious class of men, who, without possessing
|
|
talents which qualify them to make a figure among those with whom
|
|
they agree in opinion, hold their opinion from conviction, and feel
|
|
bound in honour and conscience to serve it, by making profession of
|
|
their belief, and giving their time, labour, and means, to anything
|
|
undertaken in its behalf. The worst case of all is when such men
|
|
happen to be of a rank and position which of itself neither gives
|
|
them, nor excludes them from, what is considered the best society;
|
|
when their admission to it depends mainly on what is thought of
|
|
them personally--and however unexceptionable their breeding and
|
|
habits, their being identified with opinions and public conduct
|
|
unacceptable to those who give the tone to society would operate as
|
|
an effectual exclusion. Many a woman flatters herself (nine times
|
|
out of ten quite erroneously) that nothing prevents her and her
|
|
husband from moving in the highest society of her
|
|
neighbourhood--society in which others well known to her, and in
|
|
the same class of life, mix freely--except that her husband is
|
|
unfortunately a Dissenter, or has the reputation of mingling in low
|
|
radical politics. That it is, she thinks, which hinders George from
|
|
getting a commission or a place, Caroline from making an
|
|
advantageous match, and prevents her and her husband from obtaining
|
|
invitations, perhaps honours, which, for aught she sees, they are
|
|
as well entitled to as some folks. With such an influence in every
|
|
house, either exerted actively, or operating all the more
|
|
powerfully for not being asserted, is it any wonder that people in
|
|
\general are kept down in that mediocrity of respectability which
|
|
is becoming a marked characteristic of modern times? There is
|
|
another very injurious aspect in which the effect, not of women's
|
|
disabilities directly, but of the broad line of difference which
|
|
those disabilities create between the education and character of a
|
|
woman and that of a man, requires to be considered. Nothing can be
|
|
more unfavourable to that union of thoughts and inclinations which
|
|
is the ideal of married life. Intimate society between people
|
|
radically dissimilar to one another, is an idle dream. .Unlikeness
|
|
may attract, but it is likeness which retains; and in proportion to
|
|
the likeness is the suitability of the individuals to give each
|
|
other a happy life. While women are so unlike men, it is not
|
|
wonderful that selfish men should feel the need of arbitrary power
|
|
in their own hands, to arrest in limine the life-long conflict of
|
|
inclinations, by deciding every question on the side of their own
|
|
preference. When people are extremely unlike, there can be no real
|
|
identity of interest. Very often there is conscientious difference
|
|
of opinion between married people, on the highest points of duty.
|
|
Is there any reality in the marriage union where this takes place?
|
|
Yet it is not uncommon anywhere, when the woman has any earnestness
|
|
of character; and it is a very general case indeed in Catholic
|
|
countries, when she is supported in her dissent by the only other
|
|
authority to which she is taught to bow, the priest. With the usual
|
|
barefacedness of power not accustomed to find itself disputed, the
|
|
influence of priests over women is attacked by Protestant and
|
|
Liberal writers, less for being bad in itself, than because it is
|
|
a rival authority to the husband, and raises up a revolt against
|
|
his infallibility. In England, similar differences occasionally
|
|
exist when an Evangelical wife has allied herself with a husband of
|
|
a different quality; but in general this source at least of
|
|
dissension is got rid of, by reducing the minds of women to such a
|
|
nullity, that they have no opinions but those of Mrs. Grundy, or
|
|
those which the husband tells them to have. When there is no
|
|
difference of opinion, differences merely of taste may be
|
|
sufficient to detract greatly from the happiness of married life.
|
|
And though it may stimulate the amatory propensities of men, it
|
|
does not conduce to married happiness, to exaggerate by differences
|
|
of education whatever may be the native differences of the sexes.
|
|
If the married pair are well-bred and well-behaved people, they
|
|
tolerate each other's tastes; but is mutual toleration what people
|
|
look forward to, when they enter into marriage? These differences
|
|
of inclination will naturally make their wishes different, if not
|
|
restrained by affection or duty, as to almost all domestic
|
|
questions which arise. What a difference there must be in the
|
|
society which the two persons will wish to frequent, or be
|
|
frequented by ! Each will desire associates who share their own
|
|
tastes: the persons agreeable to one, will be indifferent or
|
|
positively disagreeable to the other; yet there can be none who are
|
|
not common to both, for married people do not now live in different
|
|
parts of the house and have totally different visiting lists, as in
|
|
the reign of Louis XV. They cannot help having different wishes as
|
|
to the bringing up of the children: each wi]l wish to see
|
|
reproduced in them their own tastes and sentiments: and there is
|
|
either a compromise, and only a half satisfaction to either, or the
|
|
wife has to yield--often with bitter suffering; and, with or
|
|
without intention, her occult influence continues to counterwork
|
|
the husband's purposes. It would of course be extreme folly to
|
|
suppose that these differences of feeling and inclination only
|
|
exist because women are brought up differently from men, and that
|
|
there would not be differences of taste under any imaginable
|
|
circumstances. But there is nothing beyond the mark in saying that
|
|
the distinction in bringing up immensely aggravates those
|
|
differences, and renders them wholly inevitable. While women are
|
|
brought up as they are, a man and a woman will but rarely find in
|
|
one another real agreement of tastes and wishes as to daily life.
|
|
They will generally have to give it up as hopeless, and renounce
|
|
the attempt to have, in the intimate associate of their daily
|
|
life, that idem velle, idem nolle, which is the recognised bond of
|
|
any society that is really such: or if the man succeeds in
|
|
obtaining it, he does so by choosing a woman who is so complete a
|
|
nullity that she has no velle or nolle at all, and is as ready to
|
|
comply with one thing as another if anybody tells her to do so.
|
|
Even this calculation is apt to fail; dullness and want of spirit
|
|
are not always a guarantee of the submission which is so
|
|
confidently expected from them. But if they were, is this the ideal
|
|
of marriage ? What, in this case, does the man obtain by it, except
|
|
an upper servant, a nurse, or a mistress? on the contrary, when
|
|
each of two persons, instead of being a nothing, is a something;
|
|
when they are attached to one another, and are not too much unlike
|
|
to begin with; the constant partaking in the same things, assisted
|
|
by their sympathy, draws out the latent capacities of each for
|
|
being interested in the things which were at first interesting only
|
|
to the other; and works a gradual assimilation of the tastes and
|
|
characters to one another, partly by the insensible modification of
|
|
each, but more by a real enriching of the two natures, each
|
|
acquiring the tastes and capacities of the other in addition to its
|
|
own. This often happens between two friends of the same sex, who
|
|
are much associated in their daily life: and it would be a common,
|
|
if not the commonest, case in marriage, did not the totally
|
|
different bringing up of the two sexes make it next to an
|
|
impossibility to form a really well-assorted union. Were this
|
|
remedied, whatever differences there might still be in individual
|
|
tastes, there would at least be, as a general rule, complete unity
|
|
and unanimity as to the great objects of life. When the two persons
|
|
both care for great objects, and are a help and encouragement to
|
|
each other in whatever regards these, the minor matters on which
|
|
their tastes may differ are not all-important to them; and there is
|
|
a foundation for solid friendship, of an enduring character, more
|
|
likely than anything else t~ make it, through the whole of life, a
|
|
greater pleasure to each to give pleasure to the other, than to
|
|
receive it. I have considered, thus far, the effects on the
|
|
pleasures and benefits of the marriage union which depend on the
|
|
mere unlikeness between the wife and the husband: but the evil
|
|
tendency is prodigiously aggravated when the unlikeness is
|
|
inferiority. Mere unlikeness, when it only means difference of good
|
|
qualities, may be more a benefit in the way of mutual improvement,
|
|
than a drawback from comfort. When each emulates, and desires and
|
|
endeavours to acquire, the other's peculiar qualities
|
|
the difference does not produce diversity of interest, but
|
|
increased identity of it, and makes each still more valuable to the
|
|
other. But when one is much the inferior of the to in mental
|
|
ability and cultivation, and is not actively attempting by the
|
|
other's aid to rise to the other's level, the whole influence of
|
|
the connexion upon the development of the superior of the two is
|
|
deteriorating: and still more so in a tolerably happy marriage than
|
|
in an unhappy one. It is not with impunity that the superior in
|
|
intellect shuts himself up with an inferior, and elects that
|
|
inferior for his chosen, and sole completely intimate, associate.
|
|
Any society which is not improving is deteriorating: and the more
|
|
so, the closer and more familiar it is. Even a really superior man
|
|
almost always begins to deteriorate when he is habitually (as the
|
|
phrase is) king of his company: and in his most habitual company
|
|
the husband who has a wife inferior to him is always so. While his
|
|
self-satisfaction is incessantly ministered to on the one hand, on
|
|
the other he insensibly imbibes the modes of feeling, and of
|
|
looking at things, which belong to a more vulgar or a more limited
|
|
mind than his own. This evil differs from many of those which have
|
|
hitherto been dwelt on, by being an increasing one. The association
|
|
of men with women in daily life is much closer and more complete
|
|
than it ever was before. Men's life is more domestic. Formerly,
|
|
their pleasures and chosen occupations were among men, and in men's
|
|
company: their wives had but a fragment of their lives. At the
|
|
present time, the progress of civilisation, and the turn of opinion
|
|
against the rough amusements and convivial excesses which formerly
|
|
occupied most men in their hours of relaxation-- together with (it
|
|
must be said) the improved tone of modern feeling as to the
|
|
reciprocity of duty which binds the husband towards the wife--have
|
|
thrown the man very much more upon home and its inmates, for his
|
|
personal and social pleasures: while the kind and degree of
|
|
improvement which has been made in women's education, has made them
|
|
in some degree capable of being his companions in ideas and mental
|
|
taste, while leaving them, in most cases, still hopelessly inferior
|
|
to him. His desire of mental communion is thus in general satisfied
|
|
by a communion from which he learns nothing. An unimproving and
|
|
unstimulating companionship is substituted for (what he might
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otherwise have been obliged to seek) the society of his equals in
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powers and his fellows in the higher pursuits. We see, accordingly,
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that young men of the greatest promise generally cease to improve
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as soon as they marry, and, not improving, inevitably degenerate.
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If the wife does not push the husband forward, she always holds him
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back. He ceases to care for what she does not care for; he no
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longer desires, and ends by disliking and shunning, society
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congenial to his former aspirations, and which would now shame his
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falling-off from them; his higher faculties both of mind and heart
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cease to be called into activity. And this change coinciding with
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the new and selfish interests which are created by the family,
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after a few years he differs in no material respect from those who
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have never had wishes for anything but the common vanities and the
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common pecuniary objects. What marriage may be in the case of two
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persons of cultivated faculties, identical in opinions and
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purposes, between whom there exists that best kind of equality,
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similarity of powers and capacities with reciprocal superiority in
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them--so that each can enjoy the luxury of looking up to the other,
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and can have alternately the pleasure of leading and of being led
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in the path of development--I will not attempt to describe. To
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those who can conceive it, there is no need; to those who cannot,
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it would appear the dream of an enthusiast. But I maintain, with
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the profoundest conviction, that this, and this only, is the ideal
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of marriage; and that all opinions, customs, and institutions which
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favour any other notion of it, or turn the conceptions and
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aspirations connected with it into any other direction, by whatever
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pretences they may be coloured, are relics of primitive barbarism.
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The moral regeneration of mankind will only really commence, when
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the most fundamental of the social relations is placed under the
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rule of equal justice, and when human beings learn to cultivate
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their strongest sympathy with an equal in nights and in
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cultivation. Thus far, the benefits which it has appeared that the
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world would gain by ceasing to make sex a disqualification for
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privileges and a badge of subjection, are social rather than
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individual; consisting in an increase of the general fund of
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thinking and acting power, and an improvement in the general
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conditions of the association of men with women. But it would be a
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grievous understatement of the case to omit the most direct benefit
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of all, the unspeakable gain in private happiness to the liberated
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half of the species; the difference to them between a life of
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subjection to the will of others, and a life of rational freedom.
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After the primary necessities of food and raiment, freedom is the
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first and strongest want of human nature. While
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mankind are lawless, their desire is for lawless freedom. When they
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have learnt to understand the meaning of duty and the value of
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reason, they incline more and more to be guided and restrained by
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these in the exercise of their freedom; but they do not therefore
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desire freedom less; they do not become disposed to accept the will
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of other people as the representative and interpreter of those
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guiding principles. on the contrary, the communities in which the
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reason has been most cultivated, and in which the idea of social
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duty has been most powerful, are those which have most strongly
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asserted the freedom of action of the individual--the liberty of
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each to govern his conduct by his own feelings of duty, and by such
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laws and social restraints as his own conscience can subscribe to.
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He who would rightly appreciate the worth of personal independence
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as an element of happiness, should consider the value he himself
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puts upon it as an ingredient of his own. There is no subject on
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which there is a greater habitual difference of judgment between a
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man judging for himself, and the same man judging for other people.
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When he hears others complaining that they are not allowed freedom
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of action--that their own will has not sufficient influence in the
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regulation of their affairs--his inclination is, to ask, what are
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their grievances ? what positive damage they sustain? and in what
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respect they consider their affairs to be mismanaged ? and if they
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fail to make out, in answer to these questions, what appears to him
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a sufficient case, he turns a deaf ear, and regards their complaint
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as the fanciful querulousness of people whom nothing reasonable
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will satisfy. But he has a quite different standard of judgment
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when he is deciding for himself. Then, the most unexceptionable
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administration of his interests by a tutor set over him, does not
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satisfy his feelings: his personal exclusion from the deciding
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authority appears itself the greatest grievance of all, rendering
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it superfluous even to enter into the question of mismanagement. It
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is the same with nations. What citizen of a free country would
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listen to any offers of good and skilful administration, in return
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for the abdication of freedom? Even if he could believe that good
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and skilful administration can exist among a people ruled by a will
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not their own, would not the consciousness of working out their own
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destiny under their own moral responsibility be a compensation to
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his feelings for great rudeness and imperfection in the details of
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public affairs ? Let him rest assured that whatever he feels on
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this point, women feel in a fully equal degree. Whatever has been
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said or written, from the time of Herodotus to the present, of the
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ennobling influence of free government--the nerve and spring which
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it gives to all the faculties, the larger and higher objects which
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it presents to the intellect and feelings, the more unselfish
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public spirit, and calmer and broader views of duty, that it
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engenders, and the generally loftier platform on which it elevates
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the individual as a moral, spiritual, and social being--is every
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particle as true of women as of men. Are these things no important
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part of individual happiness ? Let any man call to mind what he
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himself felt on emerging from boyhood--from the tutelage and
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control of even loved and affectionate elders--and entering upon
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the responsibilities of manhood. Was it not like the physical
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effect of taking off a heavy weight, or releasing him from
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obstructive, even if not otherwise painful, bonds? Did he not feel
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twice as much alive, twice as much a human being, as before ? And
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does he imagine that women have none of these feelings? But it is
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|
a striking fact, that the satisfactions and mortifications of
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personal pride, though all in all to most men when the case is
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their own, have less allowance made for them in the case of other
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people, and are less listened to as a ground or a justification of
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conduct, than any other natural human feelings; perhaps because men
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compliment them in their own case with the names of so many other
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qualities, that they are seldom conscious how mighty an influence
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these feelings exercise in their own lives. No less large and
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|
powerful is their part, we may assure ourselves, in the lives and
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|
feelings of women. Women are schooled into suppressing them in
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their most natural and most healthy direction, but the internal
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principle remains, in a different outward form. An active and
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energetic mind, if denied liberty, will seek for power: refused the
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command of itself, it will assert its personality by attempting to
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control others. To allow to any human beings no existence of their
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|
own but what depends on others, is giving far too high B premium on
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bending others to their purposes. Where liberty cannot be hoped
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for, and power can, power becomes the grand object of human desire;
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those to whom others will not leave the undisturbed management of
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their own affairs, will compensate themselves, if they can, by
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meddling for their own purposes with the affairs of others. Hence
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|
also women's passion for personal beauty, and dress and display;
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|
and all the evils that flow from it, in the way of mischievous
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|
luxury and social immorality. The love of power and the love of
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liberty are in eternal antagonism. Where there is least liberty,
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the passion for power is the most ardent and unscrupulous. The
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desire of power over others can only cease to be a depraving agency
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|
among mankind, when each of them individually is able to do without
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it: which can only be where respect for liberty in the personal
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|
concerns of each is an established principle. But it is not only
|
|
through the sentiment of personal dignity, that the free direction
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|
and disposal of their own faculties is a source of individual
|
|
happiness, and to be fettered and restricted in it, a source of
|
|
unhappiness, to human beings, and not least to women. There is
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|
nothing, after disease, indigence, and guilt, so fatal to the
|
|
pleasurable enjoyment of life as the want o~ a worthy outlet for
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|
the active faculties. Women who have the cares of a family, and
|
|
while they have the cares of a family, have this outlet, and it
|
|
generally suffices for them: but what of the greatly increasing
|
|
number of women, who have had no opportunity of exercising the
|
|
vocation which they are mocked by telling them is their proper one?
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|
What of the women whose children have been lost to them by death or
|
|
distance, or have grown up, married, and formed homes of their own?
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|
There are abundant examples of men who, after a life engrossed by
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|
business, retire with a competency to the enjoyment, as they hope,
|
|
of rest, but to whom, as they are unable to acquire new interests
|
|
and excitements that can replace the old, the change to a life of
|
|
inactivity brings ennui, melancholy, and premature death. Yet no
|
|
one thinks of the parallel case of so many worthy and devoted
|
|
women, who, having paid what they are told is their debt to
|
|
society--having brought up a family blamelessly to manhood and
|
|
womanhood--having kept a house as long as they had a house needing
|
|
to be kept--are deserted by the sole occupation for which they have
|
|
fitted themselves; and remain with undiminished activity but with
|
|
no employment for it, unless perhaps a daughter or daughter-in-law
|
|
is willing to abdicate in their favour the discharge of the same
|
|
functions in her younger household. Surely a hard lot for the old
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|
age of those who have worthily discharged, as long as it was given
|
|
to them to discharge, what the world accounts their only social
|
|
duty. Of such women, and of those others to whom this duty has not
|
|
been committed at all--many of whom pine through life with the
|
|
consciousness of thwarted vocations, and activities which are not
|
|
suffered to expand--the only resources, speaking generally, are
|
|
religion and charity. But their religion, though it may be one of
|
|
feeling, and of ceremonial observance, cannot be a religion of
|
|
action, unless in the form of charity. For charity many of them are
|
|
by nature admirably fitted; but to practise it usefully, or even
|
|
without doing mischief, requires the education, the manifold
|
|
preparation, the knowledge and the thinking powers, of a skilful
|
|
administrator. There are few of the administrative functions of
|
|
government for which a person would not be fit, who is fit to
|
|
bestow charity usefully. In this as in other cases (pre-eminently
|
|
in that of the education of children), the duties permitted to
|
|
women cannot be performed properly, without their being trained for
|
|
duties which, to the great loss of society, are not permitted to
|
|
them. And here let me notice the singular way in which the question
|
|
of women's disabilities is frequently presented to view, by those
|
|
who find it easier to draw a ludicrous picture of what they do not
|
|
like, than to answer the arguments for it. When it is suggested
|
|
that women's executive capacities and prudent counsels might
|
|
sometimes be found valuable in affairs of State, these lovers of
|
|
fun hold up to the ridicule of the world, as sitting in Parliament
|
|
or in the Cabinet, girls in their teens, or young wives of two or
|
|
three and twenty, transported bodily, exactly as they are, from the
|
|
drawing-room to the House of Commons. They forget that males are
|
|
not usually selected at this early age for a seat in Parliament, or
|
|
for responsible political functions. Common sense would tell them
|
|
that if such trusts were confided to women, it would be to such as
|
|
having no special vocation for married life, or preferring another
|
|
employment of their faculties (as many women even now prefer to
|
|
marriage some of the few honourable occupations within their
|
|
reach), have spent the best years of their youth in attempting to
|
|
qualify themselves for the pursuits in which they desire to engage;
|
|
or still more frequently perhaps, widows or wives of forty or
|
|
fifty, by whom the know- ledge of life and faculty of government
|
|
which they have acquired in their families, could by the aid of
|
|
appropriate studies be made available on a less contracted scale.
|
|
There is no country of Europe in which the ablest men have not
|
|
frequently experienced, and keenly appreciated, the value of the
|
|
advice and help of clever and experienced women of the world, in
|
|
the attainment both of private and of public objects; and there are
|
|
important matters of public administration to which few men are
|
|
equally competent with such women; among others, the detailed
|
|
control of expenditure. But what we are now discussing is not the
|
|
need which society has of the services of women in public business,
|
|
but the dull and hopeless life to which it so often condemns them,
|
|
by forbidding them to exercise the practical abilities which many
|
|
of them are conscious of, in any wider field than one which to some
|
|
of them never was, and to others is no longer, open. If there is
|
|
anything vitally important to the happiness of human beings, it is
|
|
that they should relish their habitual pursuit. This requisite of
|
|
an enjoyable life is very imperfectly granted, or altogether
|
|
denied, to a large part of mankind; and by its absence many a life
|
|
is a failure, which is provided, in appearance, with every
|
|
requisite of success. But if circumstances which society is not yet
|
|
skilful enough to overcome, render such failures often for the
|
|
present inevitable, society need not itself inflict them. The
|
|
injudiciousness of parents, a youth's own inexperience, or the
|
|
absence of external opportunities for the congenial vocation, and
|
|
their presence for an uncongenial, condemn numbers of men to pass
|
|
their lives in doing one thing reluctantly and ill, when there are
|
|
other things which they could have done well and happily. But on
|
|
women this sentence is imposed by actual law, and by customs
|
|
equivalent to law. What, in unenlightened societies, colour, race,
|
|
religion, or in the case of a conquered country, nationality, are
|
|
to some men, sex is to all women; a peremptory exclusion from
|
|
almost all honourable occupations, but either such as cannot be
|
|
fulfilled by others, or such as those others do not think worthy of
|
|
their acceptance. Sufferings arising from causes of this nature
|
|
usually meet with so little sympathy, that few persons are aware of
|
|
the great amount of unhappiness even now produced by the feeling of
|
|
a wasted life. The case will be even more frequent, as increased
|
|
cultivation creates a greater and greater disproportion between the
|
|
ideas and faculties- of women, and the scope which society allows
|
|
to their activity. When we consider the positive evil caused to
|
|
the disqualified half of the human race by their
|
|
disqualification--first in the loss of the most inspiriting and
|
|
elevating kind of personal enjoyment, and next in the weariness,
|
|
disappointment, and profound dissatisfaction with life, which are
|
|
so often the substitute for it; one feels that among all the
|
|
lessons which men require for carrying on the struggle against the
|
|
inevitable imperfections of their lot on earth, there is no lesson
|
|
which they more need, than not to add to the evils which nature
|
|
inflicts, by their jealous and prejudiced restrictions on one
|
|
another. Their vain fears only substitute other and worse evils for
|
|
those which they are idly apprehensive of: while every restraint on
|
|
the freedom of conduct of any of their human fellow-creatures
|
|
(otherwise than by making them responsible for any evil actually
|
|
caused by it), dries up pro tanto the principal fountain of human
|
|
happiness, and leaves the species less rich, to an inappreciable
|
|
degree, in all that makes life valuable to the individual human
|
|
being.
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[End]
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