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SUBJECT: CAN THIS MARRIAGE BE SAVED?/UFOs & ABDUCTEES FILE: UFO2837
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BY ANITA BASKIN for OMNI
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"Can This Marriage Be Saved?" is a popular advice column from the editors of
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the Ladies Home Journal. Typical topics: drug addiction, alcoholism, and money
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squabbles. But the editors shouldn't be surprised if they start receiving mail
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from the spouses of UFO abductees, because alien abductions are testing the
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ties that bind.
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"A husband whose wife has been abducted may feel angry," says Budd Hopkins,
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the author of two books on UFOs. "He may think, I can't protect my wife." Adds
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Hopkins, "Wives also feel angry and unloved."
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Take Deb Hill, who works with her husband in their product-testing laboratory.
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Deb's angst stems from her inability to help her husband during abductions
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which, in his case, can occur as often as three times a month. "I'm especially
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upset by the sexual activity, resulting in hybrid offspring," she says. "What
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the aliens do to John is tantamount to rape."
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To deal with such feelings, Deb recently attended an abductee support group
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run by Temple University historian and UFO author David Jacobs. "I needed to
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hear from other abductees that sex with aliens is very mechanical," she
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explains.
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Animosity, even Jealousy, are in fact common responses to a spouse's
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abduction, according to Dr. Bill Cone, a California psychologist who has
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treated numerous abductees. "Some people get very hostile, and I've seen
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several abductee couples divorce."
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As a result of al this marital tension, UFO researchers find themselves
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playing marriage counselor to abductees. "I advise people to be careful with
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whom they speak about their abductions," says Budd Hopkins, "because going
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public can exacerbate an already bad situation. Often, a spouse will be
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tolerated if this doesn't get out to the neighbors."
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But even those who couldn't care less what the neighbors think find that
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problems abound. Steve and Linda don't care what the neighbors think, but
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they're still having problems. "My marriage is not on the rocks, but it's not
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what it used to be," says Linda, who has received extensive national publicity
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about her alleged ET encounters. "Steve was more affectionate before the
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abductions started."
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"She doesn't pay as much attention to me as she used to," counters husband
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Steve. "I fell that all the media attention has taken my wife away from me."
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Often, when a marriage has been teetering under the weight of other problems,
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abduction does it in. "Our marriage was in trouble to begin with," admits 42-
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year-old Jeff. "But my wife used my abductions as one excuse to leave me."
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Jeff's ex-wife is also using his abductions against him in the pending custody
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case for their five-year-old son. "We had to take psychological evaluations,"
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says Jeff. "My tests showed me to be normal, so my abductions were the only
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things her lawyer could find to put me in a bad light. She almost didn't have
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a child with me in the first place," he adds, "because she was afraid the
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child might be abducted."
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Some marriages have actually been strengthened by abduction. Deb Hill says she
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now "feels good that my husband trusts me enough to share these experiences
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with me. That helps us turn this into something positive."
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Still, Dr. Cone believes that while many abductees are psychologically well-
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adjusted, "some of these people are actually suffering from identity disorders
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and have difficulty telling reality from fantasy and dreams. Even if they
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hadn't gone through the abduction experience, it is possible that they would
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be having trouble in their marriages today."
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* THE U.F.O. BBS - http://www.ufobbs.com/ufo *
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