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What does sexual deviancy mean? Is it better than "normal" sex?
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What if I'm content with "normal" sex -- am I not radical then?
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Should I keep quiet about my desires if they might shock you ? If I
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think about it enough, will it make me want to do it? Are fantasies
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based on desire? Is a fantasy ever "wrong"? Are my desires my own
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or have they been fed to me -- am I sexually brainwashed? Does the
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expressed acceptable sexual imagery around me sum up my desires?
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How much of my life is eroticisedAre male and female fantasies and
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desires the same? A world apart? If they are a world apart can I
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ever have a truely connected and satisfying heterosexual sexual
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relationship? Are sex and emotion connected? Seperate? Is sex
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love? Solo sex - only a substitute for "real" sex, or "real" sex in
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and of itself? Is it to share with my partner, or only appropriate
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when I'm not in a relationship? Sex in a relationship -- better
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than sex 'no strings attached'? The other way around? Are orgasms
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the beall and endall? Can I take them further? Make them better?
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Is it possible for me to de-emphasize them in my sexual encounters?
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Hetero, homo, bi-? Omni-sexual or just SEXUAL? Can I be one one
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day, another the next and yet another ten years from now? Will you
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let me without giving me shit? Am I sexually open and free? Will I
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ever be sexually liberated? What is sexual lliberation? Does
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capitalism set the pace for the sexual revolution? If I love and
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kiss, play and fuck too much, will I forget about the class
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struggle? Why are some sex radicals I see so politically
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conservative? How do others from my class and from other classes
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experience their sexuality differently and similarly as me? Why are
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riots so erotic? Can I still be a feminist and have desires of
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submission and fantasies of rape? Will these disappear come
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revolucion glorioso? Will sexual play with power disappear in an
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anarchist society? What will sex look like in anarchy? Why is sex
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so facinating? Why do we always seek it? Is it worth all the
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energy, time and thought put into it? Is it worth all this???
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* That was the sidebar text of the publicity leaflet produced for
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the contraFLOW benifit cafe we held on the 28th May at the sex
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parlour surroundings of the famous 121 Anarchist Centre in Brixton.
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In case you don't know, we have a benefit every last Sunday of the
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month there, each one with acts and food and videos based around a
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different theme. Anyway, May's cafe (trumpets sound!!!) the SEX CAFE
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was basically our attempt to out some anarchist sexual desire and
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perversion, get a little confessional thing going on, admit to some
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serious stuff, you know.
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Early on, we dedcided that we were dead against the Sex Cafe
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re-inforcing traditional definitions and labels of sexuality, those
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descriptions of our sex lives or our rigid politicial lifestyles
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that limit, mentally and physically, what exciting and weird sex
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antics we want to enjoy. It's important to us to understand that
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today we may enjoy fucking with men, with women another year, back
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to men on Monday, masturbating with our pillowns all next year and
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then maybe giving it all up for stamp collecting of something. To
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aid this, we got together a bunch of videos and acts that talked it
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like they walked it. Sex is there, they said, most of us do it and
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most of us enjoy it, so why don't we ever loosen up and talk about
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it. If we're not getting any and that's driving us nuts then
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shouldn't we chat about that too? Just being able to spend six hours
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in a place where you were encouraged to let it all hang out,
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verbally or literally, is such a refreshing change. For once, we
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could talk openly about our sexy desires and realities and not be
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embarrassed or feel politically wrong or judged by our 'scene' and
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that's a time spent feeling empowered, temporarily free form the
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gossips, the rumour-mongers the be-littlers who seem to have a
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problem with our self-expression.
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Watching the comfort levels of people dealing with our in-your-face
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style was fascinating. Some people just handled the "contraFLOW
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Benefit Hand-Jobs...only 5 quid" sign, others were a bit disturbed.
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Some people sniggered a lot, others got into the spirit of it all.
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In the end, no one rung the bell for a session so we didn't have to
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bluff our way through that and no-one paid 50p for a peep at our
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contraFLOW members live sex act despite it really happening in a
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discrete silk-lined booth below the stairs. You blew it folks, and
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so did we!! Other contraFLOW members got to consider a change of
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career too with their sterling performance as the Anarko-Dales, the
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lithe young anarchist dance troupe that whipped the crowd up into a
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virtual sneeze with their sexy strip show. Masked-up anarchist boys
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may never seem sexy again. Wah! A load of people sat quite happily
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through the hour long video of male genital massage or the Betty
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Dodson art of female masturbation film. Annie Sprinkle's "Sluts And
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Goddesses" movie with its six minute orgasms, female ejaculation and
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polysexual perversity went down well too. Another contraFLOW member
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sung a song about inadequacy, some poets diid some...er, poems and
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some folks did sexy readings too. We even had a couple fo serious
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wrkshops, one for men and one for women. The men ummed and ahhed
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around the question of "love, sex and emotions - what do mehn really
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want and is that alright?", trying to hide the issues in a cloud of
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class anaylisis (but that was stamped on after half an hour!) whilst
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the women's discussion on "fakin' it, wanking it and other secrets"
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remained fairly reserved, some saying they had a difficult time
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opening up to stranges about such personal issues. Two self-defined
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feminist women discussed tehir experience of rape fantasy role play,
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and whether it contradicted their feminist attack on patriarchy or
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their anarchist critique of power.
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The lack of interesting confessions garnered in our sex survey that
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we hassled every attendee to anonymously fill in was disappointing
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although we had fun reading out some of the answers as a final
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'entertainment'. Who indeed borrowed a certain Abba LP when they
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were young just so they could masturbate over the girls in the
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band's picture (They admitted they never even played the record)?
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Who was it that scored at a out-of-doors political event, blissfully
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fucking under the moon and the stars? and who amongst us concluded
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that a "revolution" is all that is necessary to sort out our sexual
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problems?
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Anyway, it was a challenge to organise and we had a lot of fun. It
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didn't get too bogged down in detail or too 'shock horror....aren't
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we so cool' either. We wanted the cafe and the questions above to
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kick in a little something to our weirdlyu represed society and
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'scene' to free up a little time and space inour heads about our
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desires and fetishes and to jug around with the things that
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'revolutionary' debates around sexuality don't usually encompass. If
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you missed it, you missed a good effort. Thanks to those that came. |