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The following report is from O Timothy magazine, Volume 8, Issue 8, 1991. O
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PSYCHOLOGICAL SAVIOR
AN EXAMINATION OF THE TEACHING OF DR. JAMES DOBSON
By Martin & Deidre Bobgan
[The following consists of extracts from the book by Martin and Deidre
Bobgan--Prophets of Psychoheresy II, available from Eastgate
Publishers, 4137 Primavera Road, Santa Barbara, Calif. 93110. This 310-page
book critiques the teaching of James Dobson. All notes and references have
been omitted from this article; for these we refer our readers to the book.
We fear that New Evangelical ministries such as Dobson's are one of the
greatest dangers to fundamental churches today. Through these psychology
ministries New Evangelical thought and compromise is getting its head into
the tent of fundamentalism.
[We don't deny that Dobson has done much good. But that a ministry does
good is no excuse for ignoring the error it promotes. We must remember that
the great error with New Evangelicalism is not so much what it preaches,
but what it DOES NOT preach. New Evangelical leaders will preach
Christ crucified and will preach many sound Bible doctrines, but they
WILL NOT preach against wickedness such as Romanism, and they
WILL NOT separate from error. Brethren, if something is contrary to
the Word of God, do not excuse it and apologize for it; reject it!]
Dr. James C. Dobson is one of the most influential spokespersons in the
evangelical spectrum of Christianity. Millions of Christians have listened
to his daily Focus on the Family broadcast, and over fifty million
people have viewed his Focus on the Family film series. Dobson's
books are not only best sellers, but remain on the best-seller lists for
years.
His Focus on the Family magazine and church-bulletin-inserts supply
weekly and monthly fare along with his books. His organization continues to
expand its borders with over 700 employees. Dr. Dobson may indeed be the
best-known and most respected man in twentieth-century American
Christendom!
An astounding number of Christians look to Dr. Dobson as an authority. His
opinions and advice about children, the family, marriage, and society are
held in high esteem. In fact, they are hardly considered opinions.
They are received as authoritative truth, because of the current faith in
psychology, especially when it is psychology practised by a professing
Christian.
While in past centuries such a revered position of authority among
Christians would no doubt have been held by a theologian or pastor, Dobson
came into this position through secular education.
He holds the now-coveted title of "psychologist" rather than
"theologian," although he was actually trained in education. He
earned a Ph.D. in Education with a major in Child Development from the
University of Southern California. According to the State of California
Psychology Examining Committee, Dr. Dobson holds a general license. He
chose "educational psychology" as his area of competency when he
completed his oral examination in 1968. Under the license requirements he
has the right to use the title "licensed psychologist" in
California.
A REVERED TITLE
Countless Christians look to Dobson as an authority on all matters of life
and conduct because he carries both titles: "psychologist" and
"Christian."
Dr. Dobson uses the story-telling mode, which not only keeps his readers
interested but gives a seeming reality to everything he says. Rather than
relying on research, which may actually prove just the opposite of some of
his conclusions, he uses case histories which emphasize and especially
dramatize the points he wants to make. By avoiding certain theological
doctrines and questions, he has made himself welcome in a great variety of
religious settings. [Editor--An example of this is his popularity among
Roman Catholics. See the frame on page five about Dobson's article in the
Catholic New Covenant magazine.]
Dobson's first book, Dare to Discipline, was a breath of fresh air
to Christian parents who were lost in the fog of permissiveness as promoted
by secular psychologists and educators. He rightly criticized the
proponents of permissiveness and their humanistic philosophy which allowed
a child to do almost whatever it wanted with the idea that eventually it
would respond positively to the parents' tolerance, patience, and
permissiveness.
Christians who were familiar with child-rearing admonitions in Scripture
were uncomfortable with the teachings of permissiveness. They were relieved
to find a readable book by a Christian educator and psychologist who seemed
to teach biblical methods of child-rearing. Here was a licensed
psychologist confirming what conservative Christian parents believed to be
right.
Dobson was not just some "lowly" pastor teaching about raising
children from a biblical perspective. He was a "psychologist" who
could give authoritative, pragmatic, psychological reasons and methods for
disciplining children. He was a psychologist who could stand up to those
other psychologists who had been preaching the permissive way.
Dobson quickly endeared himself to mothers and fathers all over the nation.
Dare to Discipline gave Christian parents the courage to discipline
with spanking. It gave them a psychological rationale for a biblical method
of child training.
Dr. Dobson's teaching also presents a strong emotional appeal to women. He
encourages mothers who elect to stay at home with their young children
instead of being pressured to have another career. He takes a strong stand
on the importance of the parent-child relationship.
In a superbly-folksy, down-home manner he gives assurance and counsel to
wives and mothers, endearing himself to them with remarks such as these:
"To the exhausted and harassed new mother, let me say, `Hang tough! You
are doing the most important job in the universe!' ... I am
especially sympathetic with the mother who is raising a toddler or two and
an infant at the same time. There is no more difficult assignment on the
face of the earth."
HORROR STORIES
Here is a man who appears to understand the trials and tribulations of
womanhood. And, here is a man who attempted to assist women by writing the
book, What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew about Women.
Dr. Dobson also engenders just enough fear to make women insecure about
rearing children without his psychological understanding and teaching. One
of his methods is through telling horror stories. He dramatizes the story
of Lee Harvey Oswald's life to illustrate his point that inferiority and
low self-esteem lead to disaster.
Such stories of extreme situations of parental failure and childhood
disaster capture attention. They also create fear that if parents don't do
everything right [according to Christian psychology's methodology], their
children may have similar catastrophes.
After listing ways by which a child's self-esteem can be damaged, Dobson
says: "...whereas a child can lose self-esteem in a thousand ways, the
careful reconstruction of his personal worth is usually a slow, difficult
process."
Even his choice of words, such as "irreparable damage," "there is no
escape," and the "damaged" child can engender fear in the heart of every
caring parent.
Psychological counselors who are also professing Christians contend that
the Bible does not speak to every situation and therefore needs certain
supplementation or integration with so-called psychological truths. There
is an assumption that psychological theories contain truths that the Bible
somehow missed.
FAITH IN PSYCHOLOGY
Dr. Dobson's faith in psychology can be seen throughout his books. He
quotes numerous psychologists as authorities and recommends their books.
Among the psychologists he cites authoritatively are Sigmund Freud, B.F.
Skinner, E.L. Thorndike, William Glasser, and Stanley Coopersmith.
Throughout his books he recommends professional counseling. Moreover,
Focus on the Family has become a vast referral system for Christians
to be therapized by professional, psychologically-trained counselors. The
staff at Focus on the Family refer those seeking a counselor to
licensed therapists only. This excludes pastoral counselors who do
not hold those degrees and licenses which require extensive course work in
psychology.
Our culture has come to view problems of living psychologically. Rather
than looking at problems from a biblical viewpoint, many Christians have
also come to perceive problems from a psychological perspective.
A good example of this is the opening illustration of Dobson's book Hide or
Seek: How to Build Self-Esteem in Your Child. In his graphic story-telling
mode, Dobson says:
"He began his life with all the classic handicaps and disadvantages. His
mother was a powerfully built, dominating woman who found it difficult to
love anyone."
He then proceeds to tell about this mother's lack of affection, love, and
discipline, and then of the rejection the young man experienced throughout
his life. He tells about the boy's school failures, how he was laughed at
and ridiculed in the Marines, how he therefore resisted authority, and how
he was dishonorably discharged. Dobson continues the pathetic story of this
supposed victim of circumstances with "no sense of worthiness."
Then, after describing the man's bad marriage, Dobson writes: "No one
wanted him. No one had ever wanted him. He was perhaps the most rejected
man of our time. His ego lay shattered in a fragmented dust!"
Near the end of the story, the man's identity is revealed. He was President
Kennedy's assassin. Dobson concludes:
"Lee Harvey Oswald, the rejected, unlovable failure, killed the man who,
more than any other man on earth, embodied all the success, beauty, wealth,
and family affection which he lacked. In firing that rifle, he utilized the
one skill he had learned in his entire, miserable lifetime."
Dobson wrote the story of Lee Harvey Oswald to make a strong point
concerning feelings of inferiority and low self-esteem that Dobson believes
are rampant among youth. He concludes the story with these words:
"Thus, much of the rebellion, discontent, and hostility of the teenage
years emanates from overwhelming, uncontrollable feelings of inferiority
and inadequacy which rarely find verbal expression."
Dobson's description of Oswald's life reveals a psychological viewpoint
influenced by underlying ideologies of the Freudian unconscious Adlerian
inferiority, and the humanistic belief in the intrinsic goodness of man and
the universal victimization of the individual by parents and society.
The culprit is society (mainly parents) and the diagnosis is low self-
esteem with feelings of inferiority and inadequacy. In fact, those feelings
are presented as overwhelming and uncontrollable and thus causing
rebellion. Therefore the universal solution to personal problems,
rebellion, unhappiness, and hostility presented throughout Dobson's books
is raising self-esteem.
While Dobson is careful to say that Oswald must still be held responsible
for his criminal behavior, the thrust of the story emphasizes a kind of
psychic determinism which led to his horrendous crime. In other words,
Oswald is seen as a victim of circumstances and society.
CAUSE OF MISERY
The primary point Dobson dramatizes is that if a person develops feelings
of inferiority and low self-esteem he will have a miserable life which
could lead in the same disastrous direction as Oswald's. He says:
"The greater tragedy is that Lee Harvey Oswald's plight is not unusual in
America today. While others may respond less aggressively, this same
consuming awareness of inadequacy can be seen in every avenue of life."
Therefore, the preventive medicine for society which Dobson presents
throughout Hide or Seek is strategies for developing self-esteem and self-
worth.
A DIFFERENT VIEW
Psychological solutions often seem to make sense when the problem is
presented from a psychological viewpoint. However, is there possibly
another way for Christians to look at such a life of misery and violence?
What if the story had been written from a biblical, Christian perspective?
One might say that the boy was born to a godless woman who neither cared
for God nor for His gift of a child, a woman who exhibited the fruit of the
flesh, who herself had either never heard of or else rebelled against the
Gospel of Jesus Christ, Who was her only hope of salvation.
Thus she brought up her son in the same sinful manner in which she herself
lived, rather than in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Rather than
teaching him the love of God through words and actions, she taught him her
own evil ways of rebellion, blame, frustration, despair, and hopelessness.
One might conclude that since she did not know the Savior, she was her own
god, pursuing her own will and not caring a whit for others. Does not the
Bible tell us about such a life lived according to the sin nature? (See,
for example, Romans 1:21-32 and Ephesians 4:17-19.)
Then as Oswald continued his life in this world, he also depended upon his
own flesh. Evidently at no time in his life did he believe the Gospel and
receive new life, for true faith in Jesus does transform a person's life
from darkness into light, from despair to hope, from alienation into a love
relationship that surpasses even the best that parents can give.
If the story is told in the context of Scripture, both the analysis and the
answers will come from an understanding of the law of God and the Gospel of
Jesus Christ. In short, the sin nature and its results are seen as the
problem.
If most Christians truly believed this, they would double their efforts
toward evangelism and discipleship, of which biblical counseling is a small
part. More would reach out to those who have been going the way of the
world, the flesh and the devil with both the Truth of God and the mercy of
God. More would be on fire for the Gospel. Instead, however, too many have
been enticed by many other gospels offered by psychology and by those
professing Christians who promote the psychological way.
Unfortunately, however, these essential truths have become relegated to the
"of-course-we-all-know-that-but..." category. They are looked upon as old-
fashioned thinking and old-fashioned terminology.
Dobson, however, views problems of living from a psychological perspective.
In fact he contends that both Oswald and the other Kennedy assassin, Sirhan
Sirhan, followed these steps to destruction:
"(1) they experienced deep-seated feelings of inferiority; (2) they sought
to cope by withdrawal and surrender; (3) their vain attempts to achieve
adequacy were miserable failures; and (4) they exploded in violence."
"HYDRAULIC MODEL"
Again, this is a combination of Alfred Adler's theories about inferiority,
Sigmund Freud's unconscious defense mechanisms, and the defunct "hydraulic
model of energy" theory. Dobson calls this last theory a "psychological
law." He says,
"Remember this psychological law: any anxiety-producing thought or
condition which cannot be expressed is almost certain to generate inner
pressure and stress."
In his book Emotions: Can You Trust Them? Dobson dramatically asserts:
"When any powerful emotion is forced from conscious thought while it is
raging full strength, it has the potential of ripping and tearing us from
within. The process by which we cram a strong feeling into the unconscious
mind is called `repression,' and it is psychologically hazardous. The
pressure that it generates will usually appear elsewhere in the form of
depression, anxiety, tension, or in an entire range of physical disorders."
Researchers refer to this particular notion as the hydraulic model of
emotions. The model says simply that if emotional energy is blocked in one
place it must be released elsewhere. However, this is only an opinion. It
is not a "psychological law" or a psychological fact.
Dr. Carol Tavris says, "Today the hydraulic model of energy has been
scientifically discredited." Nevertheless, many psychologists tend to
expand the hydraulic idea to all emotions in spite of the opposing
research. Therefore Dobson's "psychological law" is merely his Freudian
opinion, which has anyway been scientifically discredited.
Will we analyze problems according to ideologies behind secular
psychologies, or will we analyze the problem according to God's Word? Will
our solutions and goals be based upon psychological theories and the so-
called hierarchy of needs (including the need for self-esteem), or will our
solutions and goals be biblical?
Will we look to human strategies for overcoming the problems identified by
Dobson as low self-esteem and inferiority? Or will we trust God's ways of
transforming sinners into saints through His Word and His Spirit, thereby
enabling Christians to walk according to the Spirit rather than the flesh?
Dr. Dobson's counsel is seldom based on the simple fact that God commands
something. More usually, his counsel is pragmatic. It is based on the
premise that something which works which is good for someone must be
approved of.
Dobson's pragmatic appeal can be seen throughout his work. His apparent
reason for teaching parents to discipline their children is that it works.
He quotes Jack London's words: "The best measurement of anything should be:
does it work?" The reason is pragmatism. And, although he brings God into
the picture by saying that properly applied discipline will help teach out
children about God, he does not give God's will as the primary reason for
disciplining children.
Elsewhere he says: "The most magnificent theory ever devised for the
control of behavior is called the `Law of Reinforcement,' formulated many
years ago by the first educational psychologist, E.L. Thorndike. This is
magnificent because it works!" (Emphasis added.) He says, "Good discipline
is brought about by the intelligent application of this principle of
reinforcement."
Dobson has great confidence in the Thorndike Law of Reinforcement, which he
quotes: "Behavior which achieves desirable consequences will recur."
To illustrate the usefulness of reinforcement, Dobson tells how marvelously
well this Law of Reinforcement worked on his dog, and that makes sense,
because E.L. Thorndike was an animal psychologist, best known for his work
in animal learning. He developed the "law of effect" and is in the same
tradition as behaviorists Ivan Pavlov and John B. Watson. Such behaviorism
views humans as highly evolved animals. (The book Theories of Personality
refers to Thorndike's law of effect as a "hedonistic formulation.")
ANIMAL PSYCHOLOGY
Dobson evidently believes that what works with dogs will work with human
beings. In other words, he is recommending that, when it comes to training
and discipline, parents should treat their children like animals. Dobson
declares: "Rewards are not only useful in shaping animal behavior; they
succeed even better with humans." He comes to his conclusions regarding
rewards from animal psychology rather than from the Bible.
Dobson then presents this psychological theory as fact. He says, "It is an
absolute fact that unreinforced behavior will eventually disappear. This
process, called extinction by psychologists, can be very useful to parents
and teachers who want to alter the characteristics of children."
While this may be true of animals it is not always true of people. Because
of the complexity of sinful humanity, and because other factors enter in,
one cannot say categorically, "It is an absolute fact that..." In reality,
many people remain entrenched in unproductive activities that continue in
spite of adverse results.
It is true that Dr. Dobson opposes the teachings of certain psychologists
in his own field. Because every psychologist must choose from the various
conflicting theories available to him, each one inevitably ends up, as
Dobson does, disagreeing with other psychologists. Dobson rightly
criticizes his colleagues who promote permissiveness. He declares that
permissiveness is based upon the presuppositions (a) that people are born
good, and (b) that if they are allowed to develop with as little
interference as possible they will become wonderful people.
SECULAR WISDOM
But even though Dobson objects to these presuppositions of secular
humanism, his own promotion of self-esteem comes from the same source--from
humanistic psychologists who presuppose that people are born good, and that
when their needs for self-worth, self-esteem, and self-actualization are
met they will be good people. Dobson picks from the same tree as the
promoters of permissiveness and offers the fruit to fellow Christians.
Dr. Dobson, however, claims a biblical source for his teaching. He says:
"How do my writings differ from the unsupported recommendations of those
whom I have criticized? The distinction lies in the source of the views
being presented. The underlying principles expressed herein are not my own
innovative insights which would be forgotten in a brief season or two.
Instead, they originated with the inspired biblical writers who gave us the
foundation for all relationships in the home."
This is an extremely important point which requires examination. We know
that Dobson thinks that his source is the Bible, and yet the Bible does not
teach a number of the concepts that he teaches, including the so-called
needs for self-esteem, self-worth, and self-confidence.
[O Timothy Editor: The Holy Scriptures are sufficient for faith and
practice, able to "make the man of God perfect, throughly furnished until
all good works" (2 Tim. 3:16-17). Everything is to be brought to with the
touchstone of the Word of God, and that which is contrary is to be
rejected. This applies equally to false doctrine taught by a cults such as
Mormonism or Romanism, or to New Evangelical ministries such as Focus on
the Family. Beware of error which is clothed in the appearance of Bible-
believing piety and wholesomeness.]