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The following report is from O Timothy magazine, Volume 8, Issue 8, 1991. O
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PSYCHOLOGICAL SAVIOR
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AN EXAMINATION OF THE TEACHING OF DR. JAMES DOBSON
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By Martin & Deidre Bobgan
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[The following consists of extracts from the book by Martin and Deidre
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Bobgan--Prophets of Psychoheresy II, available from Eastgate
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Publishers, 4137 Primavera Road, Santa Barbara, Calif. 93110. This 310-page
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book critiques the teaching of James Dobson. All notes and references have
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been omitted from this article; for these we refer our readers to the book.
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We fear that New Evangelical ministries such as Dobson's are one of the
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greatest dangers to fundamental churches today. Through these psychology
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ministries New Evangelical thought and compromise is getting its head into
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the tent of fundamentalism.
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[We don't deny that Dobson has done much good. But that a ministry does
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good is no excuse for ignoring the error it promotes. We must remember that
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the great error with New Evangelicalism is not so much what it preaches,
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but what it DOES NOT preach. New Evangelical leaders will preach
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Christ crucified and will preach many sound Bible doctrines, but they
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WILL NOT preach against wickedness such as Romanism, and they
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WILL NOT separate from error. Brethren, if something is contrary to
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the Word of God, do not excuse it and apologize for it; reject it!]
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Dr. James C. Dobson is one of the most influential spokespersons in the
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evangelical spectrum of Christianity. Millions of Christians have listened
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to his daily Focus on the Family broadcast, and over fifty million
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people have viewed his Focus on the Family film series. Dobson's
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books are not only best sellers, but remain on the best-seller lists for
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years.
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His Focus on the Family magazine and church-bulletin-inserts supply
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weekly and monthly fare along with his books. His organization continues to
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expand its borders with over 700 employees. Dr. Dobson may indeed be the
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best-known and most respected man in twentieth-century American
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Christendom!
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An astounding number of Christians look to Dr. Dobson as an authority. His
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opinions and advice about children, the family, marriage, and society are
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held in high esteem. In fact, they are hardly considered opinions.
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They are received as authoritative truth, because of the current faith in
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psychology, especially when it is psychology practised by a professing
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Christian.
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While in past centuries such a revered position of authority among
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Christians would no doubt have been held by a theologian or pastor, Dobson
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came into this position through secular education.
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He holds the now-coveted title of "psychologist" rather than
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"theologian," although he was actually trained in education. He
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earned a Ph.D. in Education with a major in Child Development from the
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University of Southern California. According to the State of California
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Psychology Examining Committee, Dr. Dobson holds a general license. He
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chose "educational psychology" as his area of competency when he
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completed his oral examination in 1968. Under the license requirements he
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has the right to use the title "licensed psychologist" in
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California.
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A REVERED TITLE
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Countless Christians look to Dobson as an authority on all matters of life
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and conduct because he carries both titles: "psychologist" and
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"Christian."
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Dr. Dobson uses the story-telling mode, which not only keeps his readers
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interested but gives a seeming reality to everything he says. Rather than
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relying on research, which may actually prove just the opposite of some of
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his conclusions, he uses case histories which emphasize and especially
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dramatize the points he wants to make. By avoiding certain theological
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doctrines and questions, he has made himself welcome in a great variety of
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religious settings. [Editor--An example of this is his popularity among
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Roman Catholics. See the frame on page five about Dobson's article in the
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Catholic New Covenant magazine.]
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Dobson's first book, Dare to Discipline, was a breath of fresh air
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to Christian parents who were lost in the fog of permissiveness as promoted
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by secular psychologists and educators. He rightly criticized the
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proponents of permissiveness and their humanistic philosophy which allowed
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a child to do almost whatever it wanted with the idea that eventually it
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would respond positively to the parents' tolerance, patience, and
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permissiveness.
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Christians who were familiar with child-rearing admonitions in Scripture
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were uncomfortable with the teachings of permissiveness. They were relieved
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to find a readable book by a Christian educator and psychologist who seemed
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to teach biblical methods of child-rearing. Here was a licensed
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psychologist confirming what conservative Christian parents believed to be
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right.
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Dobson was not just some "lowly" pastor teaching about raising
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children from a biblical perspective. He was a "psychologist" who
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could give authoritative, pragmatic, psychological reasons and methods for
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disciplining children. He was a psychologist who could stand up to those
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other psychologists who had been preaching the permissive way.
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Dobson quickly endeared himself to mothers and fathers all over the nation.
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Dare to Discipline gave Christian parents the courage to discipline
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with spanking. It gave them a psychological rationale for a biblical method
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of child training.
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Dr. Dobson's teaching also presents a strong emotional appeal to women. He
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encourages mothers who elect to stay at home with their young children
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instead of being pressured to have another career. He takes a strong stand
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on the importance of the parent-child relationship.
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In a superbly-folksy, down-home manner he gives assurance and counsel to
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wives and mothers, endearing himself to them with remarks such as these:
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"To the exhausted and harassed new mother, let me say, `Hang tough! You
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are doing the most important job in the universe!' ... I am
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especially sympathetic with the mother who is raising a toddler or two and
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an infant at the same time. There is no more difficult assignment on the
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face of the earth."
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HORROR STORIES
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Here is a man who appears to understand the trials and tribulations of
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womanhood. And, here is a man who attempted to assist women by writing the
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book, What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew about Women.
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Dr. Dobson also engenders just enough fear to make women insecure about
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rearing children without his psychological understanding and teaching. One
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of his methods is through telling horror stories. He dramatizes the story
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of Lee Harvey Oswald's life to illustrate his point that inferiority and
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low self-esteem lead to disaster.
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Such stories of extreme situations of parental failure and childhood
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disaster capture attention. They also create fear that if parents don't do
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everything right [according to Christian psychology's methodology], their
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children may have similar catastrophes.
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After listing ways by which a child's self-esteem can be damaged, Dobson
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says: "...whereas a child can lose self-esteem in a thousand ways, the
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careful reconstruction of his personal worth is usually a slow, difficult
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process."
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Even his choice of words, such as "irreparable damage," "there is no
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escape," and the "damaged" child can engender fear in the heart of every
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caring parent.
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Psychological counselors who are also professing Christians contend that
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the Bible does not speak to every situation and therefore needs certain
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supplementation or integration with so-called psychological truths. There
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is an assumption that psychological theories contain truths that the Bible
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somehow missed.
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FAITH IN PSYCHOLOGY
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Dr. Dobson's faith in psychology can be seen throughout his books. He
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quotes numerous psychologists as authorities and recommends their books.
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Among the psychologists he cites authoritatively are Sigmund Freud, B.F.
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Skinner, E.L. Thorndike, William Glasser, and Stanley Coopersmith.
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Throughout his books he recommends professional counseling. Moreover,
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Focus on the Family has become a vast referral system for Christians
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to be therapized by professional, psychologically-trained counselors. The
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staff at Focus on the Family refer those seeking a counselor to
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licensed therapists only. This excludes pastoral counselors who do
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not hold those degrees and licenses which require extensive course work in
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psychology.
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Our culture has come to view problems of living psychologically. Rather
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than looking at problems from a biblical viewpoint, many Christians have
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also come to perceive problems from a psychological perspective.
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A good example of this is the opening illustration of Dobson's book Hide or
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Seek: How to Build Self-Esteem in Your Child. In his graphic story-telling
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mode, Dobson says:
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"He began his life with all the classic handicaps and disadvantages. His
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mother was a powerfully built, dominating woman who found it difficult to
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love anyone."
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He then proceeds to tell about this mother's lack of affection, love, and
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discipline, and then of the rejection the young man experienced throughout
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his life. He tells about the boy's school failures, how he was laughed at
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and ridiculed in the Marines, how he therefore resisted authority, and how
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he was dishonorably discharged. Dobson continues the pathetic story of this
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supposed victim of circumstances with "no sense of worthiness."
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Then, after describing the man's bad marriage, Dobson writes: "No one
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wanted him. No one had ever wanted him. He was perhaps the most rejected
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man of our time. His ego lay shattered in a fragmented dust!"
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Near the end of the story, the man's identity is revealed. He was President
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Kennedy's assassin. Dobson concludes:
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"Lee Harvey Oswald, the rejected, unlovable failure, killed the man who,
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more than any other man on earth, embodied all the success, beauty, wealth,
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and family affection which he lacked. In firing that rifle, he utilized the
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one skill he had learned in his entire, miserable lifetime."
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Dobson wrote the story of Lee Harvey Oswald to make a strong point
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concerning feelings of inferiority and low self-esteem that Dobson believes
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are rampant among youth. He concludes the story with these words:
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"Thus, much of the rebellion, discontent, and hostility of the teenage
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years emanates from overwhelming, uncontrollable feelings of inferiority
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and inadequacy which rarely find verbal expression."
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Dobson's description of Oswald's life reveals a psychological viewpoint
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influenced by underlying ideologies of the Freudian unconscious Adlerian
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inferiority, and the humanistic belief in the intrinsic goodness of man and
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the universal victimization of the individual by parents and society.
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The culprit is society (mainly parents) and the diagnosis is low self-
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esteem with feelings of inferiority and inadequacy. In fact, those feelings
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are presented as overwhelming and uncontrollable and thus causing
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rebellion. Therefore the universal solution to personal problems,
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rebellion, unhappiness, and hostility presented throughout Dobson's books
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is raising self-esteem.
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While Dobson is careful to say that Oswald must still be held responsible
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for his criminal behavior, the thrust of the story emphasizes a kind of
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psychic determinism which led to his horrendous crime. In other words,
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Oswald is seen as a victim of circumstances and society.
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CAUSE OF MISERY
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The primary point Dobson dramatizes is that if a person develops feelings
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of inferiority and low self-esteem he will have a miserable life which
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could lead in the same disastrous direction as Oswald's. He says:
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"The greater tragedy is that Lee Harvey Oswald's plight is not unusual in
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America today. While others may respond less aggressively, this same
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consuming awareness of inadequacy can be seen in every avenue of life."
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Therefore, the preventive medicine for society which Dobson presents
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throughout Hide or Seek is strategies for developing self-esteem and self-
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worth.
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A DIFFERENT VIEW
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Psychological solutions often seem to make sense when the problem is
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presented from a psychological viewpoint. However, is there possibly
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another way for Christians to look at such a life of misery and violence?
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What if the story had been written from a biblical, Christian perspective?
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One might say that the boy was born to a godless woman who neither cared
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for God nor for His gift of a child, a woman who exhibited the fruit of the
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flesh, who herself had either never heard of or else rebelled against the
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Gospel of Jesus Christ, Who was her only hope of salvation.
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Thus she brought up her son in the same sinful manner in which she herself
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lived, rather than in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Rather than
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teaching him the love of God through words and actions, she taught him her
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own evil ways of rebellion, blame, frustration, despair, and hopelessness.
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One might conclude that since she did not know the Savior, she was her own
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god, pursuing her own will and not caring a whit for others. Does not the
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Bible tell us about such a life lived according to the sin nature? (See,
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for example, Romans 1:21-32 and Ephesians 4:17-19.)
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Then as Oswald continued his life in this world, he also depended upon his
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own flesh. Evidently at no time in his life did he believe the Gospel and
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receive new life, for true faith in Jesus does transform a person's life
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from darkness into light, from despair to hope, from alienation into a love
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relationship that surpasses even the best that parents can give.
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If the story is told in the context of Scripture, both the analysis and the
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answers will come from an understanding of the law of God and the Gospel of
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Jesus Christ. In short, the sin nature and its results are seen as the
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problem.
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If most Christians truly believed this, they would double their efforts
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toward evangelism and discipleship, of which biblical counseling is a small
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part. More would reach out to those who have been going the way of the
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world, the flesh and the devil with both the Truth of God and the mercy of
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God. More would be on fire for the Gospel. Instead, however, too many have
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been enticed by many other gospels offered by psychology and by those
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professing Christians who promote the psychological way.
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Unfortunately, however, these essential truths have become relegated to the
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"of-course-we-all-know-that-but..." category. They are looked upon as old-
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fashioned thinking and old-fashioned terminology.
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Dobson, however, views problems of living from a psychological perspective.
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In fact he contends that both Oswald and the other Kennedy assassin, Sirhan
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Sirhan, followed these steps to destruction:
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"(1) they experienced deep-seated feelings of inferiority; (2) they sought
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to cope by withdrawal and surrender; (3) their vain attempts to achieve
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adequacy were miserable failures; and (4) they exploded in violence."
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"HYDRAULIC MODEL"
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Again, this is a combination of Alfred Adler's theories about inferiority,
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Sigmund Freud's unconscious defense mechanisms, and the defunct "hydraulic
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model of energy" theory. Dobson calls this last theory a "psychological
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law." He says,
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"Remember this psychological law: any anxiety-producing thought or
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condition which cannot be expressed is almost certain to generate inner
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pressure and stress."
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In his book Emotions: Can You Trust Them? Dobson dramatically asserts:
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"When any powerful emotion is forced from conscious thought while it is
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raging full strength, it has the potential of ripping and tearing us from
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within. The process by which we cram a strong feeling into the unconscious
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mind is called `repression,' and it is psychologically hazardous. The
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pressure that it generates will usually appear elsewhere in the form of
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depression, anxiety, tension, or in an entire range of physical disorders."
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Researchers refer to this particular notion as the hydraulic model of
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emotions. The model says simply that if emotional energy is blocked in one
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place it must be released elsewhere. However, this is only an opinion. It
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is not a "psychological law" or a psychological fact.
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Dr. Carol Tavris says, "Today the hydraulic model of energy has been
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scientifically discredited." Nevertheless, many psychologists tend to
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expand the hydraulic idea to all emotions in spite of the opposing
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research. Therefore Dobson's "psychological law" is merely his Freudian
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opinion, which has anyway been scientifically discredited.
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Will we analyze problems according to ideologies behind secular
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psychologies, or will we analyze the problem according to God's Word? Will
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our solutions and goals be based upon psychological theories and the so-
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called hierarchy of needs (including the need for self-esteem), or will our
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solutions and goals be biblical?
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Will we look to human strategies for overcoming the problems identified by
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Dobson as low self-esteem and inferiority? Or will we trust God's ways of
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transforming sinners into saints through His Word and His Spirit, thereby
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enabling Christians to walk according to the Spirit rather than the flesh?
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Dr. Dobson's counsel is seldom based on the simple fact that God commands
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something. More usually, his counsel is pragmatic. It is based on the
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premise that something which works which is good for someone must be
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approved of.
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Dobson's pragmatic appeal can be seen throughout his work. His apparent
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reason for teaching parents to discipline their children is that it works.
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He quotes Jack London's words: "The best measurement of anything should be:
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does it work?" The reason is pragmatism. And, although he brings God into
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the picture by saying that properly applied discipline will help teach out
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children about God, he does not give God's will as the primary reason for
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disciplining children.
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Elsewhere he says: "The most magnificent theory ever devised for the
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control of behavior is called the `Law of Reinforcement,' formulated many
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years ago by the first educational psychologist, E.L. Thorndike. This is
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magnificent because it works!" (Emphasis added.) He says, "Good discipline
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is brought about by the intelligent application of this principle of
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reinforcement."
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Dobson has great confidence in the Thorndike Law of Reinforcement, which he
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quotes: "Behavior which achieves desirable consequences will recur."
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To illustrate the usefulness of reinforcement, Dobson tells how marvelously
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well this Law of Reinforcement worked on his dog, and that makes sense,
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because E.L. Thorndike was an animal psychologist, best known for his work
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in animal learning. He developed the "law of effect" and is in the same
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tradition as behaviorists Ivan Pavlov and John B. Watson. Such behaviorism
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views humans as highly evolved animals. (The book Theories of Personality
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refers to Thorndike's law of effect as a "hedonistic formulation.")
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ANIMAL PSYCHOLOGY
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Dobson evidently believes that what works with dogs will work with human
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beings. In other words, he is recommending that, when it comes to training
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and discipline, parents should treat their children like animals. Dobson
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declares: "Rewards are not only useful in shaping animal behavior; they
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succeed even better with humans." He comes to his conclusions regarding
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rewards from animal psychology rather than from the Bible.
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Dobson then presents this psychological theory as fact. He says, "It is an
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absolute fact that unreinforced behavior will eventually disappear. This
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process, called extinction by psychologists, can be very useful to parents
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and teachers who want to alter the characteristics of children."
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While this may be true of animals it is not always true of people. Because
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of the complexity of sinful humanity, and because other factors enter in,
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one cannot say categorically, "It is an absolute fact that..." In reality,
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many people remain entrenched in unproductive activities that continue in
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spite of adverse results.
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It is true that Dr. Dobson opposes the teachings of certain psychologists
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in his own field. Because every psychologist must choose from the various
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conflicting theories available to him, each one inevitably ends up, as
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Dobson does, disagreeing with other psychologists. Dobson rightly
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criticizes his colleagues who promote permissiveness. He declares that
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permissiveness is based upon the presuppositions (a) that people are born
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good, and (b) that if they are allowed to develop with as little
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interference as possible they will become wonderful people.
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SECULAR WISDOM
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But even though Dobson objects to these presuppositions of secular
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humanism, his own promotion of self-esteem comes from the same source--from
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humanistic psychologists who presuppose that people are born good, and that
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when their needs for self-worth, self-esteem, and self-actualization are
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met they will be good people. Dobson picks from the same tree as the
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promoters of permissiveness and offers the fruit to fellow Christians.
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Dr. Dobson, however, claims a biblical source for his teaching. He says:
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"How do my writings differ from the unsupported recommendations of those
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whom I have criticized? The distinction lies in the source of the views
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being presented. The underlying principles expressed herein are not my own
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innovative insights which would be forgotten in a brief season or two.
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Instead, they originated with the inspired biblical writers who gave us the
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foundation for all relationships in the home."
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This is an extremely important point which requires examination. We know
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that Dobson thinks that his source is the Bible, and yet the Bible does not
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teach a number of the concepts that he teaches, including the so-called
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needs for self-esteem, self-worth, and self-confidence.
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[O Timothy Editor: The Holy Scriptures are sufficient for faith and
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practice, able to "make the man of God perfect, throughly furnished until
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all good works" (2 Tim. 3:16-17). Everything is to be brought to with the
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touchstone of the Word of God, and that which is contrary is to be
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rejected. This applies equally to false doctrine taught by a cults such as
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Mormonism or Romanism, or to New Evangelical ministries such as Focus on
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the Family. Beware of error which is clothed in the appearance of Bible-
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believing piety and wholesomeness.]
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